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20/07/2025

Hey Feel Free Community 🌿

Let’s talk about the real difference between advising and coaching — and why it matters when you’re creating the life you truly want.

Advisors give answers. Coaches hold space for your own wisdom to rise.

The shift from “fixing” to “witnessing,” from “talking” to “deep listening,” is subtle but powerful. Coaching isn’t about telling you what to do — it’s about helping you remember who you are.

It’s learning to sit in the silence instead of filling it.
To ask questions that unlock clarity instead of giving advice that keeps you dependent.
To hold a mirror to your inner world so you can manage your energy, choices, and truth — rather than trying to manage others.

When I shifted from advisor to coach, everything changed.
I realised I’m not here to be the expert in someone else’s life — I’m here to hold space while they become the expert in theirs.

Because when you’re truly heard, you don’t need fixing.
You need presence.
You need reflection.
You need safety to explore your own wisdom.

So whether you’re navigating change, ready to rise into a new version of yourself, or simply craving deeper alignment with who you truly are — coaching creates that sacred container where your truth becomes louder than your fears.

✨ You don’t need more advice.
You need space to come home to yourself.

And that’s where the magic lives.
That’s where transformation begins.

— Lucinda 🤍

18/07/2025

Hey Feel Free Community!

✨ The Myth of Normal by Dr. Gabor Maté is one of those books that lands deep in the body.

Let’s get into it!

We live in a world where burnout is celebrated, emotional suppression is expected, and disconnection is the norm and we call it “normal.” But as Gabor says, just because something is common doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

What we’ve normalised…the people pleasing, the hustle, the perfectionism, the numbing, these are often trauma responses in disguise. And trauma? It isn’t just the ‘big stuff.’ It’s anything that disconnects you from your true self.

This book reminds us that true healing isn’t about quick fixes or surface-level self-care. It’s about reconnection to your body, your boundaries, your emotions, your truth.

💭 Ask yourself:
• Where have I abandoned myself for approval?
• What pain am I still carrying that I haven’t named?
• Where am I still performing instead of being?

You don’t need to “get better.”
You need to come back to yourself.
To feel what you’ve been taught to avoid.
To honour what your body already knows.

You are not broken.
You’re responding exactly as a nervous system should in a dysregulated world.

The path forward?
Compassion. Awareness. Integration.
One gentle truth at a time.

✨ You don’t need to fit into a “normal” that was never designed for your wholeness.
You came here to remember who you really are.

— Lucinda 🤍

12/07/2025

Hey Feelfree Free Community!

🌟 You weren’t born to play small.

But somewhere along the way…
You were told to wait.
To be more prepared.
To be “ready.”
To be liked, approved, chosen.

Let me say this with love — that’s not your truth.

✨ You don’t need more qualifications.
✨ You don’t need to shrink your voice to fit into someone else’s box.
✨ You don’t need to wait until the fear disappears.

The fear is not a stop sign — it’s a sign you’re growing.
It’s your Inner Critic trying to keep you safe. But your Inner Mentor — the wisest version of you — already knows the way.

She’s not waiting for permission.
She’s not obsessing over perfection.
She’s rooted in purpose and playing big on her terms.
And yes — she lives inside you.

Playing big doesn’t mean shouting the loudest.
It means showing up with honesty, clarity and impact — even when your voice shakes.
Even when your palms sweat.
Even when you’re not sure how it’ll be received.

Here’s your reminder, beautiful soul:

✨ You are more than your doubt.
✨ Your work, your story, your truth matters.
✨ Take the leap — even if it’s messy, even if it’s quiet.

The world doesn’t need another perfect version of someone else.

It needs the real, full version of you.

💜

09/07/2025

What is it about me?

Hey Feelfree Community!

This question is powerful. Every time something shakes you — a reaction, a trigger, a moment that pulls you out of alignment — pause and gently ask yourself… What is it about me?

✨ Your inner world always creates your outer experience.
So if the outside feels chaotic, cloudy or confusing, that’s your invitation to go within.

🦋 Don’t fall into the trap of blaming the outside world — the people, the energy, the circumstances. That’s victim consciousness.
Instead, be brave enough to look within. Because what’s inside is what’s attracting, creating, and interpreting what’s outside.

🧘🏽‍♀️ Our daily practices — stillness, mindfulness, prayer, breathwork, yoga, reflection — these aren’t just habits. They’re soul tools. Tools that help us release, realign, and return to flow.

🌀 The ego wants to defend, argue, cling, react.
But your Higher Self knows how to centre, breathe, observe, and rise.

✨ Before you react to criticism, judgment, or chaos — pause.

Tell yourself:
💭 “I can stay centred… and I can relax.”

When you observe without reacting, you create space for expansion.
That space is where peace lives. That’s where transformation happens.

Growth isn’t about avoiding triggers — it’s about transforming through them.
So next time something stirs your spirit…
💫 Go within.
💫 Breathe deeply.
💫 Ask gently: What is it about me?
And set the intention to let it go.

💜

02/07/2025

Hey Feel Free Community!

🌱✨ Let’s Talk About Belief…

Our beliefs are powerful!
They shape how we see ourselves what we think we deserve 💸 and the energy we move through the world with 🌍

But here’s the thing most people don’t realise…

We don’t always choose our beliefs many of them are inherited 👶🏾 absorbed or shaped by past wounds 💔
We believe first… and question later. That’s just how the brain works.

✨ Here’s what I want you to know about belief:

1️⃣ You didn’t choose every belief you hold
Your subconscious picked up messages from your childhood, your culture, your trauma.
Some of those beliefs are outdated 🕰️ and keeping you stuck. The good news? You can rewire them 🔁

2️⃣ Your brain looks for evidence to prove your beliefs right.
If you believe you’re not good enough, you’ll find proof everywhere 😞
But if you believe you’re worthy of joy and success — you’ll start finding proof of that too 🌟

3️⃣ Beliefs feel like truth — but that doesn’t mean they are
Just because something feels familiar 🤔 doesn’t mean it’s right for you anymore.
Old stories can be rewritten 📝

4️⃣ Beliefs are contagious
Who you surround yourself with matters
Energy is real ⚡Choose environments that water your growth not your fear 😨

5️⃣ You’re allowed to let go of beliefs that don’t serve you
Even if they’ve been with you for years ⏳
Even if they come from people you love ❤️
You get to believe something new now 🔓

💫 Here’s how to start shifting your beliefs:

🌀 Get curious about the thoughts that repeat. Ask:
👉🏽 “Is this true?”
👉🏽 “Who taught me this?”

🌈 Look for proof of what’s possible, not just what’s familiar.

🤍 Be gentle with yourself when old patterns show up.
This work takes courage 💪🏽

🔊 Speak your new truths out loud daily, lovingly, intentionally.

💛 You are not broken… you’re just carrying beliefs that aren’t yours

Let’s rewire them.
Let’s believe something bigger.
Let’s build new stories rooted in self-worth, possibility, and power 🧠🌱🌟

You are allowed to believe in you!
Again! Fully! Unapologetically 💥

Write it! Speak it! Feel it!
Let it become your new truth 🦋

27/06/2025

Manifesting for Beginners — Made Real✨

So many people talk about manifesting like it’s some magical wish and wait process… but the truth is, real manifesting takes clarity, consistency and a bit of soul work.

Here’s what I took from Mel Robbins’ brilliant take on it — broken down in a way that feels right at home here at Feel Free 💫

💭 1. Be Honest About What You Want
Not what sounds good. Not what’s expected. What you deeply, truly want. Say it. Write it. Own it. This is where the shift begins.

👀 2. Don’t Just Visualise the Goal — Visualise the Process
Want the dream? See yourself doing the work — the early mornings, the deep breaths, the brave yes’s and the powerful no’s. That’s where the magic grows.

🌈 3. Feel it With Your Whole Self
When you imagine it, feel the joy, the nerves, the pride. Engage all your senses. Your brain starts to believe it’s already happening — and begins looking for ways to make it real.

🛠️ 4. Take the Small, Daily Steps
This isn’t about waiting. It’s about becoming. It’s about showing up — even when it’s quiet, even when it’s hard. The universe meets you in the doing.

This isn’t fluff. Neuroscience backs it. Your subconscious learns through repetition, emotion, and intention. Which is exactly the work we do here at Feel Free.

So if you’re ready to break free from old patterns, reprogram your mindset, and manifest the life you truly desire — I’d love to support you.

💬 DM me or drop a comment below to book a free clarity call and explore how we can work together.

✨Your next chapter starts now.

16/05/2025

🌟 Hello, beautiful souls!

Today, let's dive into a transformative truth:

Your strongest emotional triggers aren't roadblocks—they're mirrors reflecting what needs healing within you. 🌿 When you feel intense reactions, see them as guides pointing to your greatest potential for growth and transformation. Embrace these triggers and reclaim the power you once gave away through denial. 💪

✨ Here’s how I welcome my emotional triggers as messengers of self-discovery:

1.  Pause and Listen: When strong feelings arise, I pause to create space and listen to what my shadow self needs to express. This is where healing begins. 🧘‍♀️

2.  Explore Courageously: I am brave enough to explore the parts of myself I’ve hidden away. My reactions contain wisdom that leads me to wholeness. 🌈

3.  Approach with Curiosity: Instead of judgment, I meet my triggers with curiosity. Each moment of emotional intensity is an opportunity for healing and integration. 🦋

4.  Honour All Aspects: I honour every part of myself—even those I’ve denied. As I acknowledge my shadow, I reclaim my authentic power. 🌟

💡 Inner Healing Tips:
* Reflect on what you fear others might discover about you. What lies have you told yourself or others?
* Consider the most upsetting aspects of people in your life. These are often projections from past pain.
* Trace these feelings back to their origins. When did you first reject this part of yourself? Who influenced these feelings?
* Write freely about your emotions. Feel them, embrace them, and find new interpretations.
* Visualize comforting your younger self with the wisdom you have now. 🤗

Remember, your triggers aren't punishments—they're invitations to become more whole. You are worthy of the self-awareness and growth that comes through emotional healing. 🌺

07/05/2025

✨ UNLOCK YOUR MIND’S INFINITE POWER ✨

Hey Feel Free Community!

I’ve been diving deep into the incredible power we ALL have within us, and I have to share some points that have revolutionised my life! 💫

Did you know that the BIGGEST life-transforming secret of the ages isn’t some external technology or discovery? It’s the MIRACLE-WORKING POWER in your own subconscious mind! 🧠✨

As someone who’s worked with women reclaiming their power after abuse, I’ve seen firsthand how our thoughts create our reality. Your mind is like a garden - plant seeds of doubt and fear, and that’s what grows. Plant seeds of confidence and possibility and watch your life transform! 🌱→🌳

💖 Power Tips for Activating Your Subconscious:

1.  Replace “I can’t afford it” with “I am attracting the perfect resources for me.”
2.  Before sleep, feed your mind with images of perfect health and success.
3.  Speak to your fears like Caruso did: “The Little Me ego wants to strangle the Big Me True self within!” - tell those fears to BE GONE!!!
4.  Repeat affirmations with FEELING, getting into the feeling is crucial! - “I am worthy, I am capable, I attract abundance.”

One of my clients, a 75-year-old widow, began affirming, “I am wanted. I am happily married to a kind, loving man. I am secure!” She repeated this daily for a few weeks... and met her perfect match at a bus stop! They’re now travelling Europe together! (true story!!) 🥰

Remember: Your subconscious doesn’t judge your thoughts - it simply accepts them as instructions. What beautiful instructions are you giving it today? 💭

This practice IS self-care! For anyone feeling stuck, your mind holds the key to freedom! Start instructing your subconscious mind on what you want, not ruminating on what you don’t want.

Big Tip: Imagine yourself in 5 years living your dream life, write it down, and read it every morning and before you sleep, and don’t forget, get into the feeling of it!

27/04/2025

22/04/2025

Feeling scared about being judged by others? You’re definitely not alone, my friend! 🌟

Today I want to talk about something that affects ALL of us - that paralysing fear of what others might think about us.

Have you caught yourself wondering what your friends, family, or social media followers might think if you truly expressed yourself?
That little voice saying, “What if they judge me?” can hold us back from living our most joyful, authentic lives!

Now here’s the thing:
We ALL judge - it’s what our brains do automatically. That person at Whole Foods with the perfect outfit you noticed? The colleague who speaks differently? You formed an opinion. Even our favourite people face our constant judgment!

The beautiful irony?
While we fear being judged, we’re judging others all day long without even realising it!

⛓️‍💥 Why This Fear Holds Us Back ⛓️
Our two biggest fears are often:

* Fear of abandonment: Will they reject me?
* Fear of inadequacy: Am I good enough?

Both stem from judgment! And they keep us playing small, hiding our light, and not sharing our gifts with the world.
This fear of judgment particularly impacts women who have experienced disempowerment or abuse. When you’ve been told your voice doesn’t matter or your worth is determined by others, breaking free becomes even more challenging - but also more ESSENTIAL!!

You may have internalised others’ judgments, believing you’re “too much” or “not enough.” These limiting beliefs weren’t created by you, but YOU have the power to release them.
Your unique perspective, shaped by your experiences, is precisely what makes your voice valuable. The world NEEDS your wisdom!

Tips to Break Free 🦋
1.  Accept that judgment is inevitable - when you embrace this truth, it loses its power over you
2.  Remember: people’s opinions reflect THEM, not YOU
3.  Focus on what the world needs from you, not how “good” you are
4.  Start each day with self-compassion, not self-judgment
5.  Ask yourself: “What could my life look like if I took action despite potential judgment?”
6.  Surround yourself with women who celebrate rather than compete

Let’s break free from judgment fear together. Comment “I’m ready”

21/04/2025

Hey Feel Free Community! I am beginning my website (scary 😱) and would love some loving constructive feedback on my about page. Thoughts? Welcome to my page! I’m Lucinda, a passionate Life Coach and therapist dedicated to empowering women to live their fullest lives without limits. My journey began with a deeply personal experience—living with my children in a women’s refuge. This chapter of my life compelled me to volunteer and sparked a lifelong commitment to making a difference by changing laws and implementing services that I didn’t have access to.
With years of experience supporting 1000’s of women through various challenges, I have cultivated a deep understanding of the unique hurdles they face and the incredible strength they possess. Over the years, I’ve held various roles, including Director for National Women’s Aid and Integrated Domestic Violence Advocate for Advance, a national charity. These experiences have shaped my approach, emphasizing empathy, empowerment, and the importance of feeling heard.
Additionally, I set up various services throughout the borough and traveled globally, engaging in public speaking and feasibility studies. These efforts were instrumental in establishing London’s first Domestic Violence Magistrates Court, enhancing survivors’ safety and holding perpetrators accountable.
I founded Feel Free Life Coaching and am now dedicating my time to building a community. I want Feel Free community to always be a safe space designed to support, educate, and empower women of all ages. My mission is to inspire a movement where women can thrive, feel secure, have their voices valued, and live their lives without limits. Through personalized coaching and therapeutic support, I aim to guide women towards personal growth, self-discovery, and holistic well-being.
I invite you to join our community, and help build a network of support, opportunities for learning, and a platform to share your story. Together, we can create a future where every woman feels confident, supported, and heard.
Thank you for visiting my page. I look forward to connecting with you and embarking on this empowering journey together.

08/04/2025

Hey Feel Free Community! ✨

This is an absolute truth bomb for you here today: 

If you want real change in your life, you’ve got to become the architect of your habits and master of your subconscious mind!

We all know that feeling of wanting something different but finding ourselves stuck in the same patterns. Why? Because our subconscious LOVES comfort, even when that “comfort” is actually hurting us or hindering our progression! 🤯

Here’s what I’ve learned on my journey and what’s worked with the amazing people I’ve coached:

1️⃣ Create a crystal-clear vision of what YOU truly want not what others think you should want! 💎

2️⃣ Take small, consistent daily steps toward that vision 👣

3️⃣ Notice when self-sabotage creeps in those moments when you talk yourself OUT of positive action 🤔

4️⃣ Respond with self-compassion, not criticism 💜

When you feel resistance, try this powerful affirmation:

“It feels easy and effortless for me to adopt this new habit.” 💫

Remember, overwhelm is the enemy of change! 

Choose ONE habit to transform at a time. Your subconscious needs repetition to create the new neural pathways.

For my people out there, who are always put serving others first- this self-discipline IS self-care. 💞

By showing up for yourself consistently, you’re actually becoming more present and effective for those you love, which radiates love you want for them and gives permission to them to be and do the same. ✨💖

As you know, I always say “Take care of the baby steps and the goals and dreams take care of themselves.” – Lucinda 

My small habit of change this week is going to be consistently putting reading into my morning routine, even just 5 minutes

What’s one small habit you’re committed to changing this week?

Drop it in the comments and let’s support each other! 👇