Mary McClung

10/11/2025

I’m guilty …… are you?

Do you often find yourself prioritising others’ feelings over your own? I’m not gonna lie, it’s bloody exhausting and annoying and hurtful and lonely and sad. I was that woman, the same woman that told herself that it ‘ok’ she ‘could take it’. And I could and I did….. but I didn’t have to, that was just a story I told myself.

I got fed up being the nice helpful one that everyone took advantage of and nobody really seemed to care about. I was the metaphorical punch bag, headboard and dumping group for everyone else. I didn’t understand others, what about me, why did no one notice I was hurting, I need to be seen, I needed help? Did I need to try harder, be nicer, understand more….. I was doing the best I could but it didn’t seem to matter or ever be enough. I ran this program for years, waiting for someone else to finally see me, but the only person I really needed to see me was me…..

I was emotionally burnt out and overwhelmed. That desire to keep the peace, to please everyone and control everything was quite literally ruining me.  When I found myself cocooned crying my eyes out under my duvet for 4 four hours I knew it was time to take my power back and start putting myself first.

 
If you want to know how I did it and how you can then join me at my upcoming retreat.  We will tackle this issue directly. You’ll gain insight into recognising your feelings, why you’re feeling like that and then how to change the programs.  This is a crucial step towards reclaiming your power and enhancing your emotional wellbeing.

Join us for this transformative day!
https://bit.ly/TakeBackYourPowerRetreat

04/11/2025

Yesterday, I visited our retreat property to really feel into the energy and flow of the space… and wow. From the moment I arrived, the atmosphere felt welcoming, beautiful, and embracing in every possible way. The energy was simply magical — I could feel my guides and light workers buzzing with excitement, sending waves of inspiration and little downloads the entire time.

This visit left me super happy, super pumped, and so ready for what’s coming. We’ve confirmed that this retreat will become a true Christmas wonderland — think enchanting decor, delicious scents, heartwarming food and drink, and an ambience that wraps around you like pure joy.

I absolutely cannot wait to share this special experience with those lucky souls who’ll be joining. It’s going to be something extraordinary.

I only have a few spaces left now so if you feel called to join us then get in touch of follow the link in the comments.

Mx

31/10/2025

🚨Exciting Update 🚨

Sometimes, life nudges us in a new direction, and when we listen, something magical unfolds. That’s exactly what happened with our retreat — a universal intervention brought us to a stunning new venue that feels completely aligned with our vision, energy, and timing.

Our gathering will now take place at a beautiful country house owned by a truly special soul whose warmth and spirit radiate through the space. It’s the perfect setting for connection, reflection, and renewal, and I can’t wait to share it with you.

Here’s the location of our new venue and a few photos to wet your appetite for what’s to come:
Holmes Cottage, 5 Galston Road, Kilmarnock, KA1 5JD

Thank you for flowing with this inspired change — I have no doubt it will make our day together even more special.

Link is in the comments

With love and excitement,

Mary

29/10/2025

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27/10/2025

Every healing journey is uniquely yours.

It’s not a straight line.
Some days you’ll move forward, others you’ll feel like you’re slipping backward or going sideways.
But every direction is still movement — still healing. ❤️

In the moments when it feels hard (and it will sometimes), pause and remind yourself of how brave and extraordinary you are for choosing this path. Healing takes courage.

And when things feel like they’re flowing beautifully, celebrate.
Celebrate every single win, big or small, even the moments you simply feel good for no clear reason, because you are healing and you deserve to be celebrated.

You don’t need to analyse your healing. Healing isn’t something your brain must “figure out.”
It’s a journey led by your soul — and it’s always unfolding perfectly for you.
Your mind won’t always make sense of what your heart, body, and soul are doing.
Healing is not a process of logic, it’s a reunion with yourself, it’s a remembering of who you are, it is like coming home.

To everyone walking this brave path of healing; I see you, I honour you, and I applaud you. 🕊️

✨ If this message resonates, share it — someone else might need this reminder today.

With love and light
Mary

23/10/2025

21/10/2025

Ever find yourself repeating the same emotional cycles; anger, hurt, chaos, even when you ‘swore’ you’d stop?

It’s not just your mind. It’s your nervous system.

Your body is wired for survival through the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses, the ancient settings of your autonomic nervous system. When life feels like too much, your system might hit freeze or shutdown (aka dissociation) to protect you. It’s your body saying, “It’s too much to feel right now.”

But your body likes to feel, it uses emotion and sensation as feedback to feel alive. When you’ve been disconnected (numb, detached, on autopilot), those intense emotional spikes; the anger, fear, drama suddenly bring you back into your body. That rush becomes addictive, even if it comes with pain or chaos.

It’s not weakness. It’s a pattern your body learned to survive.

The real work isn’t in avoiding feelings — it’s in teaching your body to feel safely again.

If you’re ready to calm your system, reconnect with your body, and stop chasing emotional chaos, join my monthly healing group. It’s a safe space to learn, ground, and reset your nervous system together.

DM me or tap the link in bio to join this month’s circle 🫶

https://www.skool.com/the-healing-community-7263/about?ref=1eb47534270843528f75d8e29aac593c

17/10/2025

People-pleasing often starts quietly — a “yes” here, a compromise there until you realise you’ve built a life around avoiding disappointment rather than living with honesty. It’s usually rooted in fear: fear of rejection, judgement, or being seen as “too much.” Somewhere along the line, you learned that your worth depended on keeping the peace.

But here’s the truth: saying “no” doesn’t make you unkind. Setting boundaries doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you honest. It makes you human.

If you’re ready to untangle people-pleasing:
🔵Notice when you say “yes” but feel tense inside 🔵that’s your cue.
🔵Pause before agreeing. Take a breath. You owe no instant answer.
🔵Start small. One honest “no” at a time.
🔵Let discomfort be proof you’re growing, not doing something wrong.

You don’t exist to manage other people’s emotions. You exist to live your truth — even if it doesn’t please everyone.

If you would like to learn more then why not join us at my upcoming day retreat “Stop letting others control you - Take back your power”, all details are in the comments.

Mary

16/10/2025

Who can relate???

When someone hurts you and then tells you to “lighten up”, “you’re too sensitive,” or “I was only having a laugh” that’s not banter. That’s weaponised joking, did you know that’s a form of covert emotional abuse that uses humor as a shield for cruelty.

Real banter is mutual, playful, and stops when someone’s uncomfortable. But when “jokes” leave you feeling small, criticised, or attacked, and the person dismisses your pain with “can’t you take a joke?” that’s not humour. That’s manipulation.

A joke is not a joke when it hurts, Period.

If you’re constantly told you’re overreacting to comments that sting, trust your gut. You’re not too sensitive, you’re responding to behavior that’s harmful, and that’s completely valid.

Red flags to watch for:
- The “joke” targets your insecurities
- You’re blamed for not having a sense of humor
- It happens right before important moments
- The pattern repeats despite you expressing hurt

You deserve relationships where humour brings you together, not tears you down. Stop accepting cruelty dressed up as comedy.

14/10/2025

Monday Check In
How are you??