Hayley T Wheeler

25/02/2026

Why is bedtime such a challenge for children with anxiety?

23/02/2026

Why talking isn't the key, Part 2

08/02/2026

Are you struggling to find the right support for your mental health?

Here is an easy to read guide on the different types of main stream support you have access to in the UK?

Keep a look out for the children's guide and more guides on holistic and alternative support options
https://www.emotionminddynamic.co.uk/mental-health-support-options-uk/?fbclid=IwdGRzaAP0_sljbGNrA_T-wWV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkDDM1MDY4NTUzMTcyOAABHhhKOvfx_IqkY3sSpn_t5BJRxp0stgXxphDq8M3rdlhwKoEoV0TxK_9uXZ97_aem_LbpQTXB8W1Q9ezfW6sr90w

Confused about therapy, coaching or NHS support? This honest UK guide explains your options and helps you choose the right support for where you are.

03/02/2026

The last week of January was fantastic for me.

I met and was interviewed by Cuddy Cudworth for his podcast due out next month. He delved deep into the process of helping my son overcome his life long anxiety and getting myself over depression. He had a knack of asking the questions that drew out information that I took for granted.

It’s not until someone points it out do I think about what it meant for me at rock bottom to be able to help my son. I never looked for other options, I never explored the medical or therapeutic models, nor did I think to get someone else involved, I just wanted to help him before it was too late.

By helping him I was able to help myself. Tune in next month and find out more about my story and why EMD works.

31/01/2026

Growing up, I believed that emotions were a weakness. No showing, no feeling, no talking about emotions. You cry on your own and move on.

The problem with this belief is, you collect your unexpressed and unfelt emotions in your emotional vessel. It fills up until eventually there is no room for joy, happiness, excitement or passion. You feel overwhelmed, numb, angry, frustrated, sad, lonely, isolated, anxious and no way of releasing the emotions.

Since learning to feel my emotions fully, process, express and release the emotional impact, I have been able to harness my emotions and use them to my advantage. Use frustration to drive me, use disappointment to motivate me, use determination to overcome challenges.

People class emotions as a soft skill but they feed everything, motivation, resilence, relationships, parenting, self worth, career progression, business growth, education, performance, achievements and so much more. And yet we don't support emotional health.

Unlocking emotions is key to your mental and emotional freedom

26/01/2026

I want to show you how powerful emotional memories can be.

A cough sweet broke a tooth and knocked out a filling recently, no pain, no blood, no fuss but knew I had to visit the dentist.

Within 20 minutes of that thought my body started shaking, feeling cold right through to my bones, my mind started to shut down and I couldn't concentrate.

I just wanted to retreat to cwtch somewhere warm and cosy in my warm pj's.

To look at me, I look absolutely fine. I'm talking and walking, albeit slowly. I'm laughing at jokes and food shopping all the while my insides feel weak and like they are deflating.

I couldn't get an emergency appointment and for about an hour that night, while I focussed on writing a report for a college I'm working with, I forgot. But immediately I awake from the focus it starts again amd lasts until I meet and am treated by the lovely Anwen who I have never met before.

Thirty hours after the original, the exhaustion was still hitting hard. I had been fully aware throughout the process and have learnt so much about myself in that stste of emotional memory, that now I get to deal with it amd release the emotional memories

I was not afraid of the dentist until 2 dentists failed to hear my warnings that their anaesthetic doesn't work on me, the last one it took 4 injections and one local and still it didn't work properly. The pain caused, the frustration of having a tooth cut in half and taken out unecessarily, the powerlessness of people thinking they know better and doing it anyway regardless of the consequences to me., Still now makes my body go into a shock like state.

There are millions probably billions of us feeling like this at any one time. Some it comes and goes, some it stays for longer, others will deny ever feeling like it, some will gratefully never ferl like this. The key is to deal with the emotional memories, not the situatio n.

If you are feeling like this, is it time to get help?

*photo representation of a welsh cwtch to anyone feeling this way.

22/01/2026

Have you mastered the art of Self Sabotage?

It may not be what yiu think it is.

15/01/2026

Anxiety in children is confusing, exhausting and frustrating for parents and children.

Find out why children and adults find it hard to communicate what is going on for them in our family's story

31/12/2025

Why do you want to work with men?

I am surrounded by men young and old (and my dogs) and I see the restrictions placed on them in society, the labels, the finger pointing, the pressure to perform, provide and be perfectly male without being too male and I despair.
“Don’t talk about your emotions, it’s a sign of weakness”
“man up”
"That(no matter what it is) is toxic masculinity, weakness or micro aggression”
“he has to be ### tall, earn ### amount of money to be high value”

F***ing hell they can’t seem win and then the same people do not understand why men of all ages are shut down and taking their own lives.

I don’t want to see men suffer, I don’t want men to feel like they have no way out of the darkness, I don’t want to be losing men at a rate of 1000 men a day globally. I want to stop the unnecessary silent suffering of millions of men globally.

I choose to help men because they deserve to be empowered and supported emotionally, their families and children deserve to have dad’s, husbands , sons, uncles, brothers and grandfathers who are happy and fulfilled and I have the ability to help them. Why wouldn’t I help men?

Some of my greatest results have been working with men, the ripple effect of men who believed they had no worth finding their purpose, leading again. Children regaining their father, partners receiving love and affection, families living and growing together. Men have so much to offer but if we continue to cli their wings, they will stop flying.

So I urge you today to check in with all the men in your life

When you see the smile, the confidence, the high performer, don’t let that stop you checking in.
When you see the success, the motivation and drive, don’t let that stop you checking in.
When you see the sadness, the anger, the grief, don’t let that stop you checking in.
When you see the man who never complains, never lets you down, never makes excuses, don’t let that stop you from checking in.

22/03/2025

We have made mental health a common enemy, something to be afraid and ashamed of, something we do not talk about for fear of rejection, judgement and harsh criticism. All the things we do to ourselves when we are living with depression, anxiety, stress, we don’t need someone else to do it, we are already masters at self punishment, so we remain in our own heads making up scenarios, catastrophising, self blaming and feeling completely and utterly lost.

“why didn’t he say something?”
I hear it all the time, we don’t say anything because society from the government down has made it uncomfortable and almost impossible to talk about our own actual suffering.

No one knew I was living with depression, I would laugh and joke, from the outside in, people thought I had my whole life together. At one point I was getting my teaching degree and four other courses while working full time with four children, doing sport in the evenings, they attended school and their sports, they showed no indication of a family struggling. The I moved on to running a business, doing my masters, delivering workshops, and it all got done to a high standard.

Inside was another story, I was suffering, I was in deep emotional pain, I couldn’t; think straight, I lost my memory, I experienced a loss of peripheral vision, I developed a stutter, I constantly judged myself against intolerably high standards, I criticised myself and judged my inability to change the very thing I was helping other people change my thoughts. It was hell, but I feel lucky to never have wanted to take my own life as an option.

I did however hit rock bottom where a dark and devastating thought had the ability to change my life for the worst but it changed my life for the better. In October of 2015, I new that I either had to walk away from my family or do something to change my situation, so without any medical or therapeutic intervention I set about making the changes I needed to make. I worked hard to make myself better. (as as sideline I helped my son go from 8-9 panic / anxiety attacks a day to nothing, 9yrs this year, that’s another story)

I did it on my own by choice, I didn’t look for another way, I suppose that's the high achiever in me. Now O am grateful for that battle and I see my role as making sure people don’t feel like they are on their own suffering.

It’s hard but not impossible, so please share with your friends who might need to hear that there is hope, that there is a way out no matter who tells you this is it forever, it is not true.

30/11/2024

Three things they don’t tell you about depression: memory loss, not coping with the little things, and disconnection from loved ones. Join our inner circle group to find support.
https://tidycal.com/hayleytwheeler/discovery-call

29/11/2024

Empower your child to overcome anxiety with these questions!