http://www.elizabethpaterson.co.uk/

Elizabeth Paterson, 56-58 Bond Street, Kingston upon Hull (2025)

02/06/2025

At the heart of therapy is the belief that everyone deserves to feel safe, seen, and supported — exactly as they are. This Pride Month, I’m celebrating love in all its forms and standing in solidarity with the LGBTQ+ community. 🌈

Whether you're exploring identity, processing life’s challenges, or just needing a space that welcomes your full self — you are always welcome here.

09/04/2025

Being more thoughtful about how people really experience things — not just how I expect them to, and I will try being slower to judge and quicker to listen.

11/03/2025

Brighter Days, Brighter Mind: Why Sunnier Weather is Great for Therapy

Longer days, brighter skies, and a little more sunshine—spring and summer bring a natural mood boost! Ever noticed how things feel just a bit lighter when the sun is out? That’s because sunlight increases serotonin, lifting your energy and making challenges feel more manageable. And that’s exactly why this is a great time to start (or restart) therapy.

☀️ Sunshine & Mental Well-being
More daylight = more vitamin D, better sleep, and a naturally improved mood. Even just a short walk outside can help clear your head and shift your perspective. When our energy is up, we’re often more open to exploring, reflecting, and making changes that felt tough in winter.

🌿 A Great Time to Grow
Therapy in the colder months can feel like survival mode—just getting through the tough stuff. But in the warmer months, it can be about expansion: thinking about what’s next, making gentle shifts, and creating space for yourself. With a clearer head, therapy can feel more proactive and even exciting.

💻 Flexible Therapy, Wherever You Are
Summer can be full of plans, but therapy doesn’t have to be another thing on your to-do list. My sessions are online, so you can fit them around your life—whether that’s in your garden, on your sofa, or before an evening walk.

Thinking about starting therapy? This might be the perfect time. Drop me a message, and let’s chat! 💬

31/01/2025

Spoon Theory: A Simple Way to Talk About Energy & Wellbeing

Ever had a day where even small tasks feel exhausting? Like just getting out of bed or making dinner takes way more effort than usual? Spoon theory is a great way to understand why.

The idea is simple: Imagine you start each day with a set number of spoons. Every task—brushing your teeth, answering emails, cooking—costs a spoon (or more). Some days, you have plenty. Other days, you barely have any. And when your spoons run out, you’re out of energy—no extras available.

I often use this metaphor in therapy to help people set boundaries, pace themselves, and navigate tough days with kindness. It’s not about guilt—it’s about knowing your limits and taking care of yourself.

If this resonates with you, therapy can be a space to explore what drains your spoons, what replenishes them, and how to create a life that feels more balanced—even on the hard days.

💬 Let’s chat—you're not in this alone.

19/11/2024

Perfectionism: The Hidden Stress of Always Trying to Be ‘Perfect’

Perfectionism can sneak into our lives in ways we don’t always notice, but it can be exhausting. It’s that inner pressure to always be on top of everything—whether it’s work, relationships, or personal achievements—and the fear of not measuring up if things aren’t flawless. Sound familiar?

The thing is, perfectionism isn’t just about wanting things to go well—it can affect your mental health, causing anxiety, stress, and burnout. 😔 It can keep you stuck in cycles of self-doubt, making you question whether your efforts are ever enough.

You might find yourself avoiding tasks because you're afraid of making mistakes, or spending too much time on the smallest details. But here's the truth: No one can be perfect all the time—and actually it might be a lot more fun and interesting not to be.

Therapy can be a great way to unpack those perfectionistic tendencies and learn to approach life with more balance and kindness toward yourself. 🌿

In therapy, we work through the pressures you put on yourself and how to manage expectations, without getting trapped in unrealistic standards. You’ll learn to embrace progress over perfection, give yourself permission to enjoy the meandering path and understand that your worth isn’t tied to being perfect.

If perfectionism is affecting your life, it’s time to get the support you deserve. 💛 Therapy can help you find a healthier, more compassionate way of thinking about yourself, your work, and your relationships.

Ready to break free from perfectionism? Let’s talk. 🌸

01/10/2024

Feeling Stuck? Here’s How to Start Moving Forward

Feeling like you're putting in so much effort but not seeing progress? Many people experience this at different stages of their lives. It’s normal to feel stuck, but there are practical steps you can take to start moving forward:

Understand Yourself: Take time to explore your thoughts and feelings. Journaling can be a powerful tool to identify patterns, understand what's driving you, and recognise what’s holding you back.

Challenge Negative Thoughts: Pay attention to your self-talk. Negative, limiting thoughts like "I’m not good enough" can feel true, but they aren’t always accurate. When these thoughts appear, try to challenge them—ask yourself if they're based on fact or simply fear. Practice treating yourself with the same kindness you’d give a friend.

Build Confidence Through Action: Taking small steps outside your comfort zone can help build your confidence. Growth happens when you try new things, even if they feel intimidating. Start with small actions and celebrate your progress—each small win can boost your belief in yourself.

Self-help can be incredibly effective, but if you're feeling overwhelmed or stuck in your attempts to change, therapy can provide the extra support you need. As a Person-Centred therapist, I help people uncover their true values and challenge unhelpful patterns. If you’re ready to explore this journey more deeply, I’m here to help.

Let’s connect when you're ready.

02/07/2024

Let's Talk Resilience: Navigating Life's Ups and Downs

Ever wondered how some people seem to bounce back from tough times with a smile? That’s resilience in action! It’s all about facing life’s curveballs with courage and adaptability. Think of it as your superpower for handling stress and setbacks. It's not just about toughing it out—it's about learning and growing stronger from every experience.

Top Tips for Building Resilience:
1. Get to Know Yourself: Tune in to your thoughts and feelings to spot those stress triggers.
2. Break It Down: Big problems? Break them into smaller, manageable steps.
3. Squad Goals: Surround yourself with supportive people who lift you up.
4. Me Time: Treat yourself to self-care—think exercise, good eats, and downtime.
5. Look on the Bright Side: Keep that glass half-full with a positive mindset.

How Can Counselling Help
- Uncover what’s behind your stresses: Talk it out with a professional who’s ready to help.
- Personalised Plans: Tailored strategies to boost your resilience and tackle challenges head-on.
- Stress reduction: Learn techniques like mindfulness to keep stress in check.

Ready to Boost Your Resilience?
Let’s chat! Drop me a message at talk@elizabethpaterson.co.uk to schedule a free 15-minute chat. Together, we'll build a stronger, more resilient you!

16/05/2024

The world can feel overwhelming when you experience it differently. As a neurodivergent person, you might face unique challenges in communication, social interaction, and sensory processing. These experiences can sometimes lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety, or depression.

This is where person-centred therapy can offer a safe and supportive space for you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. As an online person-centred counsellor, I believe in the power of unconditional positive regard, empathy, and genuineness to help you navigate your journey.

Why Person-Centred -Therapy Works for Neurodivergent Individuals:

• Respect for Individuality: This approach celebrates your unique perspective and experiences. There's no pressure to conform to a neurotypical norm.
• Focus on Your Strengths: We'll work together to identify and build upon your strengths, fostering self-confidence and empowerment.
• Empathic Understanding: I'll strive to understand your world from your perspective, creating a space where you feel truly heard and validated.
• Building Self-Awareness: Through therapy, you can gain a deeper understanding of your emotions, triggers, and coping mechanisms.

What to Expect in Online Sessions:

Online therapy offers a flexible and convenient way to access support. Sessions will be conducted through a secure platform, allowing you to connect from the comfort and privacy of your own space.

Taking the First Step:

If you're a neurodivergent person considering therapy, know that you're not alone. I'm here to offer a judgment-free zone where you can explore your challenges and work towards your goals. Contact me today to learn more about how online person-centered therapy can support you on your journey towards greater self-understanding and well-being.

13/02/2024

Love is Diverse, and Online Counselling Can Help Us All Thrive: Celebrating Connections This Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day often paints a singular picture of love: romantic couples celebrating their bond. But the reality of love is beautifully diverse, encompassing romantic partnerships, strong friendships, supportive families, and even special connections with ourselves. And just like these relationships come in many forms, so do the challenges and opportunities they present. That's where online counselling with me, can step in, not as a magic wand, but as support on your unique journey.

For Every Kind of Love:
Whether you're navigating the complexities of romantic relationships, strengthening the bond with your chosen family, or seeking deeper understanding in your friendships, online therapy can provide a safe space to explore, communicate, and grow. Whether your relationship is monogamous or polyamorous, q***r or straight - therapy can create a space where your experiences are validated and celebrated.

Finding Peace in Solo Flight:
Not everyone desires a traditional romantic partnership. Some individuals find fulfilling and meaningful lives on their own. Counselling can be a valuable tool for those who choose solo paths, helping cultivate self-love, navigate social pressures, and build strong communities of support. Whether you identify as single, independent, solo poly, or aromantic, I can help you embrace your path and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.

The Gift of Growth:
Regardless of your relationship status, online counselling can be a powerful tool for personal growth. It can help you understand your communication styles, identify unhealthy patterns, and develop effective coping mechanisms. Whether you're looking to strengthen your existing relationships, explore potential partners, or simply create a more fulfilling life for yourself, therapy can empower you to become the best version of yourself.

Remember, therapy is not just for "fixing" problems. It's an investment in self-awareness, communication, and emotional well-being. This Valentine's Day, consider giving the gift of love to yourself or someone you care about - the gift of open communication, deeper understanding, and the space to explore and grow.

05/12/2023

Embracing the Season with Compassion: A Message of Support
As the Christmas lights twinkle and the world sings carols of joy, it’s important to recognize that not everyone feels the warmth of the festive season in the same way. As your therapist, I want to extend a compassionate hand during what can be a challenging time for many.
Acknowledging Mixed Emotions
Christmas can be a tapestry of emotions. While it’s a time associated with happiness and togetherness, it can also stir up feelings of stress, loneliness, and reflection on the past year’s ups and downs. If you find yourself struggling, know that it’s okay to have a different experience from the holiday cheer portrayed around you. Your feelings are valid and important.
Creating a Space for Yourself
I encourage you to carve out moments for self-care. If the holiday hustle becomes overwhelming, take a step back. Allow yourself the space to breathe, to be still, and to honour your needs. Whether it’s a quiet evening with a book or a walk in the crisp winter air, do what feels nurturing for your soul.
Connection is Key
Remember, connection doesn’t always mean being in a crowd. It’s about the quality of interaction that brings a sense of belonging. If you’re away from family or choosing to spend the season in solitude, consider reaching out in ways that feel right for you—perhaps a message to an old friend, joining a community event, or even engaging with supportive online groups.
Seeking Support
Asking for help is a brave and proactive step. If you’re finding it difficult to cope, please reach out. My door is open to you, and there are many resources available that can provide the support you need. Together, we can navigate this season in a way that prioritises your well-being.
Embracing Your Journey
Your journey is unique, and so is your way of experiencing Christmas. It’s perfectly alright to celebrate in a way that suits you, even if that means creating new traditions that feel more comfortable. You have the freedom to define what the holidays mean for you.
As we wrap up another year, I want to remind you that you’re not alone. We’re in this together, and I’m here to walk beside you through the season’s highs and lows. Let’s embrace the end of the year with hope, compassion, and care for ourselves and each other.

10/11/2023

Wondering what that feeling is? Start in the middle and work your way outwards.

30/10/2023

Winter Depression

As the days grow shorter and temperatures drop, many of us find ourselves battling feelings of sadness, lethargy, and a general emotional downturn, some to the extent of Seasonal affective disorder (SAD). While there are various strategies to manage this condition, online counselling has emerged as a particularly effective and convenient approach.
I can help.

Contact me to find out more.
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