Annaleise Gamble Motion & Mind

11/10/2025

Well done to William, Prince of Wales, for his latest endeavours with the National Su***de Prevention Network

"He's missed out on so much joy. We would have been okay" 😢

TW: Su***de and the death of a child.In 2012, Rhian's one-year-old son died suddenly. Five days later, her husband Paul tragically took his own life.The Roya...

11/10/2025

A few years ago, I attended a talk by Gabor Maté for clinicians, just before the release of his book. During the Q&A, someone in the audience asked, “Why am I okay when all four of my siblings have struggled so much with their mental health?” Gabor paused and replied, “Because each of you had different parents. Parents don’t respond to every child in the same way, and those differences shape who we become.”

10/10/2025

You might not like the way the younger you handled things.
There are plenty of moments I look back on and wince.

But here’s the thing: we did the best we could with what we knew then.
We didn’t have the insight, the strength, or the self-awareness we’ve built since.
We were just trying to make it through with the tools we had.

It’s easy to look back and think, I should’ve done better.
But maybe we couldn’t have. Not with who we were, not with what we knew.

So let’s stop judging the past versions of ourselves.
That younger self was doing their best — even if their best looked messy.

We can’t rewrite the past, but we can stop fighting it.
We can meet those earlier versions of us with empathy instead of blame.

We did the best we could then.
Now the only thing that matters is doing the best we can from here.

10/10/2025

Weekend Self-Care: Stepping Away from the Noise

The weekend can so easily become an extension of the week: the to-do lists, the messages to catch up on, the house jobs that never end. Before we know it, Sunday night arrives and we’ve barely taken a breath. But self-care isn’t just about bubble baths or candles; it’s about giving yourself permission to pause, to reset, and to remember that rest isn’t wasted time.

When we’re constantly switched on, our nervous system never gets the message that it’s safe to relax. The body stays tense, the mind keeps running, and even when we stop, we don’t feel stopped. That’s why weekends matter. They’re the small windows we get to soften the edges, step back from responsibility, and reconnect with what makes us feel human again.

10/10/2025

Couples work thoughts from The Hut: when it doesn't work 👤👤

When a person isn’t at peace with themselves, that pain doesn’t just stay inside; it spills out onto the one trying to love them. It’s something people rarely talk about, but it happens all the time. Instead of turning inward and facing their own hurt, they project it. The anger, the frustration, the insecurity; it lands on the person closest to them. The one who shows up with love, hope, and openness. They become the mirror for everything that’s unsettled, the target for emotions that were never really about them. And in the process, the connection breaks: not because love wasn’t real, but because peace was missing.

It’s painful to watch, because the one offering love never asked for that burden. They come in with the best intentions, wanting to build something genuine. But when someone is battling their own fears, shame, or sense of failure, they can’t meet love with love. They pull their partner into the chaos instead, making them responsible for what they won’t face.

That’s how love turns heavy. Trust becomes uncertain, affection starts to hurt, and happiness feels like it’s slipping away. The person who gives their heart ends up questioning themselves — wondering why their love isn’t enough to fix it.

But here’s what they need to remember: they are not the cause of that unhappiness. It’s not theirs to solve or carry. You can care deeply for someone, but you can’t do their healing for them. Real love can’t grow where one person keeps drowning. It takes two people who are willing to face themselves, not hide behind each other’s hearts.

So if you’re loving someone who’s lost within themselves, know this — your peace matters too. You deserve love that feels steady, not love that drains you. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do, for both of you, is to step back and let them face what only they can fix.

09/10/2025

It helps to remember: love/care isn’t proven through overextension. When we try to do the emotional work for someone, we unintentionally disempower them and exhaust ourselves

07/10/2025

What a beautifully inspiring woman. Thank you for your legacy, Dr Jane Goodhall

07/10/2025

If you’re feeling unseen in something you hoped you’d be part of — please know this: your feelings make sense.
Sometimes people make choices that have nothing to do with your worth and everything to do with their own limitations.
Take a breath. Be gentle with yourself. You don’t need to match anyone’s energy. Value your worth, and what you bring to those you care for. Being unseen doesn't make you less real.

06/10/2025

"Yeah, I'm good"
Trauma can affect men differently from women. Many learn to mask their fear and sadness, making their pain harder to recognise. It often appears instead as emotional withdrawal, irritability, or anger — leading them to isolate, push others away, and feel increasingly alone.
They seem fine. Until they're not.

06/10/2025

Healed parents nurture secure, self-assured children who grow up able to recognise and build healthy, loving relationships. Parents who choose to heal at any age can still inspire and positively shape their children, even in adulthood.

05/10/2025

Regularly shouting at children can alter their brain development, and lead to poor mental health 😥🚫
Frequent shouting doesn’t teach respect; it teaches fear. Children learn to protect themselves, not to listen.

Experts will highlight childhood verbal abuse as ‘the most prevalent form of child maltreatment’

05/10/2025

How might setting healthy boundaries bring more calm and connection into your life?

They’re how we protect our emotional energy and maintain balanced relationships. Our responsibility is to value them, not manage the reactions of those who don't.

You can care deeply while still protecting your own peace. Clear boundaries create space to grow, safely and sustainably.