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07/08/2025

After they’ve been found out them going silent isn’t about them calming down - it’s a calculated move to control the story, punish you, and to protect their image.

07/08/2025

Few things mess with your head more than sharing your good news with family or friends and getting met with cold silence, blank stares, or a quick change of subject.


06/08/2025

Being pushed out isn’t proof you’re the problem, sadly this is often what happens when you finally tell the truth

05/08/2025

There is no such thing as ‘neutral’ when someone’s being abused.If you see it, hear it, or know it - and you still do nothing… You’re not on the sidelines…You’re standing with the abuser…❤️‍🩹

The minute you stop going along with how things have always been and start setting new boundaries and speaking your trut...
04/08/2025

The minute you stop going along with how things have always been and start setting new boundaries and speaking your truth to a toxic or narcissistic person, don’t get pulled into their drama. Just notice they never ask what they did.

They never want to understand how they hurt you or how they could be better. Instead, they flip it and act like the real problem is that someone got to you.

They’ll play the victim. They’ll be passive aggressive. They’ll go silent. They’ll punish you for changing instead of looking at themselves.

They’ll blame your partner. They’ll blame your therapist. They’ll blame your friends. Anyone but themselves.

And the disrespect in that is wild. As if you don’t have a mind of your own. As if there’s no way you could have come to your own truth.

Because if they admit you woke up on your own, they’d have to face what they did to you. And they’re not ready for that level of truth.

So instead, they say you’ve changed. You’re not the same. You’ve been influenced. Anything to avoid being seen for what they really are.

Exposed.

03/08/2025

Some relationships never stood a chance.

Not because they wouldn’t have worked. But because someone was making sure they didn’t.

Stepkids, Half-siblings or Stepparents. All treated like s**t. All silenced. All shut out.

Let’s talk about it.

31/07/2025

You don’t need to sit down and talk it through. You don’t need to write the letter or get mutual closure.

Because you’re not dealing with someone healthy.

You’re dealing with someone who rewrites the story to suit them. They don’t need another explanation. You don’t need another conversation.

Their behaviour is the closure…

When siblings don’t get on… take a closer look.There’s usually a toxic parent behind it.And no, they’re not confused. Th...
31/07/2025

When siblings don’t get on… take a closer look.

There’s usually a toxic parent behind it.
And no, they’re not confused. They’re not clueless.
They know exactly what they’re doing.

They stir the pot.
Create drama.
Whisper things like:
“Oh, you know what they’re like…”
“They’ve always been difficult.”
“I’ve done everything I can.”

Meanwhile, they pit their kids against each other… Feeding lies. Twisting stories. Turning people on each other
Then standing back like they’re innocent.

And here’s the thing, The roles aren’t fixed.
One minute you’re the golden child.
Next minute you’re the scapegoat.
It all depends on who’s staying in line and who’s calling out the truth.

They use guilt- constantly.
They use silence.
They rewrite history.
And they’ll destroy sibling bonds just to stay in control.

Because while the siblings are busy fighting each other?
No one’s looking at the parent.
No one’s questioning the lies.
The parent stays at the centre,
Coddled. Protected. Untouchable and controlling the narratives…

This is how toxic parents divide families:
👉 They create rivalry and competition
👉 They make you doubt your sibling
👉 They break trust and call it “just how families are”

But it’s not sibling rivalry.
It’s not a clash of personalities.
It’s emotional abuse.
And it’s way more common than people talk about.

So if your relationship with your sibling is full of tension, confusion, or wounds that never quite heal -
Look up.
Because chances are, there’s a toxic parent pulling the strings.

And if you’re wondering:
“Is this just toxic behaviour or are they narcissistic?”

Here’s the truth:
Not all toxic parents are narcissists.
But all narcissistic parents are toxic.
And if this post hits?
That’s narcissistic behaviour. Full stop.

So if they walk like a duck and s**t like a duck…
You don’t need a diagnosis. You need distance.

29/07/2025

There’s a grief no one prepares you for. It’s the grief of letting go of the idea of family. Not because anyone died. But because you had to walk away to survive.





28/07/2025

So you’ve finally walked away - and instead of feeling proud or free, you feel guilty. Sick and heavy. You keep asking yourself, why do I feel like the bad one when I know I did the right thing?Here’s one answer…

28/07/2025

Empathy and understanding won’t change someone who’s committed to control. If you’re still hoping they’ll heal , have a listen to this…

When you’re dealing with a narcissistic type, red flags don’t turn green.They don’t turn rosy over time. They don’t sudd...
26/07/2025

When you’re dealing with a narcissistic type, red flags don’t turn green.
They don’t turn rosy over time.
They don’t suddenly grow a conscience.
They don’t wake up one day and realise how rotten they’ve been or apologise for the damage they’ve caused.

They might switch up their tactics, but underneath the performance the flags are still red…always.

You saw it, you felt it, but you still gave them chances. Not because you didn’t know what was coming, but because you already knew exactly what would happen if you called it out - the backlash, the smear campaign, the silence, the full-blown crisis they’d stir up to flip the focus back onto you.

So you stayed quiet. You questioned yourself. You told yourself, “It wasn’t that bad,” because facing the truth meant facing the chaos. And you were already exhausted from surviving crisis after crisis.

So here’s the price you pay for staying hopeful - and believe me I know, because I’ve paid it:

You lose your peace, your sense of reality, your voice, even who you are.
You lose your memory, and not because you’re broken, but because your nervous system is fried from constant alert.
You lose your confidence and stop trusting your gut. You lose your sense of safety in the world and relationships with people who believed their lies or couldn’t handle the truth.
In some cases you lose entire decades of your life trying to survive someone who never once tried to change.

That is what being around a narcissistic person does. I learned it the hardest way possible - by staying quiet, by doubting myself, by carrying the emotional weight so everyone else could keep pretending things were ‘fine.’

If something feels off, it is off. You don’t need more proof, and you don’t need anyone else to agree with you.

And here’s the truth that no one wants to say out loud - you cannot change or influence someone who has no interest in truth.


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