Hayley Trower

09/04/2026

If you're a highly sensitive parent who struggles with an inner critic, here's something that will help.

Research by Kristin Neff has shown that self-criticism increases stress hormones. So, the harder you are on yourself, the more dysregulated your nervous system becomes.

You can make a change with honest compassion - by acknowledging that you are a sensitive person navigating something genuinely hard.

When done consistently, you can literally rewire your brain and change the way that you habitually speak to yourself.

It sounds too easy, but it really can shift things if you're consistent.

I talk about this and three other things that can help in my latest YouTube vid. Link in bio 💚

Love, Hayley

07/04/2026

Mums and dads - can I pick your brain for 30 minutes? 💚🙋‍♀️

I'm Hayley, a local psychotherapist specialising in sensitive people, and I'm putting together some resources for parents who feel easily overwhelmed, overstimulated, or like they're running on empty more often than not.

Before I start creating my resources (including freebies and paid services), I want to interview a few mums and dads about their actual experience.

If you're a sensitive parent who:
✔️ Feels drained by things other parents seem to handle fine
✔️ Gets easily overwhelmed by noise, demands, or just... everything
✔️ Knows you're a good parent but struggles to feel calm and present
..I'd genuinely love to hear from you.

There's no obligation to buy anything from me. This would just be a really helpful conversation so that I know best how to help you.

Contact me at hello@hayleytrower.com to let me know that you've seen my Facebook post and are interested in an interview.

Thanks so much! 💚

31/03/2026

Having anxiety doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you.

It's probably because your nervous system has been on high alert for so long that it perceives a threat even when it's not there.

Everyday things can create a tightness in the chest or a sense of panic. This could be the phone ringing, or an unread text

The more this happens, the more those anxious thoughts become habitual. They start to play on a loop even when there's no longer a logical reason.

In my latest YouTube video, I explain exactly why this happens in highly sensitive mums, and I describe four things that can actually help.

Love, Hayley 💚

27/03/2026

I wrote these for myself. Maybe they're for you too.

Every morning I sit at my shrine and I say these out loud.

They bring me closer to home. Closer to my soft self.

I wrote them because I needed an anchor, a reminder that I am safe in my own mind and body. A reminder that I can trust myself. That life is safest, simplest, happiest, and least exhausting when I am myself.

I'm learning that honesty and authenticity is the path of least resistance.

In their purest forms, these values are kind and gentle, and they bring peace, not disharmony.

When I don't trust myself, I am dishonest, even though it's usually subtle. I am in self-protection mode - I people please and abandon my own needs which can lead to resentment, anger and frustration.

When I trust myself, my heart is open and I give to myself and others from a place of love, generosity and abundance. If I need to limit my interactions and generosity, then I do it with kindness.

These vows help me to be with the purity of authenticity and to be at peace with my sensitivity.

I hope these vows help you as much as they help me.

Which one hits home for you?

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19/03/2026

You know that feeling of panic when your phone rings, or how you replay conversations over and over in your head when you're supposed to be winding down for bed?

That's not because there's something wrong with you. They are classic signs of a system that is chronically on high alert.

When you're highly sensitive and carrying the mental and emotional load of motherhood, your brain starts overestimating threat everywhere. The anxious thoughts are likely to be patterns that stem from your temperament, environment, and experiences.

I made a whole video on anxiety in sensitive moms because I work with these kinds of challenges almost daily in my private practice.

Check the link in bio if you want to really understand what's going on. 💚

19/03/2026

If you're a highly sensitive mom and you're tired of feeling anxious, wired, tired, exhausted, then this video is for you 💚

If you're a highly senstive mom who's worn out from anxiety, cognitive overload and poor sleep, this video is for you. I talk about why anxiety feels so inte...

15/03/2026

I started singing and songwriting when I was 10 years old, inspired by my cool older sister, Shelley (she's still supercool).

I remember her friend gave me a guitar, and I couldn't stop writing and vocalising. Music very soon became necessary for self-soothing and self-expression. Night after night, year after year. I'm still singing, 30 years later.

What I realise now is that it was a creative way of calming my sensitive nervous system.

I was also chronically shy and anxious, with no voice or sense of identity.

So, singing was a balm and a lifeline. It gave my voice a home. It gave me a sanctuary.

Music, in all manner of ways, is one of the most underrated forms of self-regulation. I recommend giving it a try. Even intentional music listening is scientifically proven to regulate the mind and body. You don't even need to be musical.

💚 I've done a whole YouTube video about how you can benefit from music listening. Search YouTube.com/drhayleytrower

🎵 The song snippet above is my most recent, called Temple of Flowers.

🎸I'm singing a few songs at Shambala Community Space in Leek on Sunday - come and say hi!

04/03/2026

Here's a weird thing that I do to reduce overwhelm as a highly sensitive therapist.

I'm curious. Do you do this too? If not, do you think it would help? Let me know in the comments!

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25/02/2026

If you're trying to fix overwhelm by becoming less sensitive, here's why it's making things worse.

echnically, the problem isn't your sensitivity. It's actually the mismatch between your capacity and the choices that you're making.

The more energy you pour into trying to feel less, the more depleted you become, because you're fighting your own nervous system every single day.

When you start working with your sensitivity instead of against it, life can feel so much easier.

I understand that it can feel like a weakness to acknowledge your sensitivity and to accept that certain things are more tiring for you than they are for other people, but the more that you can accept, the easier your life will become.

Why make life harder than it needs to be?

If you want a taste of what that actually feels like in your body, my Emotional Overwhelm Rescue Meditation is waiting for you. Link in bio.

17/10/2025

⚡️ For years, I didn't have a name for why I felt everything so deeply and why the world left me feeling exhausted.

I was 26 when I first heard the term Highly Sensitive Person, but instead of embracing this part of myself, I buried it.

🎵 Looking back, the signs were always there. I was writing songs from age 10 and losing myself in music and imagery to escape my noisy reality. Creating was my way of processing life's intensity.

🥂 As I grew older, I rejected my sensitivity, and partied hard. I pushed myself to be tougher, and more resilient. I ignored the whispers of my body begging for rest.

Then at 31, I hit a wall. My body and spirit simply wouldn't carry on with the charade anymore.

🌱 Sobriety became my first step towards honouring my sensitivity rather than numbing it. It was terrifying at first, feeling EVERYTHING without a buffer. But music and creative expression returned as my medicine, reminding me of who I'd always been.

When I stopped fighting who I was, something beautiful happened. I discovered my sensitivity was a strength and a source of joy.

✨ Now, I help other highly sensitive women reclaim this part of themselves. To stop apologising for feeling deeply. To nurture their creative inner worlds without shame. To create boundaries without guilt, and to see their sensitivity as the gift it truly is.

In my latest article, I share how creative visualisation can be particularly powerful for HSPs – allowing us to access our natural intuition and imagination in the healing process.

If you've ever been told you're too sensitive or if you find yourself overwhelmed by the world's energy, this might just be for you. Link in bio.

👇 Are you a highly sensitive person? Has music or creativity been part of your journey too?