Nicola Duffell

18/02/2026

We have to make the move from I and me to us and we | This is vital. For far too long we’ve been consumed by self but we’re leaving each other behind.
We’re turning against each other when we need to come together.
We don’t stay in relation when things get difficult.
We’re not listening to each other.
We’re not turning inwards to ask ourselves why, what’s going on here?
Not from a place of shame, this does nothing but bring us towards more isolation. We need to hold our shame with care, so that we don’t come from this place of harm.
How might you make the movement from I/me to us/we. I’d love to hear. As always I’m still working on it. We don’t come up with these ideas and ways on our own. We don’t wait for someone with power, we do this together.

18/01/2026

January | We are in the depths of winter whilst simultaneously quickening into The Long Dark. How is January feeling for you?
Here are some reflections on what it is to be in the depth of winter at a time when the intensity of the world is deepening.

When I first thought about putting pen to paper I had imagined writing about the winter. How whilst we celebrate new year from the point of view of the Gregorian calendar, we are still deep in winter and all that winter requires. Slowness, going inward, tending to our grief, preserving energy for th

31/12/2025

New Year’s Blessings | Honouring the grief that can come in this shift from one year to the next.
Even in the passing of time without anything else, grief exists.
Can we honour that?
Can we allow space for the tears?
The anger?
The true nature of grief?
As we transition from one year to the next what needs to be honoured?
What needs to be acknowledged?
I’m acknowledging many things - one I’d like to share with you is the completion of my apprenticeship with Francis Weller. The 3rd December saw our last one-to-one session together. My hope is we’ll work together in many more ways in the years to come, but acknowledging this ending is important to me, because he is important to me, our relationship is important to me. This is what I mean by acknowledging the grief. Acknowledging the ending of something. We are so quick to move on in our society, and I say don’t move on, not too quickly. Often we believe we need to move on, or to let go because it’s too painful, we long to be without the pain. But this pain, this grief has its own way. We cannot force it, we cannot wield it into submission. It needs our care, so much care. And it needs time, the beautiful grace of time.
I’m sending you all new year’s blessings, honouring my grief, your grief and our collective grief, which is immense.

09/12/2025

Free webinar | Holiday Survival Guide | Wednesday 10th December at 7:30pm
This holiday season can bring up so much. How to we tend to this time of year so that we can truly support ourselves, perhaps even nurture ourselves?
Tomorrow as part of the Seed Wellness team I'll be speaking a little about grief at this time of year. This time of year can bring our grief to the fore - we look around and see other people happy, having fun - and yet our grief asks even more of our attention. How might we hold both the festivities and our grief alongside each other?
You can book your free place here:

https://moonherbs-s-site.thinkific.com/products/live_events/new-live-event-1

24/11/2025

Because of love | There was never going to be any doubt as to whether I would love Come See Me in the Good Light.
I have watched it twice, I’m about to watch it for a third time.
Andrea and Megan are needed in the world right now. In a world of soul-loss, in a world of hate and fear, in a world so bereft of love and care, Come See Me in the Good Light is needed right now.
I never thought it possible to miss a stranger, someone I’ve never met, but someone who impacted me greatly. I miss Andrea. And I’m so grateful to for her soul, her words that continue to open me wide - to hear her words of grief, of love is such an honour.
And it’s all because of love.
Reposting with the correct quote because words matter, especially when you’re using someone else’s.

24/11/2025

Beat the Winter Slump | Your Holistic Toolkit for Energy & Mood | A Free Online Webinar
My friends at Seed Wellness are holding a free webinar this Friday - link below to book.
(Webinar Details in a clear box or section)
🗓️ Date: Friday, 28th November 2025
⏰ Time: 12:30 PM - 1:15 PM (GMT)
📍 Location: Live Online via Zoom
(Register for FREE at: QR code )
As the light fades and the temperature drops, do you feel your energy and mood dip too?
This November, the therapists of Berkhamsted Seed Wellness invite you to a supportive webinar. We'll move beyond quick fixes and give you a holistic plan to navigate the seasonal shift with resilience and vitality.
In this 45-minute session, you will discover:
🌿 Nutritional & Herbal Support: How to use food and adaptogenic herbs to balance your energy and support your nervous system.
🌬️ Breathwork for Energy: A simple, powerful breathing technique to combat afternoon slumps and mental fog.
💆 Somatic Calm: How to release the physical tension of stress and calm your body's nervous system for better rest.
🔬 A Sustainable Plan: Practical, actionable steps you can start using immediately to feel your best all season long.
🎯 We're Building This Webinar Around YOUR Questions!
After you register, you'll have the opportunity to submit your specific questions about:
Low energy and fatigue
Winter mood changes
Stress management
Herbal or nutritional support
Breathwork techniques
Any other seasonal wellness challenge
We'll address these questions directly during the webinar, ensuring you get personalized, practical advice from our expert team.
We have a team of specialist in Berkhamsted Seed Wellness to support you
• Functional Medicine
• Medical Herbalism
• Breathwork
• Osteopathy
• Craniosacral Therapy
• Family and Children support
• Grief support
• Sound therapy
• TCM Acupuncture
• FREEDO transformation cards
• Mental health Counsellor

https://moonherbs-s-site.thinkific.com/products/live_events/beating-winter-slump-holistic-toolkit-energy-mood

Join our live event to discover proactive strategies for navigating the energetic shift from summer to winter. Boost your energy, uplift your mood, and thrive t

21/11/2025

Because of love | There was never going to be any doubt as to whether I would love Come See Me in the Good Light.
I have watched it twice, I’m about to watch it for a third time.
Andrea and Megan are needed in the world right now. In a world of soul-loss, in a world of hate and fear, in a world so bereft of love and care, Come See Me in the Good Light is needed right now.
I never thought it possible to miss a stranger, someone I’ve never met, but someone who impacted me greatly. I miss Andrea. And I’m so grateful to for her soul, her words that continue to open me wide - to hear her words of grief, of love is such an honour.
And it’s all because of love.

10/11/2025

New podcast | It's always an honour to get to speak about my own journey of grief and how I came to this work. Sometimes you get to speak to someone who really gets it, who puts so much thought into the questions they ask and it's just a beautiful thing - Magalie from Moon Herbs did exactly this. I loved our conversation together.

Seed Wellness

Podcast Episode · Seed Wellness - Helping You Flourish · 06/11/2025 · 1h 3m

12/09/2025

Why the gates of grief matter in these times | Perhaps I should have said - why the gates of grief are essential in these times.
An invitation for you to join us in the territory of grief. For you, for me, for us, for all.
Life’s Poetry is a six month journey through each gate of grief. It’s a journey of courage and of beauty. It can bring you to deeper intimacy.
Everything I do is always done with care, I care deeply. I love deeply and so these elements will be integral.
As says in this beautiful song - “Come stranger we don’t need to know each other before we grieve.”
It’s always with gratitude to my teachers and mentors particularly Francis Weller, who saw these gates of grief and put them into words and form over 10 years ago, and . Thank you.

08/09/2025

It’s time | I feel a bit lost for words today, in that I have so much that I want to say the coherence is escaping me.
So I’ve used the words of my teacher and mentor Francis Weller from his new book In the Absence of the Ordinary.
We are in un-ordinary times.
Which requires an extraordinary response. “Bold gestures” as Francis says.
What’s your response?
What’s our collective response?
I’d highly recommend In the Absence of the Ordinary, it is a balm for our times. It doesn’t shy away from the atrocities that we are facing and it invites us back to the ways of soul.
I believe coming back to the ways of soul can be the start of the restoration that’s needed.
The question of what is soul, is for another time. But even questioning what you think you know soul to be. What I’ve come to know through my work with Francis is that this is much deeper, more unexpected and more necessary than we could ever imagine. Soul is the antidote to these times.
If you’d like to explore soul, you can come and join us for Life’s Poetry. Life’s Poetry is a six month community exploration of what it is to come to grief and soul as a way of life, as a way of restoring the world. We begin on Monday 6th October.

08/09/2025

Grieving our beloved companions | One of my colleagues Rohan Narse is offering a grief-tending gathering specifically for dogs.
Grief impacts us in all sorts of ways and we don't usually give our beloved animal companions the attention they need during the grieving process - if you're grieving your dog, know that it's necessary and needed.

“The bond with a true dog is as lasting as the ties of this earth can ever be.” ~ Konrad Lorenz, Austrian ethologist and Nobel Prize winner, Man Meets Dog

01/09/2025

Life's Poetry | As we start to see the turn in season, the light beginning to dim, the waning of the summer I'm thinking about Life's Poetry.
Life's Poetry is a six-month journey that explores grief in all its ways. Grief goes beyond bereavement. It's all the ways we've felt like we haven't belonged, it's all our needs that haven't been met, it's the way we look at the world and start to examine the sorrows of the world. Grief is broad and deep, and it is very present right now.
I purposefully hold Life's Poetry through Autumn and Winter as we begin to enter into Spring. Through Life's Poetry we let the seasons support us, transform us, we come into alchemy and connection with the world around us.
There are eight places remaining. If you'd like to join us you can book your place or get in touch.
https://www.nicoladuffell.com/lifes-poetry

Life's Poetry is a 6 month community programme which explores life through the lens of grief. Together we will explore grief, sorrow, shame and joy, beauty and freedom. We will use Francis Weller's Five Gates of Grief to guide us, and Francis will be joining us for a teaching session.