Pockets of Wisdom Psychotherapy

14/04/2022

Do you remember a story about a bird who had spent a long time locked in a cage, unable to fly freely ?

And, one day, when the cage door was left open accidentally, rather than flutter to freedom, it stayed in the cage behaving as if it was still locked in.

I've behaved like this in my own life. Unable to see the reality of the growth, resources & skills I've developed and not acknowledged.

That circumstances have changed & I need to update my emotional learning with regards to that change.

When I started to consider this and learn from my future self, rehearse those changes in a relaxed way and tolerate the uncertainty of change, I was on my way.

Maybe you can relate to that bird story.
Either way, I hope you liked it 🙂

To find out more about the
Human Givens approach and how it can support you and your colleagues. DM me.

31/12/2021

Self Soothing Skills 🥰

Honestly, self soothing protocols should be taught in schools! If we don't have self soothing plan in place then we can feel like a boat being thrashed around by an tumultuous sea of emotion⛵️

Try these out when feeling activated / triggered.

✨ Feel your feet on the ground & breathe in once, then another short inhalation, followed by a long exhalation. Do this 3-5 times.

✨Place your hands in front of you and loop your thumbs together so your hands look like butterfly wings🦋 Place them on your chest and alternate taping each hand.

✨ Repeat- "I am safe in my body" This is especially helpful if you get a trauma response around certain people.

Let me know what works for you and if this resonated 😍✨🦋

Lee ✨

03/10/2021

Depression can start like this....

02/10/2021

23/09/2021

INTENSITY!
Don't mistake intensity for intimacy and love. A flavouring here and there can be part of a wider relationship but love needs feet to walkthrough time.

If we become dazzled by the fireworks of intensity without the foundations of respect, friendship and admiration - like all fireworks , they burn out and can leave us scorched in the process.
Consider these questions when assessing a relationship.
Can you talk about most things and feel safe & heard and not worry about being dismissed ?
Do you feel your partner takes an interest in you?
Can you relax and feel safe & calm with them?
Do you feel loved by them ?
Do you laugh & play ?
Do you respect & admire each other ?
Are you friends?
Are you physically affectionate none sexual & sexual?
Agree? Hope something resonates! 🧠💕✨

20/06/2021

When agitated this can happen... ✨

14/06/2021

Thought provoking 🌸

13/06/2021

HALT!

HALT means to stop and recenter. By using HALT if you feel bad or overly stressed you can take 15 mins to look after yourself and find the best next step forwards.

H- hungry Have you eaten properly and drunk enough water. Your brain needs nutrients to function properly & to keep blood sugar balanced. Eating regular meals helps you to function with more ease.

A - anxious / angry is something bothering you, that you haven’t aired? Do you need a few minutes to calm down and do some 7-11 breathing to see & think more clearly.

L- lonely- being alone is not the same as being lonely. We all need some privacy but we also need social connections. Loneliness is more connected to meaning and purpose and the emotional intimacy connected with a relationship. Taking time each day or so for positive interaction with a friend, relative or colleague helps meet the need for community & connection.

T- tired
Bring tired creates many emotional & physical concerns. Progress is much easier you have the energy to deal with life’s challenges . Do you need to get a early night & some quality sleep? Create a wind down ritual to invite sleep in. Do you need to do some none- sleep deep rest to help restore yourself during the day?

It’s a way of checking in with yourself and staying on track 🙏

11/04/2021

STRUGGLING WITH DEPRESSION? 🤓
Depression is a human vulnerability. People can sink into a depressed mood when their innate physical or emotional needs are not being adequately met, perhaps because of some setback or traumatic event, and they begin to worry about what has happened, or what might happen, and how they will cope.
This leads to stong emotions that lock our attention and with depression it gets hooked on all the negative things in our life.
Feelings of frustration, anxiety, anger or guilt, worthlessness can become overwhelming but, instead of taking action to deal with the situation, which would bring the uncomfortable emotional arousal down, once we are in this situation we can feel exhausted and powerless and worry even more – creating a mountain of negative expectations.

Every little thing we worry about and do not resolve in the day is translated into dreams the next night. So excessive worrying increases the amount of dreaming that we do –Extended dreaming is exhausting, not just because it deprives us of restful and restorative slow-wave sleep (which should make up three-quarters of our sleep time) but the next morning we awake lacking motivation to get up and do anything. This leads us to withdraw from the parts of life that helped meet our emotional needs and so the cycle continues.
Who can relate? 🌈💕🌈
Hope this helps inform you 🙏
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23/03/2021

Morning tea with Lisa & Lee...

Connection
Community
Coping skills

If you struggle to ask for what you want this may help:)