17/05/2020
Since lockdown UK, the rate of enquiries I receive about Therapy has soared. People are experiencing more and higher levels of escalating anxiety & panic - including health anxiety. CV19 has had/is a big impact on our mental health & on the activities we find helpful for coping with it e.g. going to the gym or meeting up regualarly with friends. We can all feel a bit directionless & lacking in motivation not only to keep doing things like following daily routine, but also in finding replacement actvities for those that we rely on to boost our mood. S*xual problems & compulsive behaviours are much the same. If a couple have little or no sexual relationship - the effects of that can currently be more acutely felt because we are spending more time daily with each other, (e.g. if you are in a relationship and holed up together) & for people driven to act out compulsive sexual behaviours, there is less privacy and less time to do so in a restrictive environment. I have had a number of enquiries from people feeling quite desperate because their partner/spouse has discovered their 'secret' compulsive behaviour and the proverbial has hit the fan. The one message I would like people to take away from my page is, 'You don't have to wait until your harmful behaviour has been discovered before you take action and seek help'. You will have much more credibility if you seek help before you are 'caught out'. It's a bit like the consequences of drink driving - you know Criminal Justice is on it's way. You will be stopped and brethalysed and if not there is a good chance of a fatal car crash happening. Don't let that be you. Look at yourself in the mirror, be honest, is this self-destructive behaviour something you want to continue with, (usually in a very lonely world) or is it time to stop burying your head in the sand and take positive action about - before the final crash?
