03/05/2025
We always should look inside ourselves for the answer to our suffering. This isn't about the cause, but the solution!!
This heartfelt post by my friend Milena Barton, on her travels in Vietnam right now, puts her finger the precise spot. Milena is an EMDR practitioner and coach, but it's the person not the modality that is the important difference!
Enjoy the message...
"I woke up early with a heavy heart here in Hanoi. Just really heavy - like I haven't felt in a long time. It was immediate upon waking; I had no conscious thought before feeling that heaviness on my chest. My brain went on a search - what is going on? What thought did I have that might have caused this feeling?
Before I could find an answer, my brain -hooked on quick dopamine hits- made me grab my phone where I scrolled past posts about the impossibility of switching the AI assistant on f - b off, men cat-calling and upskirting teenage girls, Prince Harry suffering, Trump increasing military spending while cutting social services and more stuff - SO much noise- before I managed to take charge of my brain and shut it all down.
(Jeeeeezzzz - all this toxic stuff that we are bombarded with daily! Poor us! I have a lot of compassion for myself & all of us maneuvering this daily. I hope you do, too!)
Sigh. Deep breath.
Here's what I've learnt:
when my heart is heavy, I sit with it. I don't fight it. I make a warm welcoming space for it. I invite the discomfort in. "Come", I literally say, "It's ok. I welcome you." I invite it into the space in me that is silent and allow my feelings and thoughts to rumble around inside me.
I know by now that any pain -physical or emotional- is always the higher intelligence of my being alerting me to the fact that I lost the connection to my Self.
And that I am, or something is, out of alignment.
I know that my top 'job' for today, before I attempt to do anything else, is to find a way back home to my Self.
I also know, after a lifetime of practice, that NOTHING in the EXTERNAL world needs to change for me to feel better.
I am grateful that I now know WHILE I'm feeling lost, that the way back home IS always open to me. In essence, I KNOW it is always very simple, completely unmediated, and direct.
I know that when I suffer, I am confused.
That my feeling of lost-ness is always a mirage. It's like mud stirred in a glass of water. I know that all I need to do is get really still and allow the mud to settle.
I feel my heavy heart and know WHILE it is heavy that it IS already home. As I think this thought a giggle arises.
There.
Another deep breath...
The hurdles to inner peace NEVER lie in the external world.
I know today that THE biggest hurdles are painful/traumatic PAST events that have left an imprint in our nervous systems and that our survival brain now clings to in order to protect us from similar threats in the future but are actually now the very thing that keeps us from finding inner peace - and the life we REALLY want.
In my coaching, using EMDR, working with the neuroplasticity of your brain we reprocess and release all of those for good.
We come at ALL obstacles between you and your inner peace - i.e between you and the seat of your greatest power- from many different angles.
I coach your unconscious mind, help you rewire your brain, give your conscious mind practical tools that help you manage your brain and (negative) thoughts, and you learn to apply and tap into ancient timeless wisdom. It is already there, inside of you.
Working with me is a way back home to your Self.
That's where you are at your most powerful, capable, resourceful, creative, joyful, and ALIVE.
I warmly invite you:
allow me to hold the door open for you.
Come home to your Self.
It's the adventure of a lifetime.
Dm me.
❤"
