04/09/2021
Personal maternal goals really reaching to the top! Amazing cup of coffee 🛌 by the beautiful David aged 8. Happy Saturday folks!
Sometimes when we feel low and alone it doesn’t take us too far to see how loved we truly are and how the love we put out come back always.
I love my family, I love and adore my boys and I sure as f*ck love myself for raising such kind, helpful and intelligent dream boats!!!
Ps-I especially love how excited he was to get this grown up opportunity to make me a coffee despite it taking away his YouTube telly time. And don’t you dare judge me for getting a lay in and letting them watch it. It’s only ,e here! I wanted to chat about teaching our children to be as helpful in the home as we are to them (maybe not as much but you know what I mean).
Children ARE CAPABLE. They may be small but they are smart and brains are little sponges! If we are teach them normal life skills at an early age such as, folding laundry, loading the dish washer, washing up with our hands, setting the table, cleaning up after their own spills and even putting away their own clothes, we are encouraging a future of well able humans that won’t be terrified when thrown into the adult world of not living with their parents!
I find the skills I’ve had since I was young to be mainly from my mother. She was a single mom for 8 years of my life and didn’t really have much help. I spent a lot of her work days as a five year old chillin out on my own in the studio that we lived at in my grandmas garden (cheers mommma for working all those jobs to give me a top class private education not greatly known in Californian/Mexican families). I knew how to heat up my favourite cup Of noodles younger than Salvador’s age. At the age of five I learned on my own that you cannot boil an egg in the microwave and also that if I’m not careful ironing my uniform age 6/7 that I will burn myself and burn my expensive skirt. when my momma remarried she was teaching me how to cook full Mexican meals for the whole family at the age of 9! And yes I had to do the washing up by hand cause, “TATIANA YOU DONT KNOW IF YOU’Ll HAVE A DISHWASHER. They are a privilege!”. She was right. Even in 2021 not everyone in the world has a dishwasher and I paid a pretty penny to have my own. Guess what I still have to hand wash a TON OF DISHES. This sort of independence was vital to who I am today! Chores for money was also a thing at an early age! Helped me so much with responsibility (I was a bit s**t at motivation) but also how to save and manage my money (also s**t at that but hey ho). If she’d not done this for me I’d be even worse with money and responsibility avoidance and not living the beautiful life I live now! I’d probably be on the streets or living with my mother at the age of 35 (kinda wish I could move back in tho now lol-will you have me mamma??)
With all of this, what may seem as tough parenting, I not only know how to look after myself in incredibly tough situations but I know how to look after others really damn well!
You see with parenting we are teaching our children how to move into a world where they no longer need us. It is simply our egos that need them to need us forever to give us purpose. But at the end of the day, although my mother misses all of her children, we all moved away and are living our own lives and adventures without her because she did a FLIPPING AMAZING JOB AT TEACHING US. Daddy did too of course but this one is mainly for my mother. For teaching me how to be the mother I am today. And if she hadn’t raised me the way she did my boys wouldn’t have turned out so great.
How do you parent? Do you find yourself doing EVERYTHING for your children? How much freedom do you give them? How do you feel about giving them space to learn and explore something a bit more out of your comfort zone? Do you give yourself a break? Or are you more comfortable with taking on the full load? There is no right or wrong answer here! I’m just curios as we all have our different ways and it’s great to explore them all! 😘
