Highway Counselling Practise

13/08/2022

This was published in Newsweek today when I was interviewed by Katie Russell on Thursday. Have a look and feel free to comment.

Many couples have come to me because their partner has had an affair.

04/04/2022

This is part of Highway's new office. This is my desk!! Very excited to be here. Same address, different room.

15/02/2022

You might like to read this article published today. I have given some insight from a counsellors perspective which is quoted here in
a Refinery 29 article -

Today, things happen in all sorts of orders and timeframes. Sometimes you can be closer in age to your niece or nephew than you are to your own sibling...

24/01/2022

I look at this book 'The boy, the mole, the fox and the horse' by Charlie Mackesy just for the feelgood factor. This really resonated today so I thought I would share.

03/06/2020

Just had this posted on Counselling Directory Website. Have a look I hope that all of you are doing OK at the moment and that Lockdown is not too stressful for you all.

We often face a time in our relationships and indeed in our lives when we have to...

21/05/2020

Hello,
I hope that you are all coping with the somewhat extraordinary circumstances in which we find ourselves. At least the weather is beautiful.
I have talked with several people over the last three months about about how this lockdown is making us review our lives and making changes and how we go about doing that. I’ve put together some simple notes that may help you if you are currently in a place where you are trying to decide something in your lives.
So here it is.

Making key decisions

Here are five points with some notes afterwards to identify and help to make decisions also some of the common problems that we face when doing this.

1. Identify what you want. Your goal. Make sure you keep checking you are on target for that and that it is still what you want.
2. Gather information for weighing up your options and choices
3. Consider the consequences of what you decide
4. Make your decision
5. Evaluate what you have decided to do

Some notes on the decision-making process

1. Why do you want this? What is the problem you are dealing with? Why do you need to solve it?
2. List every alternative, however silly, talk to people if possible regarding the decisions you are making. What do they think?
3. This looks at the impact of your decision on you and others how will it affect you now and in the future. Effectively you are reviewing the pros and cons and you have to know what you are choosing is the best option
4. Does decision decision you have made feel right? Does the decision you have made work best for now and in the future?
5. Evaluate once you have made and put into action the decision. Remember you may not see the final outcome straight away. If the first decision is not working for you you may have to go back re-evaluate and make a second choice.

Common problems

Misidentifying the problem is a question of working out exactly what you want and what you are saying the problem is.
Having a single source or too many sources
Are you over estimating what will happen i.e. the outcome
Poor timing. Give yourself time to make the right decision do not rush into a decision when you are in an emotional state.

22/04/2020

Good Morning all!
I found this this morning (naturally when I was supposed to be doing something else) I think they call it displacement activity. I thought that this was a very clear and simple way of explaining a very complex subject and that this was something you may all like to look at. All of us in our daily lives come into contact with people we suspect are somewhere on the autistic spectrum this is one way of saying that the spectrum is not a line that goes from A to B.
I hope that if you have a moment you take a look at this and that it help you to understand in someway the autistic spectrum.

By Rebecca Burgess (edited by Julia Seidel and Erik) For printable PDF version in English click here. For version in Spanish click here.

29/03/2020

With the great amount of uncertainty that is happening to all of us at the moment, I am rearranging my counselling sessions to be conducted via phone, Skype, FaceTime orWhatsApp. We all need support and help in these worrying times. Isolation and illness, both physical and mental, can be particularly distressing, and having someone to talk to can really help. By operating remotely client can receive support in a safe environment without putting themselves at risk. If you’d like to arrange an appointment, or you know of anyone who might benefit from this, please contact me or pass this message on.
Wishing you the best possible health, and looking forward to being able to have face-to-face consultations again in the near future. Let us all look after each other and help each other through these coming months.

31/12/2019

A very Happy New Year and New decade to you all. I wish you a year full of joy and wonder.

31/12/2019