18/08/2025
Sometimes being positive about the little things dilutes the big issues.
Every night before I close my eyes, I ask myself three questions. The first is: What did I do well today? This allows me to pause and honor the good that I’ve done, the kindness I’ve shown, the effort I’ve given. So often we brush past our own strengths, but I believe it’s important to give ourselves credit for the things we get right, however big or small.
The second question I ask is: What could I have done differently? Not better, just differently. Because life isn’t about perfection, it’s about awareness. There are moments where I could have chosen another word, another action, another response. By acknowledging those moments, I take accountability without self-criticism. It’s not about dwelling, but about noticing.
The third question is: What did I learn? If I can see both what I did well and what I could shift, then I’ve grown from the experience. Learning is what transforms each day into a stepping stone instead of a weight. It allows me to move forward with greater clarity and grace.
This nightly ritual has become a way of letting go. For too long, I carried regret and guilt like heavy luggage. Now, I choose to put those things down. By honoring what was good, owning what could change, and finding what I’ve learned, I can lay the day to rest and step into tomorrow with a lighter heart.
As I grow older and walk alongside others at the end of life, I am reminded that I don’t want to carry regret to my own bedside. I want to carry the knowing that I have grown, evolved, and learned to let go, so that my final days, and all the days leading there, may be lighter.
xo
Gabby
www.thehospiceheart.net
