20/12/2025
The last few months have been a bit chaotic.
I haven’t chosen myself. I’ve been in survival mode.
In life, we are often conditioned to seek validation from others - family, friends, employers, and society as a whole. We prioritise their expectations, opinions, and needs, sometimes at the expense of our own well-being and personal growth. However, choosing yourself is not selfish; it is essential. Here’s why:
1) You Are Your Longest Commitment.
No one will be with you for every single moment of your life except for you. Prioritising yourself ensures that you are living a life that aligns with your values, dreams, and happiness rather than being shaped solely by external influences.
2) You Teach Others How to Treat You.
When you choose yourself - setting boundaries, respecting your needs, and valuing your time - you signal to others that you deserve the same respect.
3) Your Happiness is Your Responsibility.
Depending on others for happiness often leads to disappointment. When you choose yourself, you take control of your joy.
4) Self-Love Fuels Everything Else.
When you put yourself first in a healthy way, you are better equipped to show up for others.
5) Fear of Judgment Holds You Back.
No matter what you do, there will always be opinions. Living in fear of judgment prevents you from pursuing the life that truly makes you happy.
6) Your Dreams Matter.
Your aspirations, goals, and passions deserve to be pursued. If you don’t choose yourself, you risk spending your life chasing someone else’s vision rather than creating your own.
7) It Builds Self-Trust.
Every time you prioritise yourself, you reinforce the belief that you can rely on yourself.
Choosing Yourself Doesn’t Mean Neglecting Others - it’s about making sure that in helping others, you don’t abandon yourself. It’s about balance, self-awareness, and recognising that you deserve to be a priority in your own life.
