JMS Wellbeing Centre

20/03/2026

Sorry everyone who has inboxed me,
Im having issues with my inbox.

Im getting the notification but its not loading.
To the people who have contacted me please email me on

JMSwellbeingcentre@counsellor.com

Thank you. 🫶🏾

19/03/2026

Stop taking advice from people you wouldn't trade places with.

Many people have strengths in different areas. Advice is directional, use it with discernment. What are your values and do they align with the advice you seek?




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17/03/2026

The misunderstanding and misinformation about autistic masking. Not everything you did was masking.
And confusing the two can make identity even harder.

12/03/2026

11/03/2026

Over the years I’ve always tried to keep some flexibility in my diary for past clients who may want an occasional ad-hoc session.

For example, people I’ve previously worked with who might reach out every couple of months just for a one-off check-in.

I’ve always tried to make space for that where possible, because sometimes people don’t need ongoing therapy but they just need somewhere safe to land from time to time.

However, I’ve recently had to review how I structure my diary.
As many people will have noticed, the cost of living has increased significantly, and unfortunately a lot of small businesses and private practices are feeling the impact of that.

As a small private practice myself, I also have to make sure the work I do remains financially sustainable.
At the moment I’m actually very fortunate to have a waiting list of people who are hoping to begin regular therapy. Because of this, I’m no longer able to keep spaces open for occasional ad-hoc sessions in the way that I previously could.

Going forward, I will need to prioritise clients who have regular sessions booked. Whether that is weekly, fortnightly, or a consistent monthly slot.

This allows me to make sure the practice remains sustainable while also offering consistent support to people who are actively engaging in the therapeutic process.

If I do happen to have availability, I will still try to accommodate ad-hoc requests when possible, but I can no longer guarantee that I will be able to offer one-off appointments.

I hope people understand and I will be getting in touch with the people first on my waiting list this week.

Thank you, as always, for the trust you place in mdle and the work we do together 💛.

Jade x

09/03/2026

People often confuse acceptance with agreement.
They’re not the same thing.

Acceptance simply means:
I recognise this reality exists.

Agreement means:
I believe it’s right.

You can accept something without approving of it.
A lot of resistance actually comes from something deeper.

Usually an internal belief like:
• People should be fair
• If I explain clearly, people should understand
• If I try my best, things should work out

When reality breaks that belief you have, your brain starts fighting it.

That’s where rumination starts.
Replaying conversations.
Trying to mentally correct something that has already happened.
But once you can see the rule your mind was expecting the world to follow, something shifts.

You stop trying to force reality to obey a rule it never agreed to.
And that’s where acceptance begins.
Not approval.
Not agreement.
Just the end of the internal fight.

If you want to work through this process properly, Today im going to be adding 5-step Acceptance vs Resistance worksheet into the Golden Library inside Planet Pure.

Planet Pure is my community for late-diagnosed autistic people (and autistic people in general) who want to understand their mind instead of constantly blaming themselves.

Inside you’ll find:
• Worksheets like this
• workshops on autistic rumination and perseveration
• frameworks for understanding your brain
• and conversations with people who actually get it.
Because understanding your mind properly changes everything.

Planet Pure if you’re interested:
https://www.skool.com/planet-pure-2210/about?ref=452f43ec6b7d44d6905b22cc67c44f38&fbclid=PAb21jcAQbV-NleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA81NjcwNjczNDMzNTI0MjcAAafkNj_DHSJao5WaVFW3eQDRHK44EycyKAYXNbUAJpSKq3uX0t4uMTLsrwVwvA_aem_TWMoEUQY_XR5b0IebQKcIg&utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

29/01/2026

This image is usually explained as emotional suppression vs emotional processing.
But again, the difference is much simpler than it sounds.

On the left, the emotion isn’t gone.
It’s just being held down.
You’re still carrying it.
Still using energy to manage it.
Still keeping one eye on it in case it surfaces.
This is what many people were taught to do:
keep it together,
don’t make a fuss,
get on with it,
deal with it later.

So you press the feeling down just enough to function.
And over time, you can become scared to fully feel your emotions.
Not because you’re weak or avoidant,
but because there was never space, time, or guidance to do it safely.
No one showed you how to feel without being overwhelmed.
So holding it down became the safest option you had.

The emotion doesn’t move.
It doesn’t resolve.
It just waits.
On the right, nothing dramatic is happening either.
The emotion isn’t being analysed or forced out.
It’s simply being allowed to exist.
Emotional processing isn’t about digging.

It’s about letting a feeling rise without immediately trying to control it.
You notice it.
You name it.
You allow it to come and go in its own time.
And because you’re no longer holding it underwater,
your system doesn’t have to stay tense.

That’s the quiet difference.
Suppression says: “This feels unsafe to feel.”
Processing says: “I have enough safety now to let this move.”
Most people aren’t bad at emotions.
They’re people who were never taught how to feel them without fear.

16/01/2026

Planet Pure is a living, growing space. Not just content, not just a course, but a place designed to help you understand yourself, regulate your nervous system, and stop turning your experiences into self-blame.
Inside Planet Pure, you have access to:
The Golden Library
A growing collection of all my digital resources, tools, worksheets, and frameworks. Everything is designed with neurodivergent adults, highly sensitive people, and adults shaped by trauma in mind. This is the place you come back to when you need grounding, clarity, or language for what you’re experiencing.
The Thread of Wind
A shared space where people share what’s working, what they’re learning, and moments of insight or progress. Big wins, small wins, quiet realisations — all of it counts. This thread exists to build momentum, encouragement, and a sense of “I’m not alone in this.”
The Thread of Venting
A space to get things out of the body and out of your head. To share what you’re holding, whether that’s frustration, grief, anger, confusion, or exhaustion. This is a place where the community can support, or simply witness and listen, without fixing, minimising, or judging.
Live Workshops and Replays
Workshops that focus on translation, sense-making, emotional regulation, and nervous-system safety. You’ll have lifetime access to all workshops, past and future, so you can return to them whenever you need.
Translation and Sense-Making Tools
Frameworks that help you understand why you respond the way you do. Not to change you, but to give you clarity, reduce confusion, and rebuild trust in yourself.
A Community That Gets It
A space where you don’t have to explain your depth, your sensitivity, or your lived experience. No pathologising. No pressure to perform. Just understanding, honesty, and safety.

There’s a one-off fee £33 (44 US Dollars),
no recurring payments, and lifetime access to everything inside.
The first workshop is this Sunday, and while the community is still small, I’m able to offer more one-to-one support.
https://www.skool.com/planet-pure-2210/about?ref=452f43ec6b7d44d6905b22cc67c44f38

05/01/2026

I’m back at work now, fully recharged and ready to give you my best. Although I’m currently full, I wanted to take a moment to say thank you.
The trust, support, and connection you trust me with is never taken lightly. I’m deeply aware of the responsibility that comes with holding people’s Lives, truths and wounds and I’m committed to continuing to show up with care, integrity, and depth in the work I do.

As I move forward, I’d really love your input.
What kind of content would feel most supportive for you right now?
For example:
• Trauma and the impact of being othered
• Content that helps you feel seen and understood
• Education and reflections around autism (including late diagnosis)
• Anxiety and depression
• Emotional regulation, burnout, and capacity
• Or something else entirely

If you feel comfortable, let me know what you’d like to see more of. Your voices help shape this space more than you know.
Thank you for being here and I hope you all was able to have a restful break 💛

19/12/2025

This isn’t about abandoning you, it’s about being honest and safe.

I’ll be resting and recharging so I can show up fully in the new year.
And if Christmas is hard for you, please don’t minimise that.

You matter. Your pain matters.
And there is support available even when I’m offline.

UK Support:

Samaritans – 116 123 (24/7)

NHS 111 – urgent mental health support

999 / A&E – if you are in immediate danger

Parental Support
NSPCC: Email help@nspcc.org.uk or call the parent hotline at 0808 800 5000. For more information, visit NSPCC support for parents.

Young Minds: Resources for parents, visit youngminds.org.uk or call 0808 802 5544 (Monday to Friday, 9:30 AM – 4 PM).

General Mental Health Resources

Mind: Information, resources, and support for mental health. Call 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 9 AM – 6 PM), text 86463, or email info@mind.org.uk, or visit mind.org.uk.

Domestic Abuse Support
Refuge: National domestic abuse helpline at 0808 2000 247 (24/7).

Safeguarding Concerns

If you feel a child is at risk of immediate harm or injury, call 999.

For non-urgent concerns about a child or vulnerable adult, contact the Multi-Agency Safeguarding Hub at 0161 253 5678 (or 0161 253 6606 outside office hours).
Alternatively, contact the NSPCC helpline at 0808 800 5000.

17/12/2025

This is the part of Christmas people don’t talk about.

I asked him, “What do you want for Christmas?”
And he said, “Nana.”
Not toys.
Not screens.
Just… Nana.

It reminded me how simple children make life look, and how complicated it can feel for so many of us.

Because Christmas doesn’t just magnify the good.
It can magnify the hard too.

Grief feels louder.
Money worries feel heavier.
Loneliness can feel sharper.
Family estrangement can ache in ways that are hard to explain.

Not everyone has their “Nana.”
Not everyone has a full table, a safe family, or the space to pretend everything is okay.

So if this season is stirring things up for you, let it.
You’re allowed to feel what you feel.
You don’t have to force joy, perform gratitude, or measure your worth by how many presents are under the tree.

The real heart of Christmas was never about things.
It was about connection.
Kindness.
Love.
And being human together.

So wherever you are this Christmas, surviving, grieving, celebrating, or somewhere in between, you are seen, you matter, and you’re not alone.

May we give ourselves and each other more grace, compassion, and gentleness this season.

15/12/2025

Your body learned before your mind had language. Be gentle with what kept you alive.