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Faye Wheeler Counselling and Psychotherapy

Forensic Psychotherapist. Founder of Blue Spot Campaign. Based in South West London.

29/07/2024

This is my last working week until my summer break. I return to work on 2nd of September. I have been quite quiet on here this year. I have now relocated to Battersea in London and I have been pushing my campaign (The Blue Spot) to new heights.

I am ready for a break. Practice what you preach hey faye? I will be having a self care summer! I wish you all a wonderful summertime

25/06/2024

Did you know?

Take care of yourself in this weather 🫶🏼

21/12/2023

From today, I will be taking my Christmas break. If you need support over the Christmas period, please call the Samaritans. Wishing you all a peaceful Christmas time. I will be back to work on January 2nd. I will also be launching my new business on this date and officially taking up my title of Racial Disparities Consultant too. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 🫶🏼

30/09/2023

Hello all! I hope you had a wonderful summer. I’ve been working on a few new things. I’d really like to hear from those that have taken my workshop that would be happy for their review to be on my brand new website. I will be continuing my client work but I have a new business in the making. Please send me a private message. Many thanks.

19/07/2023

I have shut my practice doors for my summer break. I will be back to work 1st September and will reply to any enquiries then. I wish you all a wonderful summer 🫶🏼

13/07/2023

a hashtag I am guilty of using in the past. But what message does this give out? Only come to me if you are positive? I only want to hear about you if it’s positive? Nah!

All vibes matter. I certainly never want to feel I can’t speak my truth in fear of bringing the mood down.

Let’s change that. You matter. 😊🫶🏼

11/07/2023

I’ve been asked in the past by students ’how can I ever really understand someone’s experience?’

The truth is, you can’t. Even if you have had a similar experience, it will never be the same. Everyone is unique and will have a different experience and perspective which will be informed by many different factors. Have you ever listened to a friend and I thought ‘I wouldn’t have done that!?’

This is where empathy is key. Rather than listening to the experience, listen to the feelings. We have all experienced emotions like sadness, fear, anger, shame….. that…. Is how you understand. Even if you aren’t a counselling student, it’s useful for connecting with people in a world full of uniqueness.

Experiences divide us, emotions connect us 🫶🏼

Happy Tuesday 🫶🏼

23/06/2023

What drives someone to murder? Not my usual type of post, I know!

There has been an explosion of murder documentaries and let’s be honest, a lot of us are fascinated by them. Why? I think for a few reasons. Would it shock you if I said we are all capable? I recently took a course with the amazing Dr Gwen Adshead and she explained it with the analogy of a bicycle lock. We all carry one. It’s whether the numbers are hit for the lock to undo. The numbers vary from person to person to what experiences (combination) will finally make us snap.

Murderers are portrayed as monsters. They are not. They are human beings. Monsters are fictional. One of the reasons I feel we are so fascinated is because it is the dark side of a human being, and deep down, we are all capable.

Studies have shown anomalies with the brain also as in the case of Aaron Hernandez. So is it nature or nurture?

I have been studying a lot of serial killers lately and I hope to share some of the cases with you in the future. Which ones are you particularly fascinated by?

13/06/2023

Gaslighting. It seems to have been a bit of a buzzword this year. What is it exactly?

A manipulative behaviour that plants seeds to question your reality. Gaslighters will use projection, confusion and denial to gain control. You may be accused of something you know you haven’t done. The gaslighter has done it themselves but uses projection to try to make you question if it is actually you. The confusion is really tough to understand. You start questioning whether you did hear/see the behaviour as the gaslighter will constantly deny your perception of the situation.

Always stand firm in your truth. Everyone will have a different perception on situations. But a gaslighter won’t take accountability or listen to your perception and try to convince you that you are the problem.

Feel free to message me for me to explain other manipulative behaviours. I always get asked to explain the differences between a narcissist, sociopath and psychopath. Look out for these explanations in the coming days. Happy Tuesday 😎

12/06/2023

Let’s talk about ‘the silent treatment’. It is a form of emotional abuse designed to make the victim feel not worthy of time and communication. This passive aggressive behaviour is designed to control the victim and is manipulative behaviour.

This differs from ‘needing space’. To maintain a good relationship of any kind, communication is key. It is ok to say ‘I’m feeling hurt, I need time’ or ‘I need space right now’. These are healthy boundaries!

Power imbalance in relationships can be incredibly toxic. Choose communication every time 🫶🏼. Happy Monday 😎

07/04/2023

Let me introduce myself…. My name is Faye. I have been qualified as a counsellor and psychotherapist for 4 years now and teaching counselling at Basingstoke College of Technology for 3 and a half years. My specialty is crime. Whether you are a perpetrator or victim. I wouldn’t like to be judged on the most difficult moments of my life, so I provide a space for you to share yours judgement free. I’m not easily shocked. I have worked in many industries through the course of my life which helps me to see things differently and have an abundance of empathy. Therapy is work. There will be times you don’t like my ‘pokey’ questions. But growth happens in the uncomfortability. I study forensic psychology however, I see clients from all walks of life. Choose the therapist that fits with you. If you have something you need to work through, get in touch. Let’s get you the space and support we all need. I’m huge on empowerment. You hold the answers, I’m just the explorer 😊

06/04/2023

I always ask…. Did you make the decision you needed to with the information you had at the time? Hindsight informs us going forwards. The past can’t change, but the future is unwritten. Make your choices from the learning. Release the shame that hindsight sometimes brings. Happy Easter….. new life…. New perspectives 🥰

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