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Hannah M Counselling, Lancashire (2025)

24/07/2025

Are you your go-to Prime Suspect the minute something goes sideways? 🕵️‍♀️

Something I see a lot of is women who are so terrified of being "the bad guy" that they make themselves the bad guy in every situation ..... Just to be safe.

Someone's quiet? Must be something you said.
Plans get cancelled? Obviously because of you.
Group conversation goes awkward? Definitely your fault.

You think this protects you from actually causing harm.

But here's what it's really doing:

✨Making you exhausting to be around (because you need constant reassurance)
✨Preventing genuine connection (because you're too busy managing your "impact")
✨Stealing your peace (because you're living in a constant state of defensive guilt)
✨Teaching others that you'll take responsibility for their feelings (unhealthy for everyone)

Want to know what the cruelest part of this is? You're probably one of the most considerate people in any room.

The ones who should worry about their impact usually don't, and the ones who don't need to worry are consumed by it.

You're not protecting anyone by making yourself the automatic explanation for every bad mood, awkward moment, or disappointing outcome. You're just teaching your nervous system that you're inherently problematic.

In therapy with me, we will work on helping you distinguish between actual responsibility and inherited guilt. Between genuine repair and preemptive self-attack.

Because the woman who stops making everything about her paradoxically becomes someone people actually want to be around.

For women ready to exist without constantly auditing their impact, I have space for new clients. DM or link in bio to book a discovery call 🫶

23/07/2025

Tell me if this sounds familiar: You can analyse a situation from every possible angle, but when it comes to actually making a choice, you freeze 🥶

It's not about lacking information. You've probably done more research than a PhD student. It's not about lacking options. You can see multiple paths forward.

It's about fear. The terror that you'll get it wrong, mess it up, choose badly, and have to live with the consequences forever.

But here's what that fear is really about: Somewhere along the way, you learned that mistakes weren't just mistakes - they were evidence you weren't good enough, smart enough, worthy enough.

So now your brain treats every decision like a life-or-death choice. Because in your nervous system's memory, getting things wrong WAS life or death, it meant losing love, approval, belonging.

Your indecision isn't a flaw. It's a protection mechanism. Your brain is trying to keep you safe from a danger that doesn't actually exist anymore.

The problem isn't that you can't make decisions. The problem is you learned that making the "wrong" one wasn't safe.

In my therapy room, we don't work on decision-making strategies. We will work on healing the wounds that made choosing feel so scary in the first place.

For women ready to trust themselves with their own lives, I have space for new clients. DM or use the link in my bio to book a discovery call. 🫶

21/07/2025

Breaking good girl rules isn't just rebellion ... it's recovery 🫶

Every "good girl rule" you learned was designed to keep you small, compliant, and focused on everyone else's needs instead of your own.

But here's what I know after helping hundreds of women break these rules: you weren't born to follow them. You were conditioned into them.

The guilt you feel when you choose yourself? That's not your conscience, that's your conditioning. And conditioning can be changed.

My UNLEARN & RECLAIM method doesn't just help you cope with the guilt, it helps you understand where it came from and why it doesn't serve you anymore.

Together, we will work with your nervous system to help it understand that joy is safe. We'll identify the parts of you that learned to suppress your natural enthusiasm. We will trace the origins of your conditioning with curiosity, not judgment.
Then we practice. Small acts of choosing yourself. Tiny rebellions against the voice that says you're being selfish. Moments of pure want without justification.

Because the woman you become when you stop following good girl rules? She changes everything. Not just for you, but for every woman watching you choose yourself. For your children who learn their mother's happiness matters. For your friends who get permission to do the same.

This work isn't about becoming selfish ... it's about becoming human. It's about remembering that your joy matters, your rest is necessary, and your pleasure is valid.

Ready to break the rules that keep you small? I'm currently taking new clients for 1:1 therapy. DM me or book a discovery call via link in bio. Because love, it's time to stop performing and start living. 💜

18/07/2025

The things that bring you joy don't need to be cool or respectable to be valid 🫶

Who decided that your pleasure needs approval? Who made the rules about what's acceptable to enjoy?

The policing of our joy is just another way to keep us focused on everyone else's opinions instead of our own experience.

In my therapy room I've seen countless women apologising for liking things. Actually apologising for their own preferences.

"I know it's silly, but I love trashy TV." "I feel bad for buying myself flowers." "I shouldn't enjoy this so much."

STOP 🛑

Your reality TV marathons are valid. Your love of pop music is valid. Your choice to prioritise comfort over achievement sometimes is valid. Your "basic" pleasures are fu***ng revolutionary because they're YOURS.

The good girl in your head will try to convince you that your joy needs to be justified. She's been trained well by a system that benefits from your self-doubt.

But here's what that voice doesn't want you to know .... When you stop apologising for what brings you joy, you stop seeking permission and validation from others ✨

Ready to unapologetically embrace what brings you joy? DM me or complete a contact form via my website if you're done performing sophistication and ready to live authentically ✌️

17/07/2025

If joy feels dangerous, your nervous system is trying to protect you from something that happened years ago 👊

Let me tell you what I see in my therapy room, women whose bodies literally cannot sustain joy. The moment they start to feel good, their nervous system floods them with anxiety, guilt, or the overwhelming sense that "something bad is going to happen." 👀

This isn't pessimism, it's protection.

Somewhere along the way, your nervous system learned that joy was dangerous. Maybe your excitement was consistently met with disappointment. Maybe your happiness was interrupted by someone's crisis. Maybe being joyful meant someone would bring you back down to earth with criticism or reality checks.

So your body developed a strategy: don't let her get too happy. Don't let her feel too good. Keep her on edge. Keep her prepared. Keep her small 😢

The good girl in your head learned that emotional expression needed to be controlled. That joy might be "too much" for others. That being happy was selfish, naive, or setting yourself up for disappointment.

Now you sabotage your own joy before anyone else can. You apologise for being excited. You feel guilty when you're happy. You can't relax without your nervous system flooding you with anxiety about what might go wrong.

But here's what I know: your nervous system is trying to protect you from a danger that no longer exists. You're not that little girl whose joy was unsafe anymore. You're an adult woman who gets to choose how she wants to feel 💕

Joy isn't actually dangerous, but your body doesn't know that yet. We will teach your nervous system that happiness is safe. That you can feel good without consequences. That your joy belongs to you 🫶

Ready to teach your nervous system that joy is safe? DM me or visit my website if you're ready to help your body remember that happiness isn't a threat - it's your birthright ❤️

02/07/2025

Good girl conditioning nearly stole my entire fu***ng life 👉

I spent thirty years believing that my worth came from how little trouble I caused. How "nice" I was. How much I could carry without complaining. How small I could make myself so others felt bigger.

I was the poster child for good girl culture: smile when you're furious, say "sorry" before stating a need, make yourself invisible when someone's having a bad day, carry everyone's emotional baggage like it's your job.

And you know what that got me? Chronic anxiety, decision paralysis, and the suffocating feeling that I was slowly disappearing.

My breakthrough came when I realised that "good" in good girl culture doesn't mean morally upright ... it means convenient for others. That "keeping the peace" doesn't mean creating harmony ... it means silencing yourself before conflict even has a chance to reveal what needs changing.

Here's what no one tells you about good girl conditioning: it's not protection - it's prison.

It teaches you that your worth is conditional on your convenience to others. That love must be earned through endless accommodation. That your natural responses to injustice are flaws to be managed, not wisdom to be trusted.

But the most insidious part? It convinces you that the problem is your anger, not the things that make you rightfully angry.

I watch my clients go through this same realisation: "Wait, I'm not too sensitive, I'm not too much .... they're asking me to be too little. I'm not difficult, I just have standards."

Breaking free from good girl conditioning isn't about becoming mean or selfish. It's about becoming whole. It's about trusting that you're worthy of love even when you're angry, or "difficult." It's about understanding that your rage isn't a character flaw, it's the most honest emotion you carry.

What would your life look like if you stopped editing yourself for other people's comfort? What would change if you trusted that you're loveable exactly as you are ... fury and all?

These "good girl" rules were installed, and what's installed can be uninstalled 🫶 Let's help you remember who you were before the world told you who to be ❤️

30/06/2025

Swipe to understand why your anger isn't the problem 👉

You know what I see when I look at women's anger? I see decades of swallowed words. I see years of being told that having feelings makes you "difficult." I see the exhaustion of editing yourself into acceptability while everyone else gets to exist at full volume.

Here's what happened to you: somewhere between childhood and now, you learned that angry women are unlovable women. That expressing rage means you're broken, not brilliant. That "good girls" smile through injustice and say "it's fine" when it absolutely fu***ng isn't. 😬

But your anger? It's not a character flaw - it's bloody strength. It's your soul refusing to accept the unacceptable. It's the part of you that knows you deserve better than scraps disguised as love. 🙌

I watch my clients transform when they finally understand this: their rage isn't too much .... it's exactly the right amount for someone who's been taught to accept less than they deserve. Their anger isn't ugly, it's simply information about what matters most to them.

You weren't born ashamed of your fire 🔥 That shame was carefully installed by people who benefit when you stay small, quiet, and grateful for whatever they decide to give you.

But imagine this: What if you could feel your anger fully without apologising for it? What if you could trust your rage as the boundary intelligence it actually is? What if you could use your fury as fuel for the changes your life desperately needs?
The women who changed the world were angry first. Angry at being silenced. Angry at injustice. Angry at being told their feelings didn't matter. 🤜

Your anger deserves the same respect.

Learning to trust your rage as wisdom instead of seeing it as weakness is exactly what we'll explore when we work together.

Because the world needs women who refuse to be convenient. Who trust their gut when something feels wrong. Who use their anger as information, not self-attack. 🫶

Ready to stop apologising for taking up space? DM me and let's help you befriend the most honest emotion you carry. Your fire deserves respect, not suppression. 🔥

27/06/2025

Think you're just "not coping well"? Think again. 👇

If you're reading this, you've probably been told you're "too sensitive" or need to "manage your stress better." You've tried the self-help books, the morning routines, the positive thinking. Yet you're still bloody exhausted. 🫩

But here's what nobody's telling you: You're not broken. You're carrying a load of s**t that was never meant to be yours.

That constant tiredness you feel? It's not from being busy, it's from decades of conditioning that taught you to silence yourself, perfect everything, do all the invisible labour, and feel guilty for prioritising yourself while watching others do it without a second thought.

The constant guilt when you rest? The fear of being "too much"? The way you swallow your opinions to keep the peace? None of that is accidental.

Learning to spot these gendered double standards and unpack what you've internalised is exactly what we'll do when we work together. Because once you see the system for what it is, you can finally stop playing by rules that were never designed for your wellbeing. 🫶

It's not about becoming "difficult" (though you have my full permission to be exactly that). It's about recognising that you've been exhausting yourself trying to meet impossible standards while carrying everyone else's emotional load .... And that stops now 🛑

Ready to unlearn what's keeping you small? I work with women who are done secretly struggling behind closed doors.

DM me or book via the link in my bio.

Time to reclaim your right to exist unapologetically 🫶

20/06/2025

Your inner world feels like a proper mess right now, and that makes complete sense 🧠

That voice telling you you're not good enough? She's trying to protect you from rejection. The part that says yes to everything? She learned that being agreeable keeps you safe.

None of these parts are your enemy. They're all just trying to look after you in the only way they know how.

But when they're all shouting instructions at once, it's absolutely exhausting. 🗣️

That's where I come in.

In therapy with me, we will work together to understand what each part is trying to tell you, what they need to feel safe, and how they can actually work together instead of against each other.

It's gentle, it's curious, and there's usually quite a bit of laughter involved. Because healing doesn't have to be heavy all the bloody time. 🫶

Ready to make peace with your inner world? DM me or complete an enquiry from on my website (link in bio) and let's explore what's going on in that beautiful, chaotic head of yours 💕

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