26/06/2025
🌟 Compassionate Conversations with Those Living with Dementia 🌟
At Oakland Care Group, we are committed to providing compassionate, person-centred care for those living with dementia.
Here are some meaningful reminders to help us all better support our loved ones and residents in a way that honours their individuality and dignity:
1️⃣ Announce yourself when entering the room
A simple introduction like, “Hi Mum, it’s Sarah,” can provide a sense of comfort and familiarity. Avoid asking, “Do you know who I am?” as this may cause unnecessary anxiety.
2️⃣ Embrace their reality
If they believe a loved one who has passed is still alive or think they are preparing for a family dinner, let them hold onto these comforting thoughts. Aligning with their reality can bring them peace and happiness.
3️⃣ Avoid arguments about what is “true”
Rather than correcting them, focus on understanding their perspective. Join them in their reality to reduce confusion and frustration.
4️⃣ Don’t take it personally if they don’t recognise you
Their timeline may feel disjointed, and they may not always place you in the right context. Gently remind them who you are to rebuild the connection.
5️⃣ Support their independence at mealtimes
If they can no longer use utensils, offer foods that are easy to hold, such as sandwiches, fruit slices, or vegetable sticks. This small adjustment can help them maintain a sense of autonomy.
6️⃣ Be present when they’re sad or anxious
If they express distress, hold their hand, make eye contact, and listen without judgement. Avoid dismissing their emotions; instead, validate their feelings and offer reassurance.
7️⃣ Speak to them as adults
Treat them with the respect they deserve. Avoid using overly simplistic language or a condescending tone. Engage them in meaningful conversations as you would with any adult.
8️⃣ Encourage activities they enjoy
Whether it’s reading, gardening, listening to music, or taking a walk, find ways to adapt their favourite hobbies to their current abilities. This helps maintain their joy and sense of purpose.
9️⃣ Encourage storytelling
Invite them to share memories or recount stories from their past. This not only stimulates their mind but also fosters a deeper emotional connection.
🔟 Address agitation with patience
When they become unsettled, observe their environment and behaviour to identify triggers. It could be something as simple as a loud noise, hunger, or discomfort. Take the time to resolve the issue calmly.
And remember:
💖 Visit often if they live in a care home
Your presence can bring familiarity and comfort, reminding them they are loved and valued.
🎵 Play their favourite music
Music has a unique power to evoke positive emotions and memories. Curate a playlist of songs that hold special meaning for them.
🤝 Include them in family events
Ensure they feel part of gatherings, even if it means adapting the environment to their needs. Familiar faces and shared moments can bring them immense joy.
🤗 Offer physical comfort
Hugs, handshakes, or even a gentle touch on the shoulder can convey love and reassurance when words may not suffice.
Above all else, see the person beyond their condition. They are still the individuals you know and love—full of experiences, emotions, and humanity. Let’s celebrate their uniqueness and provide care that honours their dignity and worth.
