The Holistic Butterfly

20/02/2026

Two years ago, Michelle and I came up with the idea for this program and began writing it together. We wanted to help take others on a beautiful journey back to themselves, and help them connect with who they truly are. We are delighted that the Koram Centre is allowing us to offer this to their clients.

This is something we are both deeply passionate about and have worked very hard on. We are truly grateful for the opportunity to finally share our work with local communities and to support others in building their confidence, self-worth, and overall wellbeing
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19/02/2026

Statement from the Mental Health Champion outlining her view on the Department of Education’s proposed changes to CCEA GCSE, AS and A Level qualifications:

18/02/2026

What the mind of a Counsellor really looks like.

The mind of a counsellor isn’t about analysing you.
It’s about listening beyond words.
It’s holding hope when you can’t.
It’s staying steady when emotions feel overwhelming.
It’s noticing patterns gently, not to judge, but to understand.

And most of all, it’s remembering that you are human not a problem to solve.

14/02/2026

Valentine’s Day always brings love into focus but maybe this year it feels deeper. In a world that often seems divided, fast-paced, and overwhelmed, days like Valentine’s Day, as should every day reminds us that love isn’t just romance it’s humanity. Love always overcomes hate so let’s send all those loving vibes out into the world to all those that need it right now ❤️

11/02/2026

Building Resilience Through Joy

Life holds moments of absolute joy and moments of deep heartbreak. Both are part of the human experience.

We can’t always prevent the pain but we can build the resilience to move through it. One of the most powerful ways to do that is by allowing ourselves to fully embrace the moments of joy when they come.

Resilience isn’t about avoiding hardship.
It’s about strengthening ourselves in the good seasons so we have the support we need within when the hard seasons arrive.

If you’re navigating heartbreak, transition, or simply feeling overwhelmed, you don’t have to do it alone. Counselling offers a space to build that resilience, process what hurts, and reconnect with what brings meaning and joy.

Reach out if you’re ready to begin 🦋

10/02/2026

08/02/2026

Yesterday, as my plane took off from Rome, I noticed as I was looking out the window a sense of complete calmness in my mind and body.

As a child I loved flying, but after becoming a mother and experiencing post-natal depression I developed an intense fear of flying. For years it brought panic, sickness, and weeks of anxiety before any flight. Eventually, I avoided flying altogether for a few years.

Through therapy and years of working with social anxiety and my strong need for control, I began gently pushing beyond my comfort zone, not by forcing fear away, but by learning how to regulate my nervous system.

Some of the small, realistic strategies that helped me:
🦋creating a familiar airport routine which may have included a glass of wine 🍷 before a flight 😂
🦋Counting slowly to 100 during take off whilst tapping the armrest to ground my body.
🦋Allowing the discomfort to be there, and staying with it rather than escaping.

Exposing myself to flying again was key. With repetition, my fight-or-flight response learned that I was safe.

This was the first flight in over 25 years where I felt no nerves at all and a reminder that anxiety can change, even when it’s been present for a long time by not treating it as my enemy.

If fear or anxiety has been limiting your life, you’re not weak or broken. Your nervous system may just need patience, support, and practice.
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05/02/2026

Just a therapist feeling grateful for days like this ❤️

29/01/2026

Grab every moment, not by squeezing it tight, but by showing up for it.

The quiet ones. The messy ones. The blink and you miss them ones.

Life doesn’t usually announce the good parts.
They sneak in while you’re laughing too loud and hard that you cry from happiness, hugging a love one so tight you don’t want to let go, that lazy morning in bed drinking your favourite cuppa☕️ . You might think this is nothing special.

Turns out that was the special part. 🦋

25/01/2026

Things I say NO to as a Counsellor

Fixing or rescuing clients.

Giving advice instead of facilitating insight.

Judging, shaming or imposing my values.

Overworking or neglecting my own wellbeing.

Promising outcomes I cannot guarantee.

18/01/2026

When I was young, I was fascinated by porcelain masks, their beauty frozen and unchanging.
I didn’t realise then that I would spend decades wearing one myself, invisible but heavy, concealing pain, anxiety and loneliness from the world.

This reflection came to me recently while preparing a creative exercise for one of my classes, reminding me how we often learn to wear masks simply to cope and to get through life.

With time, support, and courage, I learned how to gently set my own mask down. What I discovered underneath was not weakness, but humanity, resilience, and the quiet relief of allowing myself to be truly seen.

In my work today, I have the privilege of supporting people as they explore the masks they’ve had to wear to survive. There is no rush and no right way to do this. You don’t have to take everything off at once, and you don’t have to do it alone.

If this resonates with you, know that support is available, and healing can begin exactly where you are.

13/01/2026

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I keep reacting like this?” 🦋

Often, these reactions are not flaws or failures. They are defence mechanisms.
Ways your nervous system learned to protect you when it needed to.

With time, what once kept us safe can begin to create distance from ourselves, from our feelings, needs, and inner voice.

Healing begins with self-awareness, not self-judgement.
With compassion and curiosity, we can gently explore these patterns and understand what they’re trying to tell us.

At The Holistic Butterfly, counselling offers a calm, supportive space to reconnect with yourself at your own pace, in your own way.

You don’t have to navigate this alone 🤍