11/04/2026
Finishing off with what feels like the most important statistic from the 2017 Cochrane Library's meta-analysis on Continuous Support Through Labour.
For me personally, it doesn't matter what kind of birth you have. My biggest hope is to enable each individual to have as positive experience an experience as possible, to feel heard and in control, even if birth deviate from the original plan. Yes, I'm also a big believer in physiological birth, I see it as a miraculous and under resourced potential that is far less seen than is possible. But my beliefs don't really matter, they really don't, and this is the biggest driver in my work, far more than my awe of physiological birth. Because what a positive birth means can change for each individual, and no one else has a right to tell you what that is. I whole heartedly support any decision you choose, be that it is fully informed. Elective cesarean, go you! Know that you will gladly accept morphine if you need a break, yes. Want to have a completely unmedicated birth, I'm here for it! None of these are my choices, as none ever are, they are always solely the person giving birth's.
That is our job as doulas, it would be highly unethical otherwise.
So what is the biggest driving factor for a positive birth? The hypnobirthing company I first trained with always said it was feeling mostly calm and in control of your choices. Does this mean calm 100% of the time? Not necessarily, but yes for the majority of the time. I'd also argue it's hard to feel calm when sensations become unbearable. So yes labour can be intense maybe even get to a point where you start to feel you can't do it (likely transition in a physiological birth!), but if for the most part you feel like you can stay on top of the intensity and exist within it, it remains a positive and empowering experience (heck yeah I did that!).
Imogen and I have made a birth prep course that breaks down physiological labour and help you and your partner understand how best to nurture it, learn tools for calming your system ๐ we include this in some of our doula packages, but it's also absolutely possible to just do the course.