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It's pretty understood now that young babies should be sharing a room with a parent/carer for the first 6 months overnig...
25/09/2025

It's pretty understood now that young babies should be sharing a room with a parent/carer for the first 6 months overnight 😴

However, this also applies to any sleep before you want to go to bed too 🛌

This may be because you want to set up a routine from the start, and putting baby to bed in their cot in your room for "bedtime" feels like part of this, however, you can still create a bedtime routine AND settle baby in the safest space near you 🤱

As the evening draws in, perhaps you have a wind-down routine: you wash, change into "pyjamas" (another, cleaner onesie) and even feed baby to sleep! 🤱

The safest place to then let baby start the night is wherever you are spending your evening - in a separate sleep safe sleep space or in contact with you until you're ready to go to your shared bedroom for the night 🌙

In a world of technology, it is easy to assume a monitor left in the bedroom with baby, letting you watch from the dinner table or sofa is just as safe, however, nowhere is as safe as being in the same room 🌟

Young babies are known to regulate their breathing based on yours meaning they are safest in the same room. Of course, being right there also means you can respond as soon as they signal they need you too 👏

And, if your little one doesn't settle so well in their separate space, started their night with a contact nap while you catch up with your partner, the latest series or some calories could be what everyone needs 👶

Birth is a big event! It's a big process for your body! It's also a big event for your baby's body, and can go some way ...
23/09/2025

Birth is a big event! It's a big process for your body! It's also a big event for your baby's body, and can go some way to explain struggles you may be having with your newborn in feeding, sleep and just general temperament 👶👇

One example I've been considering lately with a client is how a long labour ending in emergency c-section may have had on baby:

I looked at this 5-week old baby across the whole day while helping mum and came away sure that would call him an Espresso baby! ☕️👶

☕️ Very alert and hard to settle for sleep, even in arms/in the sling (my go-to method with babies of any age for day sleep)
☕️ Very sensitive to change in surroundings
☕️ Very froggy legs when held (as if picked up straight from the womb and still not having taken the opportunity to stretch out fully
☕️ Reflux after most feeds, sometimes quite delayed

It makes sense, in my head, that experiencing labour and getting into some difficulty before being removed via c-section will have been a bit of a surprise...not just for mum, but for baby. Stressful for both and an understanding trigger for a sensitive nervous system! 🤯🧠

I talked with mum about possibly seeing an Osteopath to help calm his nervous system and hopefully to remove some tension - a possible contributor to the reflux! 💆‍♀️🧘‍♀️

Mum also suggested she'd look into introducing some baby massage techniques 💆‍♂️

Sometimes, just having someone to be there, to bat ideas around with and signpost to other helpful professionals and resources, is the starting point you and your unsettled baby need 🌟💬

I'll be with mum and baby 2 days a week until at least mid-December, and hopefully, together, we'll find what helps baby (and parents) to find calm and be less unsettled 🤱

For a baby, feeding, especially breastfeeding, is about so much more than nutrition. There are so many varied reasons yo...
19/09/2025

For a baby, feeding, especially breastfeeding, is about so much more than nutrition. There are so many varied reasons your little one's may want to be cuddled up for some milk. Here are some of those reasons but you may be able to think of many more...: 👇

🤱 "I'm hungry! (for a full meal or maybe just a snack…)"

🤱 "I'm thirsty!"

🤱 "I need comfort!"

🤱 "I'm tired!"

🤱 "I'm scared"

🤱 "I don't feel well"

🤱 "I want be closer to you and hear your heartbeat…"

🤱 "I just woke up somewhere different from where I fell asleep and need to reassure me I'm not going to be eaten by a tiger…"

Plus any other reason adult you, reading this, might also decide you need a cuddle, a snack, some reassurance or just to be close to someone you love! 👶👏

Breastfeeding isn't just a source of food so don't worry if "she just fed" or "she's not due a feed yet…" just because a book that auntie Jane gave you suggested your tiny baby (or even big toddler) should only want to breastfeed every few hours 🤷‍♀️🙈

Follow your baby's lead and the needs of you and your baby, not the clock (or Auntie Jane's book) 🌟

I know it's hard to be so needed and to sometimes feel like you are the only thing that will calm your little one, but i promise it won't be forever! And, in the meantime, ask for help - to care for YOU, to feed YOU and to support YOU 🥰

Happy feeding! 🤱

This is your regularly scheduled reminder that so-called baby toys are unnecessary....🤷‍♀️You can fill a room with them ...
17/09/2025

This is your regularly scheduled reminder that so-called baby toys are unnecessary....🤷‍♀️

You can fill a room with them and they'll be more excited by your water bottle, the packets of wipes lying around and the zip on your backpack...(and you, of course, always you) 👶😂

So often, "reflux" is a catch-all term used for when a baby regurgitates some of their milk feed...and, so often, worrie...
15/09/2025

So often, "reflux" is a catch-all term used for when a baby regurgitates some of their milk feed...and, so often, worried parents are made to feel they need to 'fix' this and are prescribed or recommended medications or products to try and stop it....But this is often unnecessary and may be doing more harm than good 👇

Reflux, medically referred to as "Gastro-Oesophageal Reflux" is the developmentally normal movement of stomach contents back up from the stomach into the oesophagus - sometimes exiting the mouth visibly and other times being swallowed back down (known as silent reflux) 🤱

It occurs for many reasons, largely based on biology, development and modern parenting. Some studies have shown 90% of babies have overt reflux that decreases as babies grow, become stronger and more mobile, mostly by 6 months. This standard reflux where baby is generally content even while and after spitting up, doesn't require treatment or medication with changes here and there to baby-care being possible 👶

🌟 Smaller, more frequent feeds to avoid overfilling their tummy
🌟 More upright time - today's western babies spend a lot of time laid down or in containers, so maximising time they can be kept upright, in a carrier/sling for example can help. A baby not wanting to be laid down, particularly just after a feed, will likely just mean they're a baby carry mammal...not that they're necessarily uncomfortable
🌟 Don't over-wind i.e. don't pat them on the back lots after a feed...this can just act to force milk up that otherwise would have stayed down. If baby needs to burp, they normally let you know (and keeping them upright will allow any excess air to naturally escape without much active winding on your part)
🌟 Be responsive - in feeding (bottle or breast) and when baby cries to avoid unnecessary stress, crying and air intake!
🌟 Optimise breast and bottle-feeds to make sure they're done comfortably, responsively and safely
🌟 Explore what else can cause common newborn behaviour often assumed to be reflux...like crying during feeds, waking at night, poor weight gain, back arching etc.

Drop a comment below for my full blog post on reflux 👇💬

Both in my past full-time nanny life and into my newborn care life, I am a big fan of:1. Getting out of the house 2. Spe...
11/09/2025

Both in my past full-time nanny life and into my newborn care life, I am a big fan of:

1. Getting out of the house
2. Spending time with other adults in the same position (i.e. caring for highly dependent little humans)

So, this is my message to you: if you're ready, and feeling a bit stuck, lonely or needing somewhere to go with your tiny human - they are NOT too young 🤱

Yes, of course, you probably want to wait for at least their first set of vaccines at 8 weeks, possibly you feel more comfortable after 12 weeks...🤷‍♀️

But THEN...

Look up opportunities around you (preferably free or pay-as-you-go so you have complete flexibility to take it week-by-week!):

🌟 Library rhyme times (all free that I've been to)
🌟 Church playgroups (often free or small donation based)
🌟 Community centre stay-and-plays (often free or donation based)

Or

🌟 Classes like that you can book on the day AND are the perfect level of "for the adults" - I've been going to my twin family's local class since the twins were teeny and we love it! Themed weeks, contemporary/adult music as opposed to all nursery rhymes and baby songs (today's theme was Colour and we sang Gold by Spandau Ballet and Yellow Submarine by the Beatles and Red, Red Wine by Neil Diamond and covered by UB30... mean, come on! Bangers!) AND Bubbles and parachutes and amazing group leaders...🎶

Leaving the house for an activity doesn't have to just be for your baby - who may or may not nap or feed the entire way through...but for YOU! And your sanity, and making friends and finding a village! 🥰

I wonder what groups you'll find near you!
(NOTE: some classes may have a starting age from 3, or 4 or even 6 months and beyond...so always check specifically that they're open to all! (Most free ones will be...and ZipZap of course...)

10/09/2025

A nap is a nap no matter where it happens or how long for 😴

Many babies settle faster and sleep longer on the move or in contact with a caregiver, especially in the day when the environment and hormones aren't on their side like they are at night 🌞

So, if you want that longer nap - that some babies just never do so don't panic if yours only ever naps 40 mins - while you all get some fresh air (and maybe you get a little bit wet) and that works for you, go for it! 👏

(With these guys, knowing they often nap longer in their buggy, even if not leaving the house, sometimes I opt for strapping them both in and rocking them (if needed) back and forth until they fall asleep and parking up...without even leaving the house 🤷‍♀️ they still sleep perfectly well in their cots at night for mum and dad 🌟)

These are the 2 important points to remember if, for some reason, your baby is not feeding effectively at the breast 🤱Si...
09/09/2025

These are the 2 important points to remember if, for some reason, your baby is not feeding effectively at the breast 🤱

Since breastmilk production is based on demand and supply, if baby is struggling to remove the milk, your supply can start to drop. So...

🥛🤱 Feed the baby - whether using a paced bottle feeding approach, cup feeding or even a handy Supplementary Nursing System while baby is at the breast, with previously expressed milk or otherwise...

🥽🌟 Protect the supply - make sure to keep letting your milk making systems that milk is wanted! In the early Colostrum days, hand expressing can be...handy...as the amounts are so small and the golden goodness so thick but a pump won't do harm. Anything you remove from your breast can then be fed to baby so you're...feeding the baby! Remember, babies (especially newborns) feed little and often so the more frequently you can stimulate your breasts (mimicking a baby) the better!

Lots of skin-to-skin can never be a bad thing either and may give your reuluctant/sleepy/achey/struggling baby the motivation they need to latch

An Infant feeding coach 🙋‍♀️ or IBCLC can help you find the cause of your nursing struggles and reach your feeding goals 🌟

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