19/01/2026
What's wrong with me?
✅Perfectionism.�
✅People pleasing.�
✅Anxiety.�
✅Emotional numbness.�
✅Hyper-vigilance.�
✅Avoidance.
These are often treated as problems to fix.
But what if they were never flaws to begin with?
Many of the strategies adults struggle with are actually adaptations — intelligent responses to environments where safety, consistency or care were unpredictable.
In therapy, one of the most important shifts is moving from:
�“What’s wrong with me?”�to�“What happened to me — and how did my nervous system learn to cope?”
A trauma-informed approach doesn’t ask:
�“Why are you like this?”
It asks:
�“What did your system learn it had to do to survive?”
Healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken.
�It’s about helping the nervous system learn that safety, choice, and connection are possible again.
