18/09/2025                                                                            
                                    
                                                                            
                                            Sometimes you just wish you knew this years ago! Psychoeducation is here to help us be better - it’s not a stick to beat ourselves with                                            
                                    
                                                                        
                                        During my course yesterday, I learnt something new that really stuck with me 💡
When a person is triggered and in a state of fight, flight or freeze, they can actually lose their ability to communicate. 🫥
So, when something happens at school and they come home, you might ask…
“Why did you do that?” 
“How did this happen?”
But instead of responding, your child goes quiet. Then you get more heightened - “Answer me, why aren’t you listening?”😠
The truth is, they are listening. They just can’t respond. In that triggered state, the brain only has access to around FOUR words…that’s it! 
They literally can’t piece together full sentences. 
This is where body language becomes so important. When the mouth and throat cannot communicate, the body and behaviour often will. Watch for the signs of how their psyche is speaking on the outside. 🧠
If this response happens repeatedly, it becomes a pattern. The psyche learns at a young age that this is how to cope with overwhelm, and it can follow someone through life as a trigger pattern.
So, what can you do to help❓
If someone is triggered - stop with the questions!Remember the number 4, pay attention to their body language and just be there. 
Stay calm, stay present and when they come out of that fight/flight/freeze state, their words will return and that’s the time to talk it through 🦋