Adrian Murray Counselling

05/03/2026

05/03/2026

It's OK to move at your own pace. Growth doesn't have a timeline. 🌿

05/03/2026

🎬 Blokes’ Cinema Night – 20th March 2026
📍Cineworld Rugby
Film of choice is Crime 101.

Fancy a night out without the pressure?
No big speeches. No expectations. Just a film, a brew, and good company.

We’re bringing the lads together for a relaxed cinema night — a chance to switch off, have a laugh, and just be around other men who get it.

🗓 Friday 20th March
🎥 Film + chilled atmosphere
🤝 Come solo or bring a mate
💬 No pressure to talk — just show up

If you’ve been meaning to get out more or connect with other blokes, this is your sign.

Just show up.

Final numbers and snack selections required by 6th March 2026

Join the WhatsApp group for the event here….

https://chat.whatsapp.com/LDs7enQUKf448lSwfIZ3j0?mode=gi_t

05/03/2026

Most men don’t struggle because they’re weak.
They struggle because they stay silent.

At Back & Forth, we don’t fix.
We don’t judge.
We just create space.

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is just show up.

If that message matters to you, share it.

16/01/2026

Most people don’t realize that life doesn’t repeat because of fate — it repeats because of loops.

This image shows two very different cycles we can fall into, often without noticing.

At the center of both is INTENTION.
Not the intention we say we have — but the intention we act from when things get uncomfortable.

🔁 The Victim Loop

This is the loop of unconscious living.

Something happens. A situation triggers discomfort.

Instead of facing it, we:

Ignore what hurts

Deny our role

Blame circumstances or people

Rationalize our behavior

Resist change

Hide from truth

And then… the same situation shows up again.
Different face. Same lesson.

The Victim Loop feels safe because it protects the ego.
But safety comes at a cost: stagnation.

Nothing grows here. Nothing heals here.
Only stories do.

🔁 The Accountability Loop

This is the loop of conscious growth.

The same situation arises — but this time, we choose differently.

We:

Recognize what’s really happening

Own our response, not the story

Forgive ourselves and others

Self-examine without self-attack

Learn the lesson

Take action, even when it’s uncomfortable

This loop doesn’t feel easy.
But it feels free.

Because every pass through it makes you wiser, lighter, and stronger.

⚖️ The Truth Few Talk About

Both loops begin with the same situation.
The difference is choice.

You don’t escape the Victim Loop by blaming less people.
You escape it by telling yourself the truth.

And you don’t enter the Accountability Loop by being perfect.
You enter it by being honest.

🌱 A Gentle Reminder

Accountability is not punishment.
It’s self-respect.

Forgiveness is not weakness.
It’s clarity.

Growth doesn’t happen when life gets easier —
It happens when you get braver.

Ask yourself today:
Which loop am I feeding — and which one is feeding me?

Because the moment you change your loop,
your entire life trajectory shifts.

16/01/2026

It's never helped me for people to try to 'solve' my distress or : 'cheer up', 'put it behind you', 'be positive'. We need neurobiological soothing and safety first – regulation before integration.

Find out more at https://www.carolynspring.com/trauma-webinar

16/01/2026

Barlas Günay, Psychologist