Ky Harkins Life Counselling Services

Ky Harkins Life Counselling Services Counselling Services

There is life after emotional trauma!Recovery doesn’t mean forgetting, it means reconnecting with yourself.People do hea...
23/01/2026

There is life after emotional trauma!

Recovery doesn’t mean forgetting, it means reconnecting with yourself.

People do heal.

They do trust again.

They do feel safe again.

Support matters, and you don’t have to do this alone.

If any of this resonates, please contact me.

Grieving what you hoped it could beHealing isn’t just about letting go of a person, it’s about grieving:• The future you...
22/01/2026

Grieving what you hoped it could be

Healing isn’t just about letting go of a person, it’s about grieving:

• The future you imagined

• The version of them you believed in

• The version of you before the trauma

You can miss someone and still accept that the relationship was harmful.

Both things can be true.

When trauma lives in the bodyTrauma doesn’t only live in memories — it lives in the nervous system.Many people experienc...
21/01/2026

When trauma lives in the body

Trauma doesn’t only live in memories — it lives in the nervous system.

Many people experience:
• Anxiety or panic
• Digestive issues
• Sleep disruption
• Hypervigilance

Your body learned to stay alert to survive.

Healing often involves gently teaching the body that it is safe again.

Why you stopped trusting yourself!Many people describe reaching a point where they no longer trusted their own memory, e...
19/01/2026

Why you stopped trusting yourself!

Many people describe reaching a point where they no longer trusted their own memory, emotions or reactions. This in fact is common in almost every one of my clients.

Being told repeatedly:

“You’re overreacting”

“That never happened”

“You’re too sensitive”

This can slowly disconnect you from your inner voice.

Self-doubt is not a personality flaw.
It’s often the result of emotional manipulation.

Your clarity can return.

Why people can’t just leave! (Trauma Bonding)Trauma bonding isn’t about lack of strength, it’s about survival.When love,...
18/01/2026

Why people can’t just leave! (Trauma Bonding)

Trauma bonding isn’t about lack of strength, it’s about survival.

When love, fear, hope,and pain are repeatedly intertwined, the nervous system becomes attached to the relief, not the harm.

This is why people may:

• Miss someone who hurt them
• Go back after leaving
• Feel panic at the thought of separation

These are trauma responses, not someone's choices.

Understanding this is often the first step toward healing.

17/01/2026

Healing after emotional abuse can feel confusing and isolating.

Many people who have experienced narcissistic or emotionally manipulative relationships describe:
• Constant self-doubt
• Feeling emotionally attached despite the pain
• Difficulty trusting their own judgement
• Shame for “not leaving sooner”

These responses are not weakness, they are trauma responses!

When emotional bonds are formed through cycles of intense connection and emotional withdrawal, the nervous system becomes stuck in survival mode. This can make leaving, detaching, or moving on feel incredibly difficult.

With the right support, healing is possible.

I work with individuals who want to:

• Understand what happened without judgement
• Rebuild confidence and self trust
• Feel emotionally safe again
• Move forward at their own pace

If this resonates, you’re not alone and help is available.

Please call/message me for more info 07919 523315

What if there’s nothing wrong with you?In my work, I meet many clients who feel different and believe that difference me...
08/01/2026

What if there’s nothing wrong with you?

In my work, I meet many clients who feel different and believe that difference means something is wrong with them.

Often, what we discover together is that they may be neurodiverse (autistic, ADHD, or similar) and undiagnosed. I don’t diagnose autism or ADHD but through working closely with clients, I sometimes notice traits that can appear in neurodivergent people.

Exploring this, whether through self-reflection, GP referrals or private assessment, can be life changing. Not because of a label, but because it brings understanding and self acceptance.

I always say to my clients:
We all have our own superpower 💙.

My superpower is communication! This is why I can work as a counsellor, talking and listening deeply and as a tutor, teaching others.

But everyone’s superpower is different! 💙

It might be:
✨ intense attention to detail
✨ a brilliant mathematical mind
✨ musical ability
✨ creativity
✨ deep empathy
✨ problem solving skills that others don’t see

These differences are what make us special.

Who says neuro-typical is the ‘correct’ way to be?

This short video explains neuro-diversity in a beautifully simple way. It helps people understand that their brain may just be wired differently and that this is not something to fix, but something to cherish 💙.

Understanding yourself, what makes you tick, what overwhelms you or what lights you up, can move you from anxiety and depression towards acceptance and happiness.

If this resonates, you’re not alone 💙.

https://youtu.be/Ezv85LMFx2E

Introduction to autism that aims to raise awareness among young non-autistic audiences, to stimulate understanding and acceptance in future generations. Find...

Counselling from £20Affordable, confidential counselling with supervised trainee counsellors, led by an experienced Coun...
04/01/2026

Counselling from £20

Affordable, confidential counselling with supervised trainee counsellors, led by an experienced Counsellor, Tutor and Clinical Supervisor.

Support available for anxiety, depression, grief, work stress, relationships, addiction, neurodiversity, and emotional difficulties.

▪️In-person sessions in Southend-on-Sea

▪️Online sessions also available

📞 Contact us: 07919 523315

01/01/2026

What are your promises to yourself for 2026?

Mine are to stop waiting for change. If I want things to be different, I need to make it happen!

Happy New Year everyone. Is today the day to start building the life you want?

💙

31/12/2025

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