
24/07/2025
As a parent, hearing your child speak with anger or shame toward their body can feel devastating.
You might want to fix it, challenge it, reassure them. Of course you do… you love them.
But what if that hatred is actually protecting something deeper?
A young person once said in session:
“If I keep hating it, I can malice it into something better.”
It stopped us.
That painful logic, that punishment will lead to improvement, is so common. Not just in eating disorder recovery, but in the wider world too. It’s no wonder our children believe it.
But when we gently explored what it feels like to live in her body, something shifted. She remembered the awe she felt when her period returned, a quiet sign of healing. That moment helped her reconnect with a part of herself that still believed in recovery.
As parents, we can help our children get curious about what their body hatred is trying to protect. Instead of rushing to reassure, we can gently ask:
🌿 What feels hard or unsafe in your body right now?
🌿 What are you afraid might happen if you let go?
Because underneath the hatred, there’s often fear, shame or pain. At Altum Health, we support parents and families navigating this delicate process with care, insight, and hope.