Karen Law - Transformational Therapist

04/08/2025

Some of the things you’re carrying… might not even be yours.

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating family patterns, even ones you swore you’d break, you’re not alone.
✨ It’s not a lack of willpower.
✨ It’s not your fault.
✨ It’s your nervous system doing what it learned to do.

But healing is possible.
In this week’s blog, I explore intergenerational trauma, why it gets passed on, and how deep change is possible, starting with you.

I also share a personal story from my own QEC journey of releasing a pattern passed down through three generations.

This work is tender, but it’s powerful, and you don’t have to do it alone.

🖋 “Inherited Wounds: Healing Intergenerational Patterns That Keep You Stuck.”
https://www.karenlaw.co.uk/post/inherited-wounds-healing-intergenerational-patterns-that-keep-you-stuck

28/07/2025

Gratitude.

I usually go for a swim on a Monday morning. Today the pool was fairly busy for lane swimming. I had done a few lengths noticing a woman I hadn’t seen before.

But I’m only seeing her face and her hair is slicked back, while I’m not wearing my glasses. Without them things can have softer edges.

As I reached the end of the lane and turned to start going back, the women came behind me and gave me a lovely smile, saying hello. I realised I know her, although I haven’t seen her in person for many years. She’s not a friend as such. She was my daughter’s gymnastics coach.

We had a chat at the pool side, as she asked me how I am, I shared what my daughter is doing now and asked about the coach’s business.

What really struck me what that a person I didn’t expect to be all that interested in me took the time to make contact and have a wee chat before we both reusumed our swims.

I didn’t expect to feel so good about such a simple interaction. It was such a lovely reminder about the need for human connection.

I typically can be so lost in my thoughts when out and about that I probably miss many chances to say hello to others.

With gratitude, I intend to look for chances to say hello more often rather than rushing by in my own world.

What have you been grateful for today?

(Pic of the time I went wild swimming last year in the North Sea in September for the algorithms)

28/07/2025

Sometimes understanding your trauma isn’t enough. You may have talked, explored, journaled, maybe even done therapy, but the same patterns and beliefs keep showing up.

That’s where QEC (Quantum Energy Coaching) can help. It works directly with the subconscious, using neuroscience-based tools to gently shift beliefs and support real change, without reliving past hurts.

This week’s blog explores how it works, the science behind it, and what real clients have experienced after QEC.

🌿 Read more here: https://www.karenlaw.co.uk/post/beyond-talk-how-qec-helps-shift-deep-rooted-beliefs-and-trauma-responses



The Studio, Kirriemuir

25/07/2025

You don’t have to stay in survival mode.”

If anxiety, flashbacks, or a traumatic birth are still affecting you — even years later — you’re not alone.

💜 I use gentle, effective approaches that work with the nervous system to support deep healing. No need to relive the trauma. Just real change, one step at a time.

Based in Kirrie, or online. Message me for a no-pressure chat.

24/07/2025

That moment when you’re presenting to an NHS Community Mental Health Team with your colleague and they applaud you and tell you they think you’re both amazing!

I mean we were just telling them about our service and answering their questions.

That kind of feedback while doing your PAYE job is so heartwarming and feeds your soul, supporting you in your private practice too.

I am honoured to work with some of the most stigmatised and misunderstood people in the community. They are still human beings and respond really well to being treated with kindness and compassion.

21/07/2025

Another pregnancy can stir up deep fears after a traumatic birth, even if everything seems “fine” this time around.

This post is for women who feel overwhelmed, numb, or scared as they face pregnancy after trauma.

You don’t need to go through it unsupported.

💜 Read the blog: https://www.karenlaw.co.uk/post/when-the-next-baby-feels-like-too-much-how-to-cope-with-pregnancy-after-birth-trauma

19/07/2025

You might know that alongside my private practice I also work part time for a mental health charity.

Last year we published an article that I am proud to have contributed to: https://changemh.org/insight/beyond-the-voices-challenging-stigma-around-hearing-voices/

Please take a few minutes to read it.

(Pic of a wee rainbow for algorithms)

18/07/2025

Got chatting to a man in the sauna after my swim this morning.

After a little back and forth about the weather and temperature we got to a more serious topic.

I said something, one short sentence, and then he launched in with his opinions and experience.

I gave him space and listened to him.

At no time did he pause for me to contribute and then he got up to leave.

I felt shut down.

I don’t suppose he realises what he did.

I wondered whether to share my experience. After a lifetime of experiencing patriarchy and misogyny I fear I’ll be shut down again.

But here’s the thing. People do this all the time.

Whether you’re male or female, please provide space for others in conversations.

I know I’ve not always got it right but I do try to be considerate.

I like to think of situations like this morning as a gentle reminder to me:

Listen to understand, not to respond.

(Pic of fluffy clouds for the algorithms)

14/07/2025

"At least your baby’s healthy."

You may have heard those words, and felt the ache of something left unspoken.

Many parents grieve the birth they didn’t have. It’s not about being ungrateful, or dramatic, or stuck in the past. It’s about mourning the loss of an experience you needed: a sense of safety, connection, or being heard.

This week I’m writing about the quiet grief that so often follows a birth that didn’t go to plan. Whether your birth was traumatic, medicalised, or simply not what you’d hoped for, this post is for you.

You don’t have to pretend it was OK.
You don’t have to carry it alone.

💜 Read more here: https://www.karenlaw.co.uk/post/it-wasn-t-what-i-expected-grieving-the-birth-you-didn-t-have

You’re allowed to grieve the birth you didn’t have. This kind of grief is real, even if others can’t see it.

11/07/2025

I LOVE the sunshine.

The warmth, the freedom of wearing just one layer of clothing, and not needing to carry anything else “just in case” it gets cooler later.

Today, I wore a sleeveless shift dress to a work event. It was attended by quite a few people.

“What’s the big deal?” you might ask.

Well… for about 40 years, I was so self-conscious and paranoid that people would judge my skinny limbs, I would always wear long trousers or skirts and long sleeves in public so no one could see them.

“What changed?” you now ask.

QEC.

Quantum Energy Coaching is a gentle but powerful approach that works with the subconscious mind to release old beliefs, trauma responses and emotional pain. I trained in QEC five years ago and continue to deepen my knowledge through ongoing experiential training, where we bring our own ‘stuff’ to work on as we learn.

A couple of summers ago, I realised I’d popped into town still wearing my shorts and T-shirt, and I hadn’t even thought about it. I was astounded!

It no longer seemed to bother me that people might see my legs and arms.

And today? I wore a simple dress. Bare arms. Bare legs. I look at my legs now and marvel at them.

They’re pretty fantastic, if you don’t mind me saying so.

After decades of hating my legs, I now love and appreciate them.

This transformation has come from using QEC to heal childhood trauma, release limiting beliefs, and let go of deep-seated shame. I’ve also been doing intergenerational work to clear the emotional baggage passed down from previous generations, the kind of things that were never truly mine.

What would you like to change in your life?

Nail-biting?
Imposter syndrome?
Those are just two more of the things I’ve cleared using QEC.

You don’t have to stay stuck.
You don’t have to keep carrying what’s not yours.

What would you like to shift?

10/07/2025

The problem with ADHD is that it’s symptoms are what society views as “moral failings”.

Can’t do the laundry?
Lazy.

Can’t cook every night?
Grow up.

Struggling with paralysis?
Lacking willpower.

But the truth is, ADHD isn’t a lack of willpower, it’s not laziness or childish behaviour.

ADHD is a disability which is directly tied to the executive functions.

When someone struggles with executive DYSFUNCTION, it affects their time management, planning & organizing, working memory and task initiation & completion.

To successfully do ANY task, an ADHDer usually has to push through their DYSFUNCTION first, in order to be functional second.

This causes someone with ADHD to give 150% every single time, while on the outside it looks like they’re just doing a “simple task”.

It’s no wonder ADHDers get paralyzed with just the thought of starting or completing anything, when they have to overcome so much to just take the first step.

If you relate, please know you’re not alone & your struggles are valid.

ADHD ≠ “lazy” - the only lazy people are those who can’t take 10 minutes to research someone else’s disability before they judge.

Share this post if you understand. 🖤

10/07/2025

Were/are you impacted by technology impacting on you?

I was! The scan brought me forward by 9 days so caused me a lot of stress as I tried to make informed decisions about whether to accept or decline the induction being offered.

I was able to stick to my guns and decline it. So my VBAC was ultimately at 42+1 scan edd, or 40+6 LMP edd.

Would have saved me so much stress if we’d been working to MY dates.

Check out what Dr Sarah Wickham says in her blog post 👇🏼

Cassie knew the exact date she conceived.

She’d had IVF, so there was no guesswork involved.

She and her midwife worked out her estimated due date accordingly: September 1st.

But when she went for a scan, the machine said otherwise.

Despite her certainty, the ultrasound re-dated her pregnancy to August 27th.

And because the system didn’t allow for human discretion, the sonographer had to find a creative way to work around the technology to ensure Cassie’s original due date wasn’t overridden.

This isn’t an isolated case. I’ve heard similar stories from other women and midwives. Whether it’s due dates, BMI recording, or other data points, we are seeing situations where technology—rather than women and their care providers—is dictating decisions in maternity care.

Why does this matter? Because automated systems, when designed without flexibility, can override individual needs and create unnecessary interventions.

In my latest blog post, I explore Cassie’s experience and the wider implications of technology-driven maternity care.

You can read it at https://www.sarawickham.com/articles-2/the-madness-of-modern-measurement/