05/01/2026
Many autistic and ADHD individuals learn to mask from a very young age — often without knowing it. Masking is the effort of hiding natural traits in order to fit in, stay safe, or avoid judgment. Over time, this can be exhausting and deeply disconnecting. 💙
You may relate if you experienced things like:
🧠 Perfectionism & Overcompensation
Rehearsing conversations, overachieving to prove competence, apologising excessively, replaying interactions, or following rules rigidly to avoid criticism. Appearing “put together” even when exhausted, becoming hyper-independent, and being harshly self-critical after social situations.
👀 Social Observation & Adaptation
Carefully watching how others behaved before responding, copying humour or phrases to blend in, pausing to calculate what was expected, smiling or laughing automatically, forcing eye contact, and using politeness as protection rather than choice.
🌊 Sensory & Emotional Regulation
Freezing or mentally checking out during overwhelm, avoiding sensory input without knowing how to explain why, tolerating unwanted touch, mistaking sensory overload for anxiety, hiding tears or frustration, and feeling physically drained after social interaction.
🪞 Identity & Self-Awareness
Feeling unsure who you were outside others’ expectations, adopting others’ interests to fit in, noticing your personality shift depending on the environment, doubting your emotions, or feeling like everyone else had an instruction manual you missed.
💬 Communication & Cognitive Patterns
Needing extra time to process, struggling with fast-moving group conversations, relying on humour or scripts to avoid conflict, and preferring written or online communication because it allowed time to find the right words.
Masking can look like “functioning well” — until burnout, anxiety, or exhaustion make it impossible to continue. Appearing fine is not the same as being fine.
At Clinic Autism London, we support individuals in understanding masking, reconnecting with their authentic selves, and building sustainable ways to live without constant self-suppression. You are not broken — you were adapting. 💙