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30/09/2025

Hoping they will change keeps you stuck.

Living in acceptance, not resistance, is what will set you free…

So many of us have spent years, decades even - wishing they would change, waiting for them to acknowledge the harm they caused, or holding out for apologies that were never going to come.

That kind of waiting drains your time, your energy, and your heart.

So today is a good day to stop hoping they will change, to accept they never will, and to move on without regret.

This isn’t about revenge or hurting them.

It’s about integrity - being honest with yourself, protecting your peace, and if you choose to love them, you doing it from a distance. A very long distance…

29/09/2025

They’ll say you ‘should’ve talked to them.’ What they won’t tell you?

You did. Over and over. They just never listened…

27/09/2025

Just a reminder: This account is a safe space for people carrying the weight of being scapegoated, navigating the destruction of narcissistic abuse, abusive relationships, and the chaos that can leave you with CPTSD.

If you come here to argue about their pain, dismiss their reality, or defend the people who caused it, you will be blocked. Always…

Why? Because people who’ve endured that kind of cruelty and trauma deserve safety- not more smart arse questioning or further gaslighting…They deserve the chance to rebuild without being dragged back into the crap that almost broke them.

For the Breaking Freers and the Overcomers:

Keep going and get back up. Every. Single. Time.

Lorna 💛

25/09/2025

We all mess up. That’s human.

But when the same behaviour keeps repeating, that’s not a mistake. That’s a choice - and they’re showing you exactly who they are.

Ignore it, hoping they’ll change, and I promise you, it will cost you down the line! It’ll cost you, your peace, your health, your trust in yourself and in other relationships.

Mistakes are never the problem. Patterns are…

24/09/2025

You think the narcissist is the biggest problem?…

22/09/2025

So you think you can handle the narcissist in your life? There’s not a chance in hell you can.

You can’t manage someone who feeds on chaos and control. And you certainly can’t reason with someone who twists every word you say… and you can’t negotiate with someone who doesn’t play fair.

The only way to win? Is to stop playing, and you disengage.

21/09/2025

Down doesn’t mean that you’re done. It just means that your body, your mind, and your heart have been carrying too much, and you need some time to breathe.

Because taking some time out isn’t weak and it’s definitely not you giving up, it’s about you gathering your strength to get ready for what’s coming next.

20/09/2025

When the people round your table label you ‘too much,’ what they really mean is you speak more truth than they can handle.

Stop contorting yourself to soothe the fragile egos of small minded people. Remove them. Build a new table where care, kindness and respect are the foundations and they are non negotiable.

Because sitting at a table where there’s disrespect isn’t just uncomfortable - it’s costly. It’ll cost you your peace of mind, your self respect, your time and your health. And the longer you stay, the bigger the price you’ll pay.

19/09/2025

If they won’t stand up for you, they are standing with them.

18/09/2025

They blame you for what they’re doing, and you keep on hoping they’ll do what you would do…

That’s projection on both sides.

Theirs keeps you defensive and confused…
Yours keeps you stuck, and waiting for a conscience they do not have.

17/09/2025

People make mistakes. I do, you do, we all do. We get tired, stressed, say the wrong thing. It’s human, and that’s life.

But people hurting you on purpose? That’s intentional.

I’ve lived this. Been burnt more times than I care to remember. I gave far too many chances, and hoped that they’d come to their senses and finally get it.

But here’s what I’ve learned, the hard way of course - if someone hurts you intentionally… and there’s no apology, no owning what they did… and you let them back in because of who they are?

They’ll do it again.

Being a kind person doesn’t mean you handing people a free pass to cause chaos and hurt. Whether they’re your family, friends, or partner - it doesn’t matter who they are. If they keep showing you they can’t be trusted, believe their actions, not their words. Watch closely.

Second chances really only count if the first one taught them something and forced them to change…

16/09/2025

When the Matriarch is a Narcissists she’s not about family in true sense…

It’s all a performance where love feels like fear, obligation, and guilt.

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