Heal With Pavlina

06/04/2026

I set out to write for pleasure, but not quite, because I knew I would publish it. Suddenly, a little of the uncensored joy, gone.

I began a little dance session by the kitchenette. 
In that wild abandon, I felt that whatever I say is so futile… nothing matters in this grand cosmic joke. Should I not say anything anymore?
Embraced silence, again.

The intuitive hints that come with time and space are priceless.
We need silence.

We can't think straight when we're absorbed in an issue with the same mindset that created it.
To step back, take a long, deep breath before responding - so mature. Sometimes, we need to stay away for a few months, not just 5 minutes.

I fell in love at least 3x somewhere between November and April.

Unsure if always one-sidedly; something felt mutual, albeit platonic.

With some distance, I can see things in a different light.
It was nice. 
And I'm grateful.

I reframed some of my hasty conclusions a dozen times since.

The latest one being that ghosting isn't bad if there's no long history in your budding romance. You don't owe each other, so one literally nips it in the bud. Silence speaks volumes, and it can heal in a way that brutally honest communication between two people would not. 

It's not only that whatever you say can be used against you, but also that words aren't always accurate.❗️

I forgave those who nipped it in the bud, didn't want to remain friends, or weren't gonna communicate what's really on their mind. I was practically undateable until my early 30's, so I should be benevolent to those still learning to communicate. 
Whatever that is.
Their experience is theirs to keep

My story is about getting better at vulnerability and holding space, and not internalizing things. When I misunderstand, the solution is to LISTEN carefully.

I'm still learning here.

If these men weren't able to love me because of long distance, an age gap, or my complex character traits, I will never know. 
But I'm glad I got to experience tiny glimpses of intimacy again!

MSc in Psychology is enjoyable, but also challenging, and mimaking me a little nuts. Is that the intention? 🤔 

24/02/2026

04/12/2025

Photo dump of Trondheim (15 pics) and Christmassy Prague (last 3 pics)

That was my third visit to Norway and my second year in a row. Summer and Winter.
There’s so much magic about Scandinavian places. I want to see more.
I believe that trolls and elves are still expecting to see me up north, and perhaps jump on me from behind the tree 🤗

I enjoy being alone, but it is nice to practice dating. Usually, I don’t have the time while in Czechia. So, real talk: do people on apps meet in real life anymore? Let alone fall in love? 💁🏻‍♀️

Experimenting with Hinge has not proven very effective yet again.
Girl just wanna have a coffee date… But guys, why do I need to be the one who texts first? We matched, so make a move on me!

Thankfully, my friend and I met people organically, which is far more natural for me. I like energy and pheromones, and don’t like the superficial swiping system. Norwegians, both men and women, seemed very friendly and kind.
Oslo ✔️, and I will be back in Trondheim for sure.

I plan to spend Christmas in Prague, unless I bail into the mountains for some ski sessions. It’s been years. ⛷️

Work has been busy, but I need to keep myself accountable to get my ass into the gym regularly, even when I don't feel like it. The earlier addiction was short-lived.
Then there’s still one human design video I have to edit and upload onto YT, and my hormone health journal to polish off. I found a new supplement for proper hormone production and elimination, you’ll love it! 🙌🏼

And if all fails, rest is life-saving, and if you can get a “SAD” therapy lamp, even better. It imitates strong sunlight and also sunset. Because, hello sun, where have you gone????!!!! 👋

25/11/2025

Winter is not my favorite season, but I do love wearing my cream wool scarf. 🥶

It’s been blissful and time-freeing being off socials. But I know you enjoy my pics, so I’ll pop in every once in a while!
Photos are a mix of my latest adventures, and they’re continuing.

Family, nature in Sumava, night out in Prague, cold Danish affair, and soon, exploring a part of Norway, and melting over the blonde people there. JK, I’m so immune 👑 💁🏻‍♀️

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Could that be a good thing?
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Once I stop procrastinating, all my writing will be transferred to Substack.

Winter has truly arrived!
Amp up on essential aminos, vitamins, and minerals.
I was super sick, but I’m nearly out of the woods. Yet still in the real woods :)

This Mexico addict is braving the cold this year! ❄️

03/11/2025

Heeeey, we did it! 🙌🏻

4 mins long response to one ungreaceful comment 😁

Keep the promises you make.
Stay real.
Get up, dust off, and show up!

What a ride!

I'll be back.

Day 28

01/11/2025

Just depicting a true story here. But perhaps this year, I will settle down. Or the next.
I want nothing more than a base in the right environment. I'm ready for all the pets I can feed! 🤗

Day 26

31/10/2025

Happy Halloween!
Keep your friends close. Or on the phone. At all times.
Shout out to C. and E. who helped me with the nitty gritty details of my non-native English wannabe-humor (and better grammar)! But I still overthink the punch line...

Day 25

30/10/2025

You’re welcome to my deep memes.
Might not be that funny, but it’s a true story. 💁🏻‍♀️

When I was little, I saw a cute pig 🐖 being killed. I can’t eat pork to this day.

Meat has a lot of energy and power.
Do you believe we ingest the fears and emotions of animals at the time they were killed? All the adrenaline rush…
At 25, my healer told me to cut back on animal products because I couldn’t digest my own emotions, let alone those of others, animals included. I became a vegetarian for 7 years, 2 of which were vegan primarily (and New Age)
The diet experiment gave me some insight. Yes, I am way too sensitive, and I pick up on the energy of other people and am most likely telepathic with pets. It made sense to ‘detox’.

Lo and behold, nothing changed! Even after ‘lightening’ my diet, I was still an anxious wreck.
A more holistic approach was needed.
I took my power back and understood that I don’t have to eat anyone’s energy, or carry it for longer than necessary- I do not consent.
Self-awareness to the max.

What about detoxing the demons that are attached to people? We know that some men literally dump these into women’s wombs during intimate acts.
That was one of the many reasons why I stopped sleeping around. I want to keep my energy field pure and build immaculate boundaries.

If you ingested a demon that doesn’t belong to you… Do you consent to carry that?
If not, say so out loud and stop.
Pray, smudge yourself, bathe in rosemary and salt water… take your power back. This is not New Age. These are ancient methods of cleansing and purging.

Sometimes, we emerge better after merging with the right person. ❤️
Could that be the case when ingesting animal flesh, too?
Or am I going deeper into denial, gaslighting my sensitivity, to justify my now meat-eating diet?
You choose.
Over the last two years, I’ve been feeling great on meat and fish. Stronger, sharper, more resilient…
It took a while to adjust. I still have some vegan days, but I do eat intuitively now at 38, and it seems to work the best for me.
Let’s not fall into a food coma either way!

29/10/2025

Check in with your body at all times.

If checking with God sounds too abstract, you can check in with your gut instead. (God is everywhere, even in you.)

We are open to societal conditioning, peer influence, and still operate from childhood wounds and all kinds of injustice. It’s alright.
We need to return to our center when it feels like we've been running around pleasing everyone, but forgetting who we are and what we want.

A tangible example,
You’re considering major “works” for your appearance. Why would you even want that?
Sure, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to improve our looks to feel more confident. However, you need to ensure it is for you—not because the magazines suggest you should improve. Self-confidence must be unsheakable regardless of what's trendy now. Otherwise, it's forever elusive.
Stand your ground if the doctor recommends procedures you don’t want. In other words, you go there for natural, bio-rejuvenation, and he recommends the tox. (?)
Check in with your body, and you might realize that you don’t trust that particular individual for any job.
Not that you don’t want the procedure in itself.
You are entitled to keep looking. And you can change your mind!
Courage might be not to do anything invasive, rather than succumbing to societal pressure.

How to check in with your gut feeling?
Ask yourself:
- Do I feel obliged to do something out of loyalty/commitment? (Integrity should have conditions)
- Do I feel threatened here? (Run)
- Is it still aligned? (Our needs change)
- Is my breathing constricted?
- Am I making decisions out of fear rather than trust, love?

Stay curious.

Check in, breathe, know, and act in alignment with your values.

Inner peace is always evident in relaxed breathing!

Day 23 of

28/10/2025

Looks like I just got ghosted for real!
I’m glad that “Rejection is God’s protection” still works as a consolation for me.
And sarcastic humor is what I can make out of the situation.

Have you ever been ghosted by a ghost? 👻
I gotta come up with something for Halloween! 🎃

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Day 22 - my favorite number.

27/10/2025

We've got 7 minutes for you.









If you have communicated your needs and expectations, and there still hasn’t been an improvement, it might be time to consider packing your bags.

You will figure things out along the way.

Yes, it can get quite lonely for a single person. But it can also be lonely within a relationship, and perhaps the void is even more palpable there.

I used to be too quick to run. I would fight for love now. There are therapists wth all kinds of tricks up their sleeves. I could think of a few suggestions for a repair.
But if the other person wouldn’t lift a finger, I’d move on without them.

Change and growth are part of the human experience. Don’t stifle your development for someone who doesn’t care enough.
I’m here if you need help with writing a new chapter for yourself.