
10/08/2025
The biggest mistake I made after pregnancy loss?
Not getting support sooner.
After the heartbreak, I rushed straight back into another IVF cycle.
I told myself I had to keep going.
That doing something, anything was better than sitting in the grief.
But I hadn’t done any healing.
My nervous system was completely dysregulated.
I was full of fear, full of anger…
and I hated Mother Nature.
I didn’t want to feel it so I buried it.
And deep down, I believe that’s why that cycle failed.
Clinics gave me the green light.
But no one asked how I really was.
No one helped me feel safe in my body again.
And nothing had actually changed.
Eventually, I reached breaking point.
And that’s when I went back to my fertility coach.
After just one session, something shifted.
My body softened. My breath came back.
I stopped surviving and started healing.
That final round of IVF became my best cycle ever
and it gave me my twins.
I do believe that’s why it worked.
Because this work, the mind-body connection, isn’t just powerful.
It’s backed by science.
When your nervous system is calm and you feel emotionally supported, your body responds.
I wasn’t carrying the same fear.
I wasn’t pushing through or pretending I was okay.
I was in a completely different place.
And that changed everything.
This is the kind of support I now offer to other women because I’ve lived it.
And I know what a difference it makes.
Please don’t wait as long as I did.
Support isn’t a luxury.
It’s the foundation that can shift everything.
Lucy
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