Look After Yourself LN5

24/01/2026

As we settle into the 227th January 2026 I am aware that it can be a challenging time for many.

Something I am noticing in new clients is a greater acceptance of the role the body plays in leading our often anxious thoughts and less desirable reactions.

Within my work I bring into clear focus the role the body, more specificity the autonomic nervous system and its lightening speed direct link to the amygdala (our guard dog Brian), plays in shaping our choices.

We work very hard on learning to pause, notice and question what happens in our body and mind in response to ‘familiar flavours’ from the past, alongside the relational talking therapy of understanding where those flavours came from.

When we learn to create time and space to choose, between stimulus and response, we can really begin to map and track our established and often unhelpful neural pathways and begin to learn new ways of being.

This can be exceptionally empowering against a backdrop of always believing we weren’t capable of change.

Therapy is about so much more than just crisis management, it’s about understanding who we are and why we do the things we do, it can be uncomfortable at times but the iterative journey of growth it can offer can be life changing and peaceful in time.

Have a read of how others have experienced my work and get in touch if you think I can help you in any way. 🙏🏻

22/01/2026

Some lovely feedback from a teenage clients mum! ❤️

What a wonderful e-mail to have received! A teenage clients mum has written today after our recent ending from a course of successful taking therapy.

It’s been a privelege to assist this young lady to navigate the tight rope of unravelling her complex thought processes.

‘Life as a teenager now is so different to when I was the same age, I had been finding it hard to relate and find the patience to help my daughter build resillience and deal with the things that were going on in her world.

I contacted Ange after seeing some feedback on facebook to see if my daughter could come for a session, Ange was great, responsive to messages and after the first session we worked out a regular slot.

My daughter and I have never discussed what has been talked about during the confidential sessions, unless she has brought it up but she has said that talking to someone who is not connected in any way has helped her gain a sense of balance. She also felt she could tell Ange anything and not feel guilty, be judged or feel her feelings were being dismissed .

I have seen many positive differences in my daughter, she is empowered in her decision making, and talks through things that are bothering her instead of bottling them up.

Counselling is not something I had ever considered before but I hope that this positive experience with counselling will stay with my daughter through her life and should she feel she needs to revisit it any any time, it is something she will actively seek out and do.

I cannot recommend or thank Ange highly enough. I feel like I an starting to get my funny happy little girl back!’

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20/01/2026

I cannot begin to describe how thrilled and moved I was to recieve this portrait of Milo by my friend Lucy Shevill designs today.

Lucy is so incredibly talented and surprisingly very new to this business but oh my! She is incredible and I would love your help to assist her in raising awareness of her work.

Please consider following her page and helping her to give this amount of joy to others.

Just look at my bear in all his majesty. Captured so perfectly for eternity!

❤️

It was a real pleasure for me to paint this portrait for Angela Westbrook to remember the majestic Milo.

18/01/2026

Edit: accidental post meant for personal timeline but what the hell, why not share the fitness instructors battle back to fitness here! 💪🏻

Aim for 2:11 and improve if possible.

This felt good as it expelled the HD demons, they would have won a month ago but am already reaching the stage where brain goes ‘STOP’ and body goes ‘f**k off brain you talk s**t we have loads left down here!!’

Which is a nice place to be having not been here for a very long time 🥰

Ignoring pace for now (used to smash these at sub 2:00) and being happy to submit to the process.

17/01/2026

I have a number of clients who enjoy when my dogs join us for therapy so I feel I should share some sad news about the eldest of my father and son therapy duo.

Sadly my Milo bear was put to sleep after a very short and very shocking battle with cancer on Wednesday. He had suffered a massive internal bleed from his tumour and was going into organ failure. We managed his last few days carefully and he was still able to walk and wag his tail right until the vert end but he wasn’t going to recover and was going downhill very fast. He must have been in an awful lot of pain so we stayed with him while he set off over that famous rainbow bridge.

Thank you for those of you that have shown how much you love my boys I cannot tell you how much it means.

Part of my processing this sad event was to write about him. It does contain the odd profanity (which I am ok with as it’s personal to me and about my beloved bear). I share this with you here;

S**t! He’s gone!

Milo bear,
Always there,

professor wiggles, in the past you would fight through all the niggles.

But This time it was all too much, very quickly we could see it as such

Hours in the past spent stroking your soft silky ear……hours also spent searching for you when you used to dissappear!!

S**t!!…..he’s gone again…….but this time he won’t be back!

How to decide when it’s right to put your dog down? Sadly for this there is no life hack!

There was the time you wolfed an entire chicken carcass off the kitchen side, in the days before porters existence so precisely nowhere for your guilt to hide!

S**t he’s gone again…….but this time he won’t be back

A giant fu***ng tumour in your prostrate, a secondary hidden in your already voluptuous ball sack!!

When the baby arrived you spent days leaving the room showing obvious disdain, until the day I called you out on it and say ‘come on bear, she is here for good, not this again!’

But this time you went into the living room only to then re-appear…..with her favourite blanky in your mouth which you dropped in her bouncer with her, knowing she wanted it near.

Acceptance of your son took a little more of a fight, if you could speak you’d have said’ what the f**k is this, this isn’t right!’

‘it is on my bed, it is in my face, I was there first, it keeps sitting on top of me, this is MY fu***ng space!’

But after a time your gaze at your son became more soft, you stayed with him in your space, no longer so aloft.

You showed him the way, back in the day, but when push came to shove you always had your say.

You were the cleverest dog I have ever known, your intelligence and understanding used to leave my mind blown.

We’ll use him as a stud and get another one just like him, well four years on that idea is now firmly in the bin!

Porter is a superstar just like his dad, but his intelligence is a bit lacking and his running away nowhere near as bad.

No dog will ever come close to the place you have in my heart, but on this day sadly we had to let you depart.

I held your face until you took your last breath, with your dad cuddling your body until your carefully managed death.

Good bye my bear, go join my dad, give him the bloody run around up there, we won’t stay too sad.

12 years a mostly good boy you had a grand life, I will love you forever and my heart will heal in time from being wrapped around today’s knife.

Goodbye professor wiggles

S**t he’s gone again…….but this time he won’t be back. 💔

13/01/2026

Thanks if you shared earlier post. Sadly this is very sad news and sincere condolences to the family who are in my thoughts at this awful time. 😢

Officers have sadly discovered the body of a man whilst conducting a search in the Foss bank body of water near The Brayford Pool in Lincoln for missing person Connor.

While formal identification has yet to take place, we believe this to be the body of 20-year-old Connor who was last seen in Lincoln on Sunday 11 January 2026.

His family have been made aware and are being supported by specially trained officers. There are not believed to be any suspicious circumstances.

We ask the public and members of the media to respect the family's privacy at this very difficult time.

We would like to thank everyone who shared our appeal and those who contacted us to share information.

11/01/2026

Good times back in the day! ❤️

💥First Tabata of 2019!💥
💪🏻👊🏻Smashed it! 👊🏻💪🏻

09/01/2026

Today in the History of Psychology (8th January 1902), Carl Rogers was born. One of the most eminent psychologists of the 20th century, Rogers was profoundly influential in the humanistic movement towards person centered theory and non-directive psychotherapy. A prolific writer, 'Client-Centered Therapy' (1951), 'On Becoming a Person' (1961) and 'A Way of Being' (1980) ranks among his most influential work.

In the course of a remarkable career spanning six decades, Rogers served as president of the American Psychological Association (APA) in 1947, received the APA Award for Distinguished Scientific Contributions in 1956, was named humanist of the year in 1964 and shortly before his death on February 4th 1987 was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize.

Visit: https://www.all-about-psychology.com/carl_rogers.html to learn all about the life and work of Carl Rogers, a profoundly influential figure in the humanistic movement towards person centered theory and non-directive psychotherapy.

02/12/2025

LN5 studio gets a revamp (well, just a clean and reorganise to be fair) on a 7 client day between clients! Tomorrow will be mostly about training in it and resting 🤪

09/10/2025

A fantastic chance for some Christmas family photos for all the family.
Lots of venues and opportunities just reach out through Pete’s page 😍

We are about to start the first Christmas shoot of the year here at Waddington Children’s Centre. This is the set-up for this year!

Mums, Dads, carers, you are all more than welcome to have your photos done too! In fact, I encourage it!!

I hope to see you soon!!

30/09/2025

Irvin Yalom.🙏🏻
A kind and most profoundly empathic therapeutic genius
(if there is such a thing), sharing this world with a man such as this is a privelege.

If you have ever thought of delving into his writing I can highly recommend, amongst his many incredible works, Love’s Executioner. More pass time comfort read than many of his amazing educational works and a brilliant read! 🙏🏻❤️🥰