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Made me smile 🤩
28/10/2025

Made me smile 🤩

I recognise this in myself ,Anyine else in Liminal ?
12/10/2025

I recognise this in myself ,
Anyine else in Liminal ?

08/10/2025

Im sharing this after seeing it on another page ,a few stood out for me, does any stand out for you ?👀🙄

13 Truths That Broke Me

1. Your desire to be liked is the biggest obstacle to being respected.

2. The comfort zone is the most dangerous place you will ever live.

3. You can't heal in the same environment that made you sick.

4. What you are currently avoiding is the very thing that will set you free.

5. People's actions will always tell you what their words never could.

6. You will keep repeating the same lesson until you are humble enough to learn it.

7. No one is thinking about your embarrassing moments as much as you are.

8. The biggest risk you can ever take in life is to take no risks at all.

9. Holding a grudge is drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

10. If you don't build your own dream, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

11. The truth is, no one is coming to save you from your life.

12. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

13. Sometimes, letting go is simply the brave acceptance that you deserve better.

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I've been quite on here recently due to being in the process of making changes within my practice. Today marked my last ...
03/09/2025

I've been quite on here recently due to being in the process of making changes within my practice.

Today marked my last day of seeing clients at the beautiful Manor Farm, where I have had the privilege of working since January. Due to personal reasons, it is now time for me to move my practice online.

I feel deeply grateful and honoured to have sat alongside clients here, holding space for their stories, their struggles, their laughter, and their tears.

This evening, as my favourite thing since a very small child , a rainbow 🌈 stretched over Manor Farm, I couldn’t help but feel it reflected every emotion that has been shared within those walls , each colour representing the rich and varied experiences brought with such courage and honesty.

Though I will miss the calm surroundings of Manor Farm, I look forward to continuing this important work online, where I can still be alongside my clients old & new on their journeys.

On Saturday I got all dressed up and headed to the races. I’d paid good money, made plans, and felt the pressure to “mak...
21/07/2025

On Saturday I got all dressed up and headed to the races. I’d paid good money, made plans, and felt the pressure to “make the most of it.” But when I got there, the reality didn’t match the vision.
🌧It was raining, everything felt cramped, and I was deeply uncomfortable.🌧

I stood for a while, trying to tell myself to stick it out,after all, it had cost a lot, and I didn’t want to let others down. but then I paused.

I tuned into myself and gently asked, “What do you actually need right now?”
The answer?
Calm. Comfort. Space. Safety.

So, I left.

After just one hour, I made a call asking to be picked up and went home. Instead of beating myself up, I reminded myself:
👉 I’m an adult now. I don’t need to justify doing what’s right for me.
👉 I’m allowed to change my mind, even if something cost a lot or someone else might be disappointed.
👉 My well-being is valid, even when it doesn’t look “sensible” or “socially acceptable.”

This moment wasn’t just about leaving the races it was about breaking a pattern.

It’s something I often talk about in therapy: SUNK COST THINKING
that deep pull to keep going with something simply because we’ve already invested time, money, or energy.
We tell ourselves:

“I’ve paid for it, so I have to stay.”

“I’ve committed, so I can’t back out.”

“I don’t want to waste it.”

But what if staying is costing you even more emotionally, mentally, or physically?

💭 Do you notice this pattern in your own life?
💭 Do you find yourself pushing through discomfort, suppressing your needs, justifying why you must continue?
💭 Would you like to explore a different way of showing up for yourself?

If this resonates, maybe it’s time to talk.
I offer a confidential, compassionate counselling space where you can explore these patterns and begin gently shifting them.

📩 Get in touch if you'd like to see whether counselling could be the next step in honouring yourself more fully.

09/07/2025

Taking a welcomed break

Feeling truly grateful to work & enjoy the between times the beautiful Manor Farm🫶
09/07/2025

Feeling truly grateful to work & enjoy the between times the beautiful Manor Farm🫶

🌿 Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone 🌿Today I attended an open event at the beautiful Manor Farm, where a team all with di...
05/07/2025

🌿 Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone 🌿

Today I attended an open event at the beautiful Manor Farm, where a team all with different skills and passions joined together to celebrate the opening of Cygnet Manor.

And if I’m honest… i felt a little out of my comfort zone.

There’s a small part of me, little Bernie who still sometimes whispers, “You’re not good enough to fit in.” That child part of me who used to feel unsure, awkward, or like I didn’t quite belong.

Today, I decided not to ignore her and be gentle with her. Reassure her. Let her know she's safe now, that she’s not alone and that by showing up and being seen, we quietened those old critical voices.

Every time we step outside of what’s familiar, we give ourselves a chance to grow, to connect, and to believe a little more in our worth.

Do you find yourself avoiding events due the lack of confidence ? Would like to build on your self esteem? If so we can navigate this together

🌿I have a fortnightly session become available at Manor Farm on a Wednesday at 3.30pm from 6th August🌿

If you would like to know more contact me on
bernadettedeancounselling@gmail.com
Call/ watts app 07587753795 or messenger

🌿✨ Open Day Today at Manor Farm! ✨🌿Come and join us today from 11am – 2pm at the beautiful Manor Farm for our Open Day ,...
05/07/2025

🌿✨ Open Day Today at Manor Farm! ✨🌿
Come and join us today from 11am – 2pm at the beautiful Manor Farm for our Open Day , everyone is welcome!

Enjoy: 🧴 Free samples of gorgeous skin products
🔔 A chance to try the relaxing sound bath
🍪 Cookies, coffee & a glass of fizz
🤝 Meet our lovely team

If you're curious whether counselling might be right for you, come and have a private, no pressure chat with me in our calm, welcoming counselling room.
I'm a neuro-affirmative eating disorder and relationship therapist, supporting people with their relationships , whether that’s with food, family, work, partners, or themselves.

No need to book , just pop by and say hello. We'd love to see you! 💬🌸

You're Invited – Meet the Therapy Team at Cygnet ManorJoin us on Saturday 5th July, 11am–2pm at the beautiful Manor Farm...
30/06/2025

You're Invited – Meet the Therapy Team at Cygnet Manor

Join us on Saturday 5th July, 11am–2pm at the beautiful Manor Farm for a relaxed and welcoming open event.

Explore a variety of therapeutic approaches, take part in taster sessions, or simply enjoy a gentle browse around our peaceful setting. Come along to chat with the team, ask questions, or take some quiet time.

🌿 Refreshments provided
🎁 Gift bags available
🗣 I will also be available for confidential conversations if you have any questions about counselling.

We’d love to see you there!

Due to annual leave I will be unavailable for any enquiries until Tuesday 1st July
19/06/2025

Due to annual leave I will be unavailable for any enquiries until Tuesday 1st July

This morning, , I reached for my lip balm only to realise (after smearing it generously on) that I’d actually used bear...
16/06/2025

This morning, , I reached for my lip balm only to realise (after smearing it generously on) that I’d actually used beard balm. Not quite the soothing coconut finish I was going for.

It made me laugh ,but it also got me thinking. When we make mistakes, big or small how do we speak to ourselves?

Do you call yourself names? Get frustrated? Feel silly or ashamed?
Or can yiu meet that moment with a gentle, "Oops! That was a bit daft… but it’s okay"?

We all mess up sometimes. What would it be like to respond to your own mistakes with the same kindness you'd show a friend?

Today’s small mishap was a reminder: a little self compassion goes a long way.
Beard balm lips and all.

Bernie 🧴💋

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