21/10/2025
Our thinking errors can keep us trapped, black and white thinking keeps us stuck in an all or nothing thinking pattern. We can negatively label ourselves or others and this can mean we hold ourselves back. When we compare ourselves to others in life it's such an unfair comparison, we might think they have it all together, they never worry or make mistakes. We only see what people want us to see or what we want to see, our perception is often bias and self critical. Our thoughts say, "they know what they are doing" "they are better than me" "I'm useless" "I'm a failure".
How do we become unstuck?
We firstly need to notice these patterns and see when we are falling into the trap. Like these spiders stuck in the web, what is triggering us to fall into our own web of stuckness? Then we need to offer ourselves compassion and think about what you would say to a friend who had these thoughts. Maybe you would say "you are doing your best" "you don't need to be perfect" "it's good enough".
The next time you fall into these patterns, think about the compassionate part of yourself and what you need to hear.
