Corinne Beuzelin-General and Autism counselling

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Can I ask for your help for a moment? 📚

I’m currently working on the blurb for my book, and I’d really value your input.

When you’re deciding whether to pick up a book like mine, what makes you want to read on?

You can answer with a number, a few words, or a sentence — whatever feels easiest.
Feel free to pick few numbers.
What matters most to you in a blurb?

1️⃣ A clear sense of who the book is for

2️⃣ Knowing what problem it will help with

3️⃣ The author’s lived experience and credibility

4️⃣ A warm, human, relatable tone

5️⃣ Practical takeaways I can use in my work or everyday life

6️⃣ Something else (please tell me!)

And if you feel like expanding:
👉 What makes you think “Yes — this book is for me” when you’re reading a blurb?
Your answers will genuinely help shape how I present this book, so thank you so much 💙

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Expressing Autistic needs (especially at Christmas)

Sometimes saying “I need this because I’m Autistic” is enough.
If the person you’re talking to has a good understanding of Autism, that explanation may be all that’s needed.

But often — particularly with older generations we may spend time with at Christmas — it doesn’t quite land.
For many people, Autism genuinely “wasn’t a thing” when they were younger.
Although Autism was first formally described in the 1940s, public awareness and wider discussion didn’t really begin to grow until the 1980s and 1990s, and even then it was very narrow, medicalised, and mostly focused on children. Many people simply weren’t exposed to accurate information at all.
So when we say “I need this because I’m Autistic”, they may not understand what that actually means in practice.

What I’ve found can help — especially at times like Christmas — is explaining the need itself in simple, concrete language, rather than leading with the word Autism.
For example:
“It’s a bit loud for me in here, so I’m going upstairs for 10 minutes.”

“I’m going to step outside for some quiet and a quick break and come back shortly.”

“I’m feeling overwhelmed with lots of conversation, so I’m going to sit in the other room for a bit.”

“I need to eat earlier because leaving it too late makes it harder for me to enjoy it.”

This isn’t about justifying yourself — you are entitled to have your needs met.
I would love to live in a world where we could simply name a need and have it respected every time.
But in the world we currently live in, I’ve often found that when people understand the reason in everyday terms, they’re more likely to respond with flexibility rather than defensiveness.

It’s not fair that the responsibility so often falls on us — but sometimes this approach protects our energy and reduces conflict, especially during already demanding times like Christmas.

For counsellors supporting Autistic clients
You can help clients express their needs in ways that are more likely to land by:

Exploring who the need is being communicated to and their likely level of Autism understanding

Helping clients translate internal experiences (sensory overload, shutdown, overwhelm) into simple external explanations

Practising short, neutral scripts together (one sentence is often enough)

Reinforcing that adapting communication is about self-protection, not masking or minimising needs

Validating any grief or anger that comes with having to explain needs at all

Supporting clients to advocate for themselves safely and effectively is not about changing who they are — it’s about helping their needs be heard in a world that still has a lot of learning to do.
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05/12/2025

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Autism & Sleep (with Counsellor Prompts)

Sleep is such a huge issue in the Autistic community, and yet it’s still something that gets misunderstood or minimised. Research shows that up to 80% of Autistic people will experience a sleep disorder at some point in their lives. This can include difficulty falling asleep, night waking, early morning rising, insomnia cycles, and even higher rates of sleepwalking, sleep terrors, or sleep paralysis.

Autistic people also tend to get less REM sleep overall — around 15% compared to 23% for non-Autistic people. REM sleep is the stage linked to emotional processing and restoration, so when we naturally get less of it, we often wake feeling unrefreshed even if we’ve technically had “enough hours.” Add in things like melatonin disruption, circadian rhythm differences, restless leg syndrome, and genetic sleep-regulation differences, and it becomes clear that sleep issues in Autism are neurological, not behavioural.

This is why Autistic adults and children can struggle despite trying every “good sleep habit” in the book. It’s not laziness, lack of discipline, or staying up for fun. It’s biology.

For counsellors, this makes sleep a really important area to explore gently and compassionately. Here are some prompts and considerations:

Counsellor Prompts: Supporting Autistic Clients With Sleep Differences

🌙 Explore the client’s natural sleep rhythm
• “When does your body naturally want to sleep and wake?”
• “Do you have times of day when you feel most alert or most exhausted?”

🌙 Normalise neurological sleep differences
• “Many Autistic people experience insomnia, irregular sleep cycles or less REM sleep. Does that resonate for you?”

🌙 Check appointment times you have available will be suitable.
Because Autistic clients may not be morning people — and may genuinely struggle with early waking:
• “Would morning sessions feel supportive, or would a later time work better for your sleep pattern?”
Avoid offering first thing in the morning by default. For some Autistic clients, this sets them up to feel guilty or panicked when their sleep doesn’t follow neurotypical expectations.

🌙 Explore sensory barriers
• “Are there sensory factors at night — light, noise, temperature, textures — that impact your ability to settle?”

🌙 Acknowledge nighttime overwhelm
• “Do you find your mind becomes busier at night, especially if you’ve masked all day?”

🌙 Work with internalised pressure
• “Have you been made to feel your sleep is ‘wrong’ or ‘lazy’? How has that affected you?”

🌙 Collaborate around insomnia cycles
• “What do you usually do when you can’t sleep? What feels comforting rather than overwhelming?”

🌙 Focus on support, not fixing
• “What would ‘better supported sleep’ look like for you, even if the sleep itself doesn’t change overnight?”

Autistic sleep is different — not defective.
Recognising this can make a huge difference in how we support clients, and in how Autistic people understand themselves. Compassion, flexibility and choice around session times can go a long way for someone who is constantly battling a body clock that doesn’t fit the 9–5 world.

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Autistic Burnout in Counselling: What Counsellors Can Look For & How to Support

Autistic burnout often gets mistaken for ordinary stress, but it is very different.
It’s a deep, prolonged exhaustion caused by years of masking, pushing through sensory overwhelm, trying to meet neurotypical expectations, and living in a world that rarely matches our nervous systems.

Many autistic adults describe it as “hitting a wall you didn’t know was there.”

How it differs from ordinary stress

🌡 Ordinary stress:
• Improves with rest or a quiet weekend
• Linked to external stressors
• You still feel like “you”
• Motivation returns when life calms down

🔥 Autistic burnout:
• Can last weeks, months, or longer
• Impacts speech, memory, sensory tolerance, executive functioning
• Comes with identity confusion (“I don’t know who I am anymore”)
• Rest helps, but isn’t enough on its own
• Masking becomes almost impossible

How Counsellors Can Recognise Burnout

Autistic clients often won’t say “I’m in burnout” — sometimes they don’t realise it themselves.
Here are signs to look out for:

• Increased silence, shutdowns or going blank
• Struggling to find words
• Missing sessions they would usually attend
• Heightened sensory overwhelm (light, noise, movement)
• Reduced masking — appearing more “raw” or flat
• Feeling detached from identity
• Small tasks becoming overwhelming

These are not resistance. They are exhaustion.

Practical Ways Counsellors Can Support Clients in Burnout

1. Reduce communication demands

During burnout, even sending a text can feel too much.

You can agree together on a low-demand way to cancel or update you, such as:

• A single emoji (🔥 or 😴) meaning:
“I can’t attend today — I’m overwhelmed but safe.”
• A one-word message like “low capacity”.

This removes pressure, guilt and executive load.

2. Gently explore cognitive load

Helpful prompts include:

• “How much energy does daily functioning cost you right now?”
• “Are you noticing changes in speech, memory or sensory tolerance?”
• “Are tasks that were manageable now feeling harder?”

These questions help clients recognise burnout without feeling judged.

3. Lower the therapeutic demands

Burnout is not the time for emotionally intense work.

Consider:
• Slower pacing
• Shorter sessions temporarily
• More grounding and regulation work
• Allowing silence without pressure
• Permission to stim or move freely during the session

A low-demand room supports recovery.

4. Offer flexible attendance

• Temporary online sessions
• Camera-off sessions
• A weekly brief check-in instead of a full hour
• Adjustments to cancellation expectations

Flexibility preserves the therapeutic relationship without overwhelming the client.

5. Validate the experience

Naming it can be powerful:

• “What you’re describing is consistent with autistic burnout.”
• “Your nervous system is overwhelmed, not failing.”

Validation reduces shame and increases self-understanding.

6. Support practical adjustments outside sessions

Explore together:
• Reducing commitments
• Seeking accommodations
• Rest-first routines
• Sensory changes at home/work
• Lowering expectations rather than pushing through

Small shifts can prevent deeper collapse.

A final reminder

Autistic burnout isn’t laziness, avoidance, or resistance.
It’s the body and brain saying:

“I’ve carried too much, for too long.”

With the right support, clients can recover, rebuild capacity, and reconnect with their authentic selves — often more strongly than before.

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Masking & Unmasking in Counselling

I don’t know if other counsellors have noticed this, but some weeks there seems to be a real synchronicity between what’s happening in our own lives and what our clients bring into the room.
This week, the theme that kept circling back was unmasking, something I have been really thinking about myself.

Masking is a term often used in the Autistic community to describe the conscious and unconscious strategies we use to fit into neurotypical expectations. It can look like copying social scripts, hiding sensory distress, suppressing stims, forcing eye contact, or monitoring every word and facial expression. For many Autistic people, masking becomes second nature long before we even have the language to describe it.

One of the biggest challenges is that we often don’t actually know when we’re masking and when we’re not. When masking becomes a lifelong habit, it can blur our sense of who we are beneath it.
Years—or decades—of masking can leave people saying something I hear often in therapy:
“I don’t know who I am.”
And this is one of the reasons why unmasking is so important—because it’s not just about comfort, it’s about slowly developing and reconnecting with our real identity.

For me, the starting point of unmasking didn’t come from major life changes.
It came from noticing the mundanity of my days and gently asking myself:

Am I doing this because I want to?

Or because I feel I should?

Or because I’ve been conditioned to respond in a certain way?

Unmasking has become an ongoing, gentle unravelling. These days, it looks like:

Acknowledging my sensory needs instead of pushing through them

Allowing myself to use accessories or tools to cope

Being OK to ask someone to repeat something when my delayed processing needs time

Dancing every day at home because movement feels regulating and sensory-pleasing

Becoming vegetarian because I genuinely dislike the texture of meat

Using fidgets without apologising for it

Making space for the alone time I need to regulate and recharge

And something new I’ve been allowing myself: running my hands and fingers through the air or the wind — a movement I’ve always loved but used to hide.
I still do it discreetly, but it feels grounding and joyful in a way I no longer want to mask.

These are just a few examples.

Becoming our Autistic, authentic selves—as much as possible within the world we live in—can be incredibly beneficial for our mental health. But finding the balance between authenticity and what society deems “appropriate” can be tricky, and it takes energy, patience, and compassion for ourselves.

And as counsellors, helping clients unmask isn’t simply about reducing behaviours—it’s often about helping them rebuild a sense of identity. Tools like values cards can be incredibly helpful here, offering a gentle way to explore what genuinely matters to them, rather than what they’ve been performing or feeling obligated to prioritise.

Prompts for Counsellors Supporting Autistic Clients with Unmasking

Exploring the Mask

“What parts of your day feel the most effortful or draining? What might that tell us about where you are masking?”

“If masking wasn’t necessary in this moment, what might you do differently?”

“What rules have you internalised about how you should behave, speak, or react?”

“When you say ‘I don’t know who I am,’ what parts feel missing or unclear?”

Discovering the Authentic Self

“Let’s explore something small you enjoy—how does your body respond when you allow yourself to do it openly?”

“What sensory experiences feel comforting or regulating for you?”

“Are there preferences you’ve dismissed in the past because they didn’t seem socially acceptable?”

“Would exploring value cards help us identify what genuinely matters to you?”

Building Awareness

“How does your body feel when you’re masking compared to when you’re not?”

“Are there situations where masking feels automatic? What cues your brain to put the mask on?”

Reducing the Mask Safely

“Where are the low-risk environments where you can experiment with unmasking?”

“What might a 5% reduction in masking look like—just a small easing, not a big leap?”

Identity and Self-Compassion

“Who are you when no one is watching?”

“What parts of you have gone unnoticed, even by yourself?”

“How can we honour the younger version of you who learned masking as a survival strategy?”

Balancing Authenticity and Safety

“Which aspects of unmasking feel empowering?”

“Which aspects feel risky, and how can we approach them with care?”

“What boundaries do you need to protect your energy as you unmask more?”

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🌿 When RSD Kicks In – Personally and in the Therapy Room

Over the last couple of weeks, RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) has come up quite a few times in my work — and if I’m honest, in my own life too.

A little example from me:
I was out walking when I saw a woman carrying her dog.
Me: “Well that’s a different definition of dog walking!” (laugh)
She smiled politely and carried on.
Later at home, my brain went into full replay mode:
“What if the dog was poorly and she was taking it to the vet? She’ll think I’m so stupid. And because it was near home, she’s probably a neighbour — I’ll probably bump into her again. That’s going to be so embarrassing. Corinne, you’re such an idiot. You know you’re no good at small talk and should keep your mouth shut…”

You get the idea!

Eventually I managed to self-regulate by naming what was happening: “Okay, RSD is kicking my butt.”
I reminded myself that I didn’t know the facts, that it’s not the end of the world even if I said something a bit silly, and that it just feels awful because my brain is interpreting it as rejection.

💬 What is RSD?

RSD stands for Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria – it describes the intense emotional pain some people feel when they perceive rejection, criticism or disapproval (real or imagined).
It’s not a formal diagnosis but is widely recognised among neurodivergent (ND) people, especially those with ADHD.
Research and clinical observations suggest that up to 99% of people with ADHD experience some degree of RSD symptoms.
It’s also often reported by autistic people, as emotional regulation differences, past experiences of being misunderstood, and social anxiety can all amplify sensitivity to perceived rejection.

🧠 Why does it happen?

Some theories suggest:

Emotional regulation differences – the ND brain can react more quickly and intensely to emotional cues.

Social experiences – many autistic or ADHD individuals have grown up feeling misunderstood or criticised for being “different”, making them hyper-aware of potential rejection.

Brain chemistry – differences in dopamine and threat-response systems may make social exclusion feel physically painful.

💭 How RSD can affect therapy

I’ve seen how RSD can quietly shape what happens between counsellor and client.
A client might leave a session thinking:

“I didn’t work hard enough today.”

“I said something stupid.”

“My counsellor must be disappointed in me.”

“I probably took up too much time.”

They might come back feeling anxious, overly apologetic, or avoidant. Sometimes they even cancel a future session because the shame feels too big.

From the therapist side, we might miss the signs if we don’t understand what’s going on underneath — or if we experience RSD ourselves and interpret the client’s withdrawal as rejection of us.

When we name RSD for what it is, it brings awareness, compassion and perspective back into the room.
We can gently explore:

“What are the facts here?”

“What story is your brain telling you?”

“Could there be another explanation?”

“What would it feel like to show yourself the same kindness you’d offer someone else?”

RSD doesn’t mean someone is “too sensitive”. It means their emotional wiring reacts fast and deep — but with understanding and support, those spirals can soften.

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🌸 World Menopause Day 🌸

I’ve never been too keen on “World Days.”
Because most of the things we highlight once a year — menopause, mental health, autism, equality — should matter every single day.

But I can see the value in these days when they spark honest conversations and help others feel less alone.

So, on World Menopause Day, and as someone who is now five years post-menopause, I want to share a few reflections — especially around how menopause can feel very different for neurodivergent women.

Menopause hit me like a train.
One night I went to bed fine; the next I woke up achy, exhausted, emotional, and flooded with hot flushes, day and night. It stayed that way for years.

Let’s be honest: unless you have a truly understanding GP, you’re often left to navigate it on your own.

For autistic and neurodivergent women, the experience can be even more intense.
Our bodies and brains process change differently. Hormonal shifts can affect sensory regulation, emotions, executive function, and sleep — all things that are already finely balanced for many of us.

🌀 PMDD and hormonal sensitivity

Some women also experience PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) — a severe form of PMS that can bring despair, exhaustion, anxiety, irritability, and mood crashes.

Research shows autistic women are more likely to experience PMDD than non-autistic women — around 14% vs 9% according to recent studies, though some surveys suggest it could be higher.

That feeling of falling apart” isn’t made up It’s hormonal, neurological, and very real.
And if you live with PMDD, you’re already predisposed to struggle more during menopause, as your body is particularly sensitive to hormonal fluctuations.

💫 Menopause and autism: a perfect storm

Emerging research tells us that autistic and ADHD women report:

More intense psychological and physical menopause symptoms

Increased sensory sensitivities during perimenopause

Amplified autistic traits (more overwhelm, emotional volatility, executive struggles)

Feeling dismissed or misunderstood by healthcare professionals

A 2024 study even described it as a “perfect storm” — the collision of hormonal chaos, life stress, and neurodivergent wiring.

Many women say that menopause made masking harder, emotions sharper, and recovery from stress slower. Some describe it as “losing the version of myself I used to be.”

🌿 What helps — and what I’ve learned

1. Track your symptoms.
Keep a journal or app — note your mood, sleep, energy, and sensory changes. It helps you notice patterns and advocate for yourself with doctors.

2. Ask for support and don’t downplay your needs.
If your GP doesn’t listen, ask to see another. Ask directly about HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) — it’s not for everyone, but for many women (including neurodivergent women) it can make a life-changing difference.

3. Make lifestyle changes that support balance.
A nutritious diet, regular gentle exercise, and stress-reducing practices such as breathing techniques, time in nature, or creative outlets can help stabilise mood and energy.
There’s a lot of conflicting information out there — so do your research, and if you feel something might help, speak to your doctor for proper advice and support.

4. Stay connected.
Menopause can feel isolating — especially when you’re already masking or managing sensory overload. Find spaces (online or in person) where you can share honestly and be believed.

5. Educate and advocate.
Share your story. Encourage open conversations in therapy rooms, workplaces, and friendship groups.

Menopause is a tough journey for any woman.
But for neurodivergent women, it can feel like stepping into uncharted territory — one where even your own body doesn’t play by the rules anymore.

The good news? It does settle.
And many of us come out the other side with a new sense of calm, clarity, and authenticity — often more ourselves than we’ve ever been.

Let’s keep talking about this — not just on World Menopause Day, but every day.
Because awareness only matters when it turns into understanding, compassion, and real change. ❤️

7🪷 For Counsellors

As counsellors, we have an important role to play in normalising conversations about menopause in the therapy room.
Many women — especially neurodivergent ones — are unsure whether what they’re experiencing is “normal,” or they’ve been dismissed when raising it elsewhere.

Simply asking gentle, open questions about energy, sleep, emotions, or bodily changes can make a world of difference.
When we invite menopause into the conversation, we help clients feel seen in both their emotional and physical realities — something therapy is uniquely placed to do.

Here are a few prompts that may help open that dialogue:

🌸 Exploring bodily and emotional changes

Have you noticed any changes in your energy, sleep, or mood lately?

How have these changes affected how you see yourself or relate to others?

Are there any physical symptoms you’ve been living with that impact your wellbeing day to day?

🌀 Hormones, emotions, and overwhelm

Do you notice times when you feel more emotionally raw or sensitive than usual?

How do hormonal shifts or your menstrual cycle (if still present) seem to affect you emotionally?

What happens for you when your body feels unpredictable?

🌿 Connection and self-care

What kinds of things (or moments) help you feel most grounded or soothed lately?

How do you currently look after your body and mind — and what feels harder to do these days?

What sort of rest or downtime actually restores you, rather than just “filling the time”?

🧭 Identity and transition

How do you feel about this stage of life and what it represents for you?

Are there ways in which you feel you’re changing — physically, emotionally, or in how you view yourself?

What helps you stay connected to the parts of yourself you value most?

💬 Opening space for menopause talk

We don’t often talk about menopause openly — would it feel helpful to include it in our conversations?

How supported do you feel in understanding what your body is going through right now?

If you’ve brought up menopause or hormonal changes before (with friends, family, or professionals), how was that received?

🌼 For neurodivergent women in particular

Do you notice any changes in sensory sensitivity, sleep, or emotional regulation at certain times?

How do these changes affect your routines or your sense of control?

What kind of environment or support feels most stabilising when you’re going through hormonal shifts?

Encouraging these conversations can help clients feel understood and validated at a time when many feel their experiences are dismissed.
Menopause isn’t just a medical event — it’s a deeply emotional, social, and sometimes identity-shifting transition.
And for neurodivergent women, that recognition can make all the difference. 💛

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💬 Why Autistic People Often Struggle with Boundaries

Many Autistic people find setting or keeping boundaries really hard — and it’s not because they don’t care about themselves or others. It’s often because of a mix of lived experiences and how our brains work.

🌱 1. Early invalidation and masking
From a young age, many of us learn to hide our natural ways of being to fit in. Over time, this can disconnect us from our needs — making it hard to know where our boundaries even are.

💬 2. Difficulty identifying or expressing needs
Differences in interoception (body awareness) or alexithymia (understanding and expressing feelings difficulties) can mean we don’t always recognise when something feels “too much.” If we can’t name what’s wrong, it’s harder to speak up.

⚖️ 3. Social communication differences
Boundaries are often unspoken and full of subtle social cues — things Autistic people can miss or misread. We might also worry that saying “no” sounds rude or will upset someone.

❤️ 4. People-pleasing and fear of conflict
Many Autistic people, especially women, have learned to avoid conflict to stay safe or accepted. Saying no can trigger anxiety or fear of rejection, even when we’re exhausted.

🗯 5. Trauma and power imbalances
Being misunderstood, bullied, or taken advantage of can teach us that it’s safer to comply. Boundaries can then feel dangerous, even though they’re necessary for wellbeing.

🌊 6. All-or-nothing thinking
Sometimes, we swing between having no boundaries or having walls so high that nobody can get close. Finding that middle ground takes time, safety, and self-compassion.

💡 Building healthy boundaries starts with self-awareness — noticing what feels okay and what doesn’t, and practising small “no’s” in safe relationships.
A neurodivergent-affirming therapist can help you explore this gently — not by forcing change, but by helping you reconnect with your needs and your voice.

For counsellors:
When working with Autistic clients, consider exploring how they’ve learned to survive socially — what rules or fears shape their boundaries? Sometimes “I can’t say no” is really “I’ve never felt safe to.”
Creating that safety might be the first boundary they ever get to keep. 💛

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