26/08/2025
I see you.
I see you working hard to please your friends, your partner and your work colleagues, but feeling guilty when you think you may have upset someone.
Because of the guilt, you start eating and drinking your feelings.
You try and talk yourself into doing things differently but nothing changes.
Here’s why this is happening:
✨️ You don’t trust your judgment, so you look to others for validation.
✨️ Instead of speaking your truth (even for small things like what time to meet for dinner, or what to wear), your instinct is to ask others what they think first.
✨️ This can become exhausting because you’re constantly adjusting yourself to fit in with everyone else.
By going along with everyone else instead, you are giving away your precious time, energy, power, and even your identity.
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If it feels like life is happening to you, rather than for you, then you may benefit from getting to know yourself.
One thing I often encourage my clients to do is to start noticing their sensations.
✨️ When you say “yes” versus “no” to someone, what are you feeling in your body?
✨️ When you ask someone for their opinion, do any sensations come up?
✨️ Can you connect with your sensations by describing where you feel them, or by describing their texture or intensity?
Observing sensations is a first step to connecting your mind and body, which over time can help you start recognising your thoughts and feelings.
The more you know yourself, the more you trust yourself.
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I help sensitive women learn to know and love themselves AND to stop people pleasing.
If you're looking for a gentle but real therapist, I'd love to work with you. You can enquire via the link in my bio or by sending me a DM.