Holistic Transformative Therapy

11/01/2026

Self-awareness is powerful.
But it’s not the same as transformation.

Understanding yourself matters.
Insight opens the door.
But change happens when insight is followed by different choices, repeated actions and lived experience.

Your brain remains plastic throughout life.

It learns through what you do, not just what you understand.

Healing isn’t just about feeling safe enough to reflect. It’s about feeling safe enough to act.

You need enough safety to start and enough repetition for a new pattern to form.

Where in your life are you still explaining instead of choosing?

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01/01/2026

This year asked a lot of me.
And it gave a lot back.

I’m deeply grateful and also honest about the cost.

Slowing down doesn’t mean losing ambition.

It means remembering who you are beyond achievement.

You don’t need January to change your life.

But this moment can be a mirror.

So let me ask you:

Are you intentionally shaping your life…
or simply surviving it?

Pause. Reflect.

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21/12/2025

Setting boundaries with family isn’t about being harsh.

It’s about stopping the quiet self-betrayal that happens when you keep explaining yourself to people who’ve already decided not to hear you.

If you grew up needing to justify your feelings, your choices or your life -boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first.

Not because they’re wrong, but because they’re new.

You don’t owe long explanations.
You don’t owe agreement.
You don’t owe access to your relationship, your body, your choices or your peace.

Sometimes the most powerful boundary is a calm sentence, said once and then repeated without adding anything else.

Save this carousel.
Not for when things are calm, but for when you feel pressured, cornered or pulled back into old roles.

Share it with someone who’s learning to stop over-explaining.

How do you cope with family members who don’t respect boundaries?

Which response is your favourite?

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19/12/2025

Managing Christmas when you’re in no contact with a toxic parent is not about “being positive” or “letting things go”.

It’s about survival.

You didn’t cut contact because you’re dramatic.
You did it because your nervous system couldn’t keep paying the price.

And yes - Christmas can still hurt.
Even when distance was necessary.
Even when you know you made the right choice.

You can miss what you never really had.
You can grieve and feel relieved at the same time.
You can feel lonely without going back to what harmed you.

You don’t owe anyone access to you.
You don’t owe reconciliation for the sake of tradition.
You don’t owe your body another round of dysregulation just to keep the peace.

Choosing no contact is not cruelty.
It’s self-protection.

And protecting yourself during the holidays is not a weakness - it’s healing.

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If this resonates, save it and let it remind you why you chose yourself.

17/12/2025

This isn’t about hating Christmas.
It’s about understanding what it activates.

Family systems don’t just live in memories -
they live in the nervous system.

And awareness is the first step out of unconscious repetition.

Save this for Christmas Day 🤍
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15/12/2025

You’re not tired - you’re emotionally overtrained.

For years you’ve been the one who holds everything together.
You stabilise the room.
You anticipate needs.
You stay “strong” even when your body whispers that it can’t keep going.

This doesn’t mean you’re weak.
It means your nervous system has been bracing for decades and you’ve never been given a new internal architecture to stand on.

The woman you’ve become was built by survival.
The woman you’re becoming will be built by safety.

If you feel something shifting inside you while reading this…
that’s your system saying: it’s time.

Applications are open for my Private Journey.
Link in bio → or DM me “ARCHITECTURE” and I’ll guide you personally.

05/12/2025

Have you ever noticed that you’re rarely, if ever, fully present?

You might feel a constant tug-of-war between the past and the future:

On one side, guilt for what you should’ve done, didn’t do, could’ve handled better.

On the other side, the pressure of the future -
worrying, planning, imagining scenarios, attaching expectations, hoping everything will play out just right so you finally feel okay.

And if reality doesn’t match your internal plan?

Disappointment arrives instantly.

So you end up shifting between resentments from yesterday and anxiety about tomorrow…

Hardly ever stopping to breathe into now.

But here’s what’s truly important to understand:

Staying present is extremely hard when “being” never felt safe.

Many of us grew up learning that:

– Doing earns love.
– Doing maintains peace.
– Doing helps overwhelmed parents.
– Doing keeps us included.
– Doing gives us a sense of control in unpredictable environments.

And without even realising it, we carry this into adulthood.

We live in the past to analyse it, to fix it, to avoid repeating the same hurt.

We live in the future to control it, to prevent disappointment, to feel one step ahead of danger.

But this isn’t your identity.
This isn’t your personality.

It’s conditioning. It’s survival.
And just because it feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s healthy or permanent!

You can teach your system that being here is safe. Not by force, but by gentle, consistent healing.

If this resonates with you, you’re not alone.
You’re simply carrying patterns that were never yours to begin with.

Dorota 🤍
Holistic Transformative Therapy

05/12/2025

Do you ever notice how you’re almost never here?

You’re either…

✨ Feeling guilty about the past - what you did, didn’t do, “should” have done.
✨ Feeling torn because you can’t please everyone or meet your own unrealistically high standards.
✨ Or obsessing about the future - planning every detail, imagining how things “should” play out, attaching huge meaning to outcomes.

And when reality doesn’t match the script in your head?

You feel disappointed, deflated, unsafe.

So you spend your life swinging between resentment about yesterday and anxiety about tomorrow, rarely giving the present moment any real attention.

Here’s the part no one tells you:

Being present is difficult when your nervous system never learned that simply “being” is safe.

In childhood you learned that:

✔ Doing kept the peace.
✔ Doing earned approval.
✔ Doing made you feel needed or less invisible.
✔ Doing gave you a sense of control in a chaotic environment.

But you never learned how to be.
How to rest.
How to feel “enough” without performing.

So now your mind time-travels as a way to feel safe.

But this isn’t “just who you are.”
It’s learned. It’s old programming. It’s not your identity.
And what was learned can be unlearned.

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29/11/2025

Because for the first time you see yourself clearly:

— Why you freeze during conflict
— Why you panic when someone pulls away
— Why you feel responsible for everyone’s emotions
— Why you keep choosing the same relationships
— Why you can give love so deeply but struggle to receive it

This isn’t weakness.
It’s your inner child calling for safety, softness and connection.

And once you understand her…
you finally understand you.

My Inner Child Healing Kit helps you:
✨ connect with your younger self
✨ uncover the root of your patterns
✨ calm your nervous system
✨ soften your inner critic
✨ feel safe inside your own body again
✨ build emotional security from the inside out

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same cycles and start healing in a way that actually lasts…

Download the Inner Child Healing Kit (link in bio).
And begin the transformation your future self has been waiting for. 🤍

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29/11/2025

The real signs that therapy is working are often quiet.
Not dramatic.
But deeply, beautifully human.

It’s when you notice your feelings instead of drowning in them.
When you stop abandoning yourself the moment life gets hard.
When you forgive yourself faster…
explain yourself less…
and finally feel safe in your own company.

It’s catching an old pattern mid-thought and thinking,
“Wait… I don’t have to do this anymore.”

Healing isn’t loud.
It’s subtle.
It’s steady.
And it shows up in the way you return to yourself... again and again.

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23/11/2025

Your patterns didn’t come from nowhere. They came from a core wound you had to survive.

Some wounds make you chase love.
Some make you hide.
Some make you reject yourself before anyone else can.
Some make you fight for fairness because no one ever protected you.

Your reactions aren’t “too much.”
Your patterns aren’t random.
They’re echoes of a wound that was never given space to heal.

✨ If you want clarity on what drives your attachment, triggers and emotional reactions - take my Core Wound Questionnaire.

It takes 2 minutes. 🤎

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23/11/2025

Behind every pattern is a core wound -the first imprint that taught you what connection felt like.

Some wounds make you chase love.
Some make you hide.
Some make you reject yourself before anyone else can.
Some make you fight for fairness because no one ever protected you.

Your reactions aren’t “too much.”
Your patterns aren’t random.
They’re echoes of a wound that was never given space to heal.

✨ Discover your core wound in 2 minutes.
Link in bio.

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