Warwickshire Therapy

06/01/2023

Our first parents' bereavement group of the year is today at 2.30. There is also a Saturday group and if you, or someone you know, would benefit from meeting other parents, please get in touch so that we can confirm the dates of the next sessions, or arrange a one-to-one session to meet therapist, Kyla, at Warwickshire Therapy .

Whether your child was gown up, or died before their due date, you are very welcome to join our mutual support group, if it helps. Your bereavement might be recent, or a long time ago, but we all understand and can help one another to live with grief. We also go for walks sometimes and chat about all sorts of things with people that know that it does not mean that you have forgotten your child, or your grief, if you laugh or smile.

There is no need to commit to coming regularly and we find that sometimes people take a break, and then decide to start coming again when they need some support again. It is entirely up to you.

For information, you can contact us via Facebook, or through our website
https://evelynsgift.co.uk/contact/
Or contact Warwickshire Therapy directly https://warwickshiretherapy.co.uk/contact-us/

17/11/2022

A very emotional day! Can’t wait to see the end result!

Great morning filming with Kyla from and Helen from

We're making a short film on how a mother who had lost her daughter at only 7 years old, has made a charity in her name supporting the local community and offering little acts of kindness to people who really need it. It's a really emotional story but highlights just what great work Helen and her team are doing in and around Warwickshire.

05/09/2022

I love being part of this amazing charity.

Our Parents' Bereavement Group, run fortnightly by Warwickshire Therapy, supports parents when their child has died and allows parents to support one another. The group welcomes anyone that has experienced bereavement from the death of their child, regardless of age, circumstances or how long ago.

Thankfully, child death is uncommon, but this also means that parents can feel very isolated and that their grief is not understood by others, particularly as time passes. For some, meeting people that have shared similar experiences can be very positive.

We can arrange introductory, individual sessions if the idea of a group is daunting, or arrange to meet outside of the therapy environment to start with . Parents can come to every session, or dip in and out for support when they feel that they need it. Therapist, Kyla, has worked with us for several years and has a deep understanding of the varying needs of families. Her rooms are on The Parade in Leamington.

For more information, message us on Facebook, use our contact page by clicking here : https://bit.ly/3TGlNgd or contact Kyla directly at Warwickshire Therapy https://warwickshiretherapy.co.uk/

19/04/2022

Our Parents' Bereavement Group at Warwickshire Therapy is continuing to support several families when their child has died. We welcome all parents and carers, regardless of the age and circumstances, including parents of grown-up children.
Our groups are fornightly on Fridays at 2.30pm and Saturdays at 11am and the next dates are 29th and 30th April. For information about the groups, or to arrange a one to one introductory session with therapist, Kyla, please message us privately, or email evelynsgift@hotmail.com.

18/10/2021

Our next parents' bereavement group will be at 2.30 on Friday 29th October 21 at Warwickshire Therapy. We welcome every bereaved parent, whatever the age and circumstances of their child, including grown up children. The group is very much about mutual support and friendship. You can talk as much or as little as you want to, whatever works for you.
If you need any more information, then please message us or contact us through our website https://evelynsgift.co.uk/

06/10/2021

So proud of the partnership I have with Evelyn's Gift

20/01/2021

Vulnerability is NOT a weakness, it's not optional and it's something we face everyday with uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. It is our willingness to OWN and ENGAGE with our own vulnerability that determines the depth of our courage. It is fear that leads us to protect ourselves from being vulnerable. However this leads to the disconnection that lies beneath our reluctance to show vulnerability.⠀
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By waiting until we are perfect or "bulletproof to walk into the arena we miss out on so many opportunities. May that be relationships, jobs, friendships or peace. These opportunities may be lost forever, being unwilling to be vulnerable means we are turning our backs on our gifts, on unique relationships, connections that only we can make.

18/01/2021

Perfect and Bulletproof are seductive, however, they don't exist in human experience. We must be willing to walk into the arena of life with the courage and willingness to engage, because sitting on the sidelines may feel safe yet it is limiting and we pay for that limitation with isolation. ⠀
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What drives our fear of being vulnerable?⠀
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How are we protecting ourselves from vulnerability?⠀
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What price are we paying when we shut down and disengage? Is it worth it? ⠀
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How do we own and engage with Vulnerability so we can start transforming the way we live, love, parent and lead?

17/01/2021

There is no denying that the shame didn't originate within you... However, by being shackled by the past we often realise that those words have stayed with us and now they are our own. If we start to speak our shame it loose its power- not instantly, but over time. We will fail, we will stumble but moving through that is where the strength lies. Shame resilience is the ability to say.. "this hurts", "this is scary", "this is devastating" and its the courage we show in continuing to try that chases that shame away.

15/01/2021

What is the difference between shame and guilt?⠀
Guilt- I did something bad⠀
Shame- I am bad⠀
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When we apologise for something we have done and make amends we are driven by guilt. we feel guilty when our actions do not align with our view of ourselves. It's uncomfortable but necessary as it leads to meaningful change. Guilt is as powerful as shame, however, it has the ability to be positive, shame is destructive. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we can change for the better

13/01/2021

Its not always possible to pinpoint a specific moment, conversation, put-down or incident. Sometimes shame is built up over time, those old rules, conversations. Those incidents may have been without malice, however, that doesn't mean they weren't absorbed as fact into our subconscious. Looking at that past allows us finally challenge those thoughts and move forward.

13/01/2021

In shame prone cultures we are encouraged to connect our self-worth by what we produce. Often it's done unconsciously, by parents, friends, leaders and colleagues, through blame, favouritism, gossip and negative or no feedback. When we place our self-worth in what we do or what others think we are led down the dark path of shame. Because shame becomes fear and fear leads to risk aversion. We are then stifled and miss out on opportunities that have the potential to be amazing.

07/01/2021

SHAME- The is no denying that sharing shame is scary, and often when we are good at keeping our shame hidden we struggle with vulnerability. We all have shame, we all have good AND bad, light AND dark. If we don't tackle the shame we start to believe that we are flawed, that we are bad that we are "not good enough" and thats simply not true. The danger with shame is we start acting on the beliefs, we stop engaging. If we want to get true connection we have to start being vulnerable and that starts with loosing the shame. We are not what we did!!!

04/01/2021

SHAME- We spend so much time avoiding the topics that cause us shame yet by tackling them we have the ability to be set free. As a counsellor my aim is to create a safe space to explore the shame, to release those difficult feelings in a non-judgmental space. However, as a client I spent so much time looking and exploring those feelings and yet only now do I realise that unless I start talking about them openly with the people I love they will remain in the dark. So this month as a counsellor I am sharing the quotes to get you thinking and as me I am going to start sharing my shame so that it no longer scares the living day lights out of me.

02/01/2021

Shame is something we all experience. It's often thought that it hides in our darkest corners when in fact its very present in many familiar places... body image, family, parenting, our past, addiction, s*x, aging, surviving trauma, mental health, friendships, careers, gender, s*xual orientation...⠀
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Shame is real pain!

01/01/2021

SHAME- Shame is tough to talk about, but its a conversation we need to start having, shame silences us, shame is nowhere near as dangerous to our mental health as the silence creates. We all have shame, we are all afraid to talk about it, but the less we talk about it the bigger it gets. Im starting this series on shame using the research by Brené Brown as a base for the exploration.