The way of Empathy

07/09/2025

https://pod.link/1708447350/episode/85ce8858d721d0f4bf051c10ef6cce3f
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Here I am, being very honest and I would say brave too 😇🎊😆🤗

I'm sharing how many years I've been a Racist.
Yes, you read that right 😭🙏❤️

Listen to Can you be racist at 40 and not know? from Life in Black & White (and all the shades in between) wherever you get your podcasts!

02/06/2025

I mean, the door is open without any net 😂

This just came to my mind this morning very spontaneously ✨

01/06/2025

Do you still think you can meet someone if you're only 'perfect'? 'Healed'? Flawless?

Yeah, I get it.
I've been there, too.

You're reading it all over the Internet, hearing the same thing.

🤯Only when you love yourself, then the right one can come along.
🤯Only when you live in harmony and live your life's mission.
🤯When you exercise and keep your body in perfect fit mode.
🤯When you have harmonious relationships with the whole world.
🤯When you are happy from morning till evening , dancing with yourself.
🤯When you forgive all your exes.

These are the delusions I used to believe until recently.

I'm not saying that single life isn't exactly a good time for self-transformation, for self-actualization, or a time to get to know yourself.
But all of these things can be done during a relationship as well.

But it's true that the happier and more balanced you are within yourself, the more chances you have that you won't be attracted to other similar individuals like your or mine exes were 😀.

There can be so much written about it.
What else would you add on?

29/05/2025

In Psychophonetics you don't come to me as someone who is your mentor, coach or therapist.

🔥You come to me as someone I believe in

You come to me mainly because you sense that you know and want to change something inside of you. Or you don't
know how , but it frustrates you.

Psychophonetics sees each person as someone who has their own power and their potential within themselves.

🫣Not as someone to be fixed, labelled and changed.🫣

Change can/must be wanted by the client themselves.

I will not do it for him/her.

But I can 'hold' a mirror for the client.

🦋That's where transformation and often freedom of the soul can then happen.🦋

In a session you discover your inner and outer world.

🎯I have the tools to 'get there', but you have the tools to change it, to rewrite it.

No one else knows better what you need, what you are experiencing and what the situation means to you.

General advices are good, but that's not enough for the transformation.
Psychophonetics does not give any advices to clients.

🔥Because the real change comes from within you.
The change that you are ready for.

If you're ready, there's nothing to stopping you.
Only yourself.

N

23/05/2025

Months ago - on a Friday night I looked forward to pouring myself a glass of wine.
Actually, even when it wasn't Friday.
After all, there's always a reason for a glass.

Why not, 'everyone does it'.
The weekend is here and there's a need to 'unwind'.

But from what?

From how much you're not enjoying your life?
From running away from yourself?
From having some repressed needs from your childhood?
Out of boredom?

Do you think can you forget your grief, anxiety or anger?
Maybe for a while, yes, but it will catch up with you one day anyway.

Emotionally, physically, mentally, financially or through a crisis in a relationship.
People always have good excuses to drink.
I've had too.

The problem is when it becomes a habit.

People always have good excuses to drink.
To Release. Maybe to feel the Pleasure. To Escape.

It doesn't just go away on its own. Why should it.

Unless someone really chooses to.

Alcohol is a drug, it's a parasite.
And it doesn't have good intentions.
Even though it may seem like it.
After all, it's such a momentary pleasure...

Well, I can say that it is possible.
It takes decision, the real strength and in some cases professional help.

The opposite extreme is the avoidance of alcohol if one does not recognize one's true inner needs. Because that is still just running away.

Mainly Psychophonetics and life have taught me to take responsibility for my actions. It took me some time to get to know myself, to hit rock bottom and understand that I choose alcohol and not the other way around.

Sometimes it is enough to observe how people change.. how they suddenly have the courage to tell or shout out the truth, how they suddenly become sensitive or very unkind, how they enjoy or don't enjoy life at all.
As the saying goes - Too much of everything is harmful,so in this case it is true x times over.
My main aim is to highlight how alcohol has been incorporated into the social life of many families and how it has become a common part. People drink it routinely. Like a coffee.

22/05/2025

Sometimes there is no point to fight against something what just needs to flow through you ✨

21/05/2025

I believe that everyone chooses
their own path.

🪽Something is fate, something is karma, but let us not forget the responsibility. Let us not forget the importance of our actions.🪽

🎯Making excuses may be excusable at times, but not permanently.🎯

➡️I stayed for years in a relationship where I was mentally, emotionally, financially and at times physically abused.
➡️I stayed in a relationship where my jealous partner wouldn't let me go anywhere.
➡️I stayed in a relationship where drugs were problems on a daily basis. Where my body was not my temple, but it only served...
➡️I stayed in a relationship where I was financially taking care of my partner.
➡️I stayed in a relationship where I was cheated on, lied to, disrespected.

👌In each of these relationships I was mainly disrespecting myself, lying to myself, betraying myself, and the list goes on.

Every single relationship has been a great learning experience and I know I don't have to experience that anymore.

I know today that this is what I 'needed' to experience.

👀Appreciating something beautiful is sometimes only possible after we've appreciated the 'ugly' too.👀

🦋I remember every single moment when I decided to left these relationships. I remember my strength and intuition.🦋~ they both have been whispering quietly to me for months or years before the decision was made.

It was scary, painful, but today I know it was extremely healing.

🎯Just thinking about it now... Who in me was attracted to all these relationships?🎯. About it, next time

And it can take weeks, months and even years to change it , to recognise it and to act on it.

🎯But it's never too late for change.

If any of this resonates with you and you long for a change, feel free to contact me ✨😇

19/05/2025

Psychophonetics gives you the answers that you already have within you.
You just may not see them or you may not want to see them.

Psychophonetics welcomes your present, past and future.

Psychophonetics offers you no esoteric escapism. But instead, it brings you back into your body, where all your wisdom, pain and unprocessed events from your soul are hidden.

Psychophonetics helps each client to recognise within self the consequences of their own experience and what way they give meaning to it.

Psychophonetics does not force you into anything you are not ready for.

Psychophonetics is a person-centered therapy.

Psychophonetics allows you to relive your own experience through verbal connection, gesture, methodical empathy, challenges and most importantly through the wisdom of your body.

Psychophonetics, for me, is so unique and yet has a 'common' human tools.

Every story is unique and any session cannot be replicated.

Psychophonetics is spiritual, but maybe in a different way than you think.
During a session you are conscious, connected to your feelings, to your body, yet you can feel the healing within your body.

Also you can open different gates to your soul that you didn't know about or you can find a new resources to take home.

And it all stays with(in) you.

I wish you may find the authority within yourself.
Depending on a therapist might not be helpful long term.
(disclaimer - this is only how Psychophonetics works).

You can absolutely be surprised and amazed ho Psychophonetics works.

It depends on what you're ready for.
🪽If you are ready, let's claim your seat 🪽

With love, N

16/05/2025

What's happening inside me when I feel that my feelings are too heavy?.. I asked myself this question...

Where does my human strength come from?
Where does the strength of my spirit come from?

🎯For me, the power of the spirit comes from the power of the spirit itself. 🎯

And from the decision.

How do I know?

✨I've been through the crises an incredible number of times.
✨Hundreds of times I've wanted to give up.
✨A million times I haven't seen the way.
✨But I haven't given up.

Even when my life crashed down like a house of cards.

I'm not who I was anymore.

I'm no longer the one who thought life would beat her.

I'm no longer, thankfully, the one who believed that in times of crisis, she had to stay put and wait.

🧬The initiation of life is a diploma that cannot be bought. 🧬

🧬It cannot be deceived, the experience itself.
🧬One cannot read a motivational book endlessly.

Life must be lived.

And that is what I am doing.
Even when the crisis comes.

Because what didn't kill me back then, can't kill me now.
This sentence told me my Psychophonetics teacher. And now I remind myself of it.

Just a little bit of my story for today.

I suffered from anxiety, panic attacks, for years.
I suffered domestic violence.
I suffered in a relationships full of lies, cheating and disrespect.
I suffered as a mother.
I suffered for years as a survivor of se~ual, physical, emotional abuse.
The boundaries of my body and my soul have been polluted and shattered.
And I am sure there is more to mention

My story may be similar to yours.
And that's why I want to 'show' you that it is possible to find your inner strength. So if you choose to do so, I'll be happy to guide you.

That's why I say, Psychophonetics really did save my life. It's not just a fabrication.
But I had to be ready first.

Psychophonetics

I will guide you to return to yourself & remember how powerful you are

🔥Specialise ~ s xual abuse/anxiety /panic attacks
🌹Femininity
➡️Relationships

📌Lisburn & online

13/04/2025

🦋I am so excited that now I can offer sessions with more flexibility 🦋.

To live what I love to do is to see YOU( as a client) discovering your own strength, potential or power in each session.

Dm or text for more information.
Psychophonetics is so unique.

13/04/2025

If you give people advices all the time , you think they can live your life.
If you're always just waiting for advices from another person, you're not living life on your own terms.

🥹You don't trust yourself.

Years ago, I was also addicted on the advice of others.
I didn't know who I was and I didn't trust myself at all.

I was obsessed with fortune tellers, advices from friends, family horoscopes, and possibly from a radio station lol.

I grew up in a family where my opinion wasn't important enough. My own discernment, creativity and intuition were suppressed.

I began to question myself.

Mainly Psychophonics
taught me that I could trust myself.

And I trust the client the same way now.
The client knows exactly what he/she needs, what nourishes him/her, why he/she came to see me.

The client's soul is very wise.
My soul is very wise.
And that's why we're there together on the same level.
The client doesn't need to be told what to do, but my safe space and leadership is needed.

No one is more than the other.
I am no authority in our session.

The client has the wisdom within and I just hand him the light 🔦 and he shines the light himself.

It often comes as a surprise which inner potential can be uncovered.🔥

Psychophonics does not advise the client.
Psychophonics does not ask the questions.
🔥The questions are very cognitive and we go deeper.🔥

🦋Deeper into the soul. 🦋

And at the end, we celebrate our journey together, and often an adventurous journey.
If your inner voice is calling you, you can make a change today.

P. S. Advice is helpful if someone asks for it from time to time, but is there a need to depend on it?

12/04/2025

The anxiety is not just something in your mind.
Anxiety is happening in the body and it can be healed with the memory of your body.
Psychophonetics is a beautiful and powerful method and can help with your anxiety.

If this is something you struggle with, let me guide you.
121 in Lisburn or online.