Heal With Pavlina, London (2025)

10/10/2025

Day 4
It’s been fun speaking unabashedly and filming myself. Where will this 28-day authenticity challenge take me?

Yesterday, I shared about my past of suppressed sexuality and numbing. I no longer blame my emotionally unavailable caregivers.
I take full responsibility for all my actions and the limiting beliefs I formed once I started to give meaning to the world around me.
I was born sensitive. Dancing has been my medicine.

I danced professionally in many famous clubs around Europe. You might have seen me on the stage in Ibiza! All that alcohol, though… a very unsustainable lifestyle after 25.
I found my footing during my first spiritual adventure, where I straightened up. What a purgatory! A few years later, I fell for my Karmic soulmate in Australia. All unconscious patterns needed to gooo!

I dived deeper into working as a Ta***ic practitioner. No matter what you think that entails, I stayed celibate for an entire year while helping others with their sexual issues and relationships.
I then lived in Bali, Singapore, and Malaysia. I led Ta***ic workshops, spoke with clients on the phone, and held them accountable for dating like gentlemen or getting out of addictions.
Photo modeling contributed to my freedom-filled lifestyle. I worked with some incredible international photographers on their projects and have great memories of that time.

In 2020, I got stuck in Thailand while attending shamanic training. When the borders reopened, I moved to the UK.
I worked as a caregiver, while still modeling, coaching, and studying, until they started coming after me to take the experimental v. which I didn’t want in my body! I am not political, but a part of me can see when something is presented one way, but functions in another way, not for the purpose they brainwash you to believe.
I moved to Mexico.
Found my tribe of free-thinkers and misfits.
However, I never wanted to be THAT radical. I know that life is not only love and light, but it is also not just black or white. We must embrace the entire colorful spectrum and face some shadows. Mexico was home for a while…
…to be continued.

09/10/2025

Unedited. No, I’m not poly, and I’m not a spiritual harlot either. Coming out of New Age.

✨ The Five things I’m ashamed of. ✨
If only I haven’t spent 10 minutes talking about number #3.
So here it is. To be continued.
For Fredrik , my spiritual bro and the biggest cheerleader for my inner Tantrika 🤗

I’m terrified. Of my moving mouth. The makeup-free face. And the wrinkles I had to iron out (but only a little bit.)

It’s a work in progress.

Day 3 of the 28-day posting challenge

**ra

08/10/2025

Living with face and body dysmorphia is hard… I wrote about it before.
Challenging myself to practice what I preach - self-love and face/body confidence in my life, too.

Adding to my unusual introduction that I wrote yesterday.
My passion for writing, my background and exotic looks, and the desire not to strive to please everyone. We can’t!

Absolutely honest: Not sure how much longer I’ll keep resisting forehead botox this year, at 38. If I’ll do it again, it’ll be for me. Deeper wrinkle prevention with neurotoxins is not that natural, but it is a once a year shortcut for lazy people like me. Face massage works wonders until it doesn’t. 💁🏻‍♀️

❤️

07/10/2025

I am participating in a 28-day posting challenge.
And I hate it already.
The pressure to produce, show up, and perform.
It’s not me.
If I could, I would stay hidden.
But something inside me that’s always in awe of the colors of life keeps whispering to me to create, be in the world, share, and inspire others to live their lives by design.

I’m a rebel, a black sheep of the family, and an Anarchist, but I’m not political until it’s directly affecting me. I will not put any vax in my body because I am sovereign, and I will fight for freedom of choice.
I don’t blame those who did what they did out of fear or obligation; it made sense to them.
Not many things in this Matrix make sense to me.
I am qualified in different holistic modalities, and I know they work.
But the truth is that sometimes I’m so depressed that I cannot even give myself a Reiki treatment.
That’s when I ask God for help, the higher power guiding me ever since I became aware of the unseen hiding in the forest in the back of our family apartment in a small town in the Czech Republic. God’s presence is here. We don’t need to rush from one Aya ceremony to another.
I used to go to the woods to perform low-key witchy rituals. I think I helped heal a family friend. But I was only 8 and secretly believed in my power. Then something happened, and my confidence went down the drain.
I still go to the forest to ground myself and pray, but my confidence is elusive.
Thirty years later, I still struggle to be my biggest cheerleader.

Despite what my friend described as hypersexuality due to my father issues, I am single, childfree, and I aim to stay that way.
No man has ever made me feel safe to do life and family with.
These days, I focus my energy on pets, therapeutic massages, daily dance sessions in the living room, and traveling as often as possible. When I am in Czechia and the UK, I freelance in spas; when I travel, I work at festivals. I want to coach online more often, and not only Ta***ic conscious sexuality. Yet, masculine and feminine polarity will never go out of style!

06/10/2025

I am brave…
In my life, decisions, travels, and connections…
But when it comes to social media, I prefer to hide.
I only wanted to use this space for my budding coaching business, then it became more personal, as it would.
Visibility is not my strong suit.

That’s why I joined , a challenge to post for 28 days straight. Today, Ishan and Shanti will teach us to work through our shadows.
Fear of visibility is, after all, made up. There’s no actual threat. 👻
If the danger is to be judged, ostracized, criticized, ridiculed… well, let me assure you I’ve already done all that to myself alone!

Posting words is easy, I am a writer! 🙌🏼 (Buy my books. LINK IN BIO.)
But speaking on camera scares the s*t out of me. I am vouching to show up in writing and stories every day, and on camera a few times per week.

I’m not going to lie. I like staying private. I love my time, space, and peace, and don’t need to prove myself here to feel worthy of my luck.
I prefer to nap to spending time on social media 😅 (I love having the excuse of being a Projector in Human Design)
Yet, I don’t want to live under a rock in the 21st century.

I am grateful for this opportunity to push myself beyond my comfort zone and bust the self-imposed limits. I trust in God’s protection and guidance 🙏🏼 .

Cheers to being authentic and perhaps helping some souls along the way. I see you!

02/10/2025

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01/10/2025

I experimented and went 6 months celibate after a disappointment with a man. (I once did a year!)
Did I believe he was a partner for life?
Maybe, but then we wouldn’t be monogamous. I had expectations that he didn’t want to meet.

He mirrored my tendency to self-sabotage by returning to toxic habits. I was ready to change. I didn’t want to sleep around, hope men be my saviors, push them away or pull closer depending on my projections, or withdraw my love for fear of being too much.
Healing in solitude can provide the deepest plunge into your unconscious patterns and blind spots!
I had God for when loneliness crept in.

Then a good friend of mine told me he had a lovely one-night stand and finally broke his unintended extended celibacy.
I cheered for him. He deserved to feel a human touch and body heat just like anybody.

I asked myself - Am I healed after my ex-lover? Who am I even waiting for? Do I believe that unicorns exist? Do I wanna be waiting for the next one and biting my fingers?

Desperately seeking the next romantic project is not the energy from which we magnetize what we desire the most—Real Love and companionship.

I know numerous women who got serious about finding a husband and father material and went strictly celibate. No leaking of energy with the wrong people. They found exactly what they were looking for within 3 or 10 years.

I also know of women who overgive at work, and the last thing they want is rigidity in intimacy. It’s a woman’s birthright to receive, so they periodically call in temporary lovers.
✨ Can we wait for the “life partner material” while in the arms of a “space-holder”? ✨
While aloneness is vital when processing a heartbreak, life is too short to overthink it and spend many years as a lone wolf.

Perhaps the stranger is not the right one for Life, but he’s the right one for Now.
Practicing emotional and physical intimacy with someone you feel good and safe with shouldn’t be SHAMEFUL or GUILT-RIDDEN!
Be right here and right now.

There’s no ONE correct way to heal a heartbreak, insecure attachment style, or wait for the right one.
I’m just here to provide food for thought.

24/09/2025

Why even friendships get to be mysterious:

I’ve known these women anywhere from 17, 15, 5, to just under 2 years.
And what gems I’ve found! They held me through wins, losses, new loves, heartbreaks, crazy house moves, transitions, self-loathing, and regaining my power… Through curveballs, small or big accomplishments, we held and celebrated one another.

Some friendships break when one of you changes or finds her voice, and that’s okay. Way too many friendships broke over different political beliefs, and then new ones were formed. I’m blessed that most of my old ones strengthened.

You’d think that I only make friends with like-minded gals. However, some of my girlfriends are the total opposite of me! ❗️
Yet we clicked. There was just that something you can’t put your finger on.

Even though she rushes to the doctor at the first sign of a sniffle, and you’ve not been checked for over 5 years, you still have the same values and aspirations.
One can still be a goth, and you might have changed your clothes and music, but your humor is still EMO dark 😈
One might do with no luxuries in the jungle of Peru for many years, while you still love your expensive facials.
Many of my friends are married and mothers, while I’m still learning to reparent myself.
And one is so annoying that she forbids everyone to take a pic of her because her identity could be stolen… (You know, it’s possible!)

What connects us is a MYSTERY.
And in the mysteries of life, we’re asked to trust.

💕

28/08/2025

I want to reframe self-love, as many people cannot imagine what it actually means!
“Why do I even have to love myself? Isn’t that narcissistic?” You might ask.
It does sound a little self-obsessed and selfish.
Paradoxically, many women who say they love themselves date emotionally unavailable bad boys and check their looks in the mirror every minute. These “sexy bitches” don’t overflow with self-love, but more likely with insecurity. However, they believe that their coolness, or inflated lips, and gel nails mask that to the public eye.

You can forgive your cat for spilling water on your phone, but your own self-criticism and harsh judgment prevent you from unconditionally loving yourself when you make a mistake. “Fine, does buying champagne and caviar count as loving enough?”

Forget ‘self-love.’ It’s too abstract.

We don’t need to love ourselves first to be able to love and care for another.
We are capable of loving others more than we love ourselves! We do the first and last thing for our mothers, partners, and friends, but we often don’t even pause to reset our nervous system.

What we need is positive self-regard. To give ourselves grace and respect.
To me, self-love now seems inferior to SELF-CARE.

When you prioritize living in alignment with your values, being honest with yourself, resting, having a good cry when you need it, spending time with God, saying no to energy vampires, and using non-toxic produce and products, it sounds like you love yourself just right.

And that is superior to any other (mostly fake) demonstrations of self-love.

Reach out to me to guide you to authentic self-love and self-care, and your life will improve on every level ♥️

21/08/2025

𝑯𝒆𝒂𝒍 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒙𝒊𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒉𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒔𝒕𝒚𝒍𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆:
What if you could learn to trust yourself, raise your self-esteem, and attract more serious men who add value to your life?
Imagine slowing down, stopping the chase, and savoring the waiting. Without negative self-talk, expectations, and urgency, dating (in due time) becomes fun again.

𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑 𝒚𝒐𝒖:
1 Heal after betrayal
2 Know your worth (no more narcs or emotionally unavailable men who take advantage of your weak boundaries!)
3 Radiate femininity, love, and peace

Even as a single woman, joy is inevitable when you reconnect with your heart and allow yourself to feel God’s goodness again.
How valuable is knowing what you truly desire and having the roadmap to receiving it? I am the guide you’ve been praying for. ✨

You feel safe only with a fully grown, mature, masculine man doing the inner work. But he feels safe only if you do the inner work, too!

I started with Men’s work—helping men find love instead of the other way around, as I wanted to fix the ‘bad ones’ and coach them into the ‘good ones.’ Haha, makes sense? 💁🏻‍♀️
I learned the secrets of many men’s minds and their deeper longings.
Now I want to help women like you see that there are good men out there already👀 ♥️

You can’t expect to heal if you still seek validation from casual encounters or define your worth based on your achievements. None of that is sustainable.

Feeling secure in relationships takes practicing trust, self-care, and eliminating limiting beliefs that sabotage your deeper needs.
Four to six months of my mentoring guarantees you reconnect with your feminine core, build your confidence, embrace life’s pleasures, and be the queen who’s fine with or without him!

4 months - foundational practices for healing in aloneness.
6 months - 8-week add-on to put you back in the game!
DM me “RESET” to get on a call with me!

11/07/2025

Major shifts occurred.
The transitioning period was looonngg.
There were many detours. I wish I could say I took the scenic route, but it often looked like a haunted house.

𝑨𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔
It wasn’t chocolate, wine, or to***co.
More prominent was the addition to validation to avoid feeling pain! 🤯

One evening, I prayed to God to remove the pain I felt regarding a particular individual who was hurting me. Then I broke the silence and texted them.
The pain was gone because as long as they were still there, I felt validated!
Anger took the lead the next day. If you’re self-aware, you know your patterns.

The solution is not to avoid feeling your grief but to dive deeper to see what’s underneath it.
Fear of abandonment? Fear of rejection?
Do you need to forgive somebody, or the person in the mirror? Address that before you self-sabotage. Emotional pain can also manifest as physical pain. Don’t think that the body wasn’t listening. It’s okay to feel pain if you get hurt! Don’t get addicted to numbing it.

𝑹𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆
I’m ready for a relationship, yet I keep attracting people who are not. Is this a mirror or a test?
Letting the other be who they are while I move on is tough.
The one thing I’m clear on is keeping it in my pants until the prospective manfriend’s actions scream: I’m serious about you, me, and us.

𝑭𝒂𝒊𝒕𝒉
I don’t want to work with New Agey and uncommitted clients anymore. My faith in God surpasses my beliefs in Astrology and even Human Design. I still use those modalities to explain our operations, but we’re so much more than that. And when we don’t know the best way, despite today’s full-moon reports, we can always ask our Creator.
Surrendering to a higher power has kept me alive through the most turbulent years. It wasn’t ‘Creatix codes’, horoscope, moon phase, Shaman’s potions, or Tarot.

Woo-woo will always be in my heart, but it’s not my compass. My compass is God (the unseen but Almighty power) and my intuition.
Yet, observing nature can tell us more than the Bible.
I’ve always been brave, so why let the outer world dictate my life?

If you’re inspired to work with me and restore your faith, I’m just one DM away!
♥️

05/05/2025

❤️
Choose Love.
Even if it means it’s just you and God for now.
Choose the real thing over halfheartedness, self-betrayal, high tolerance for drama, and enabling someone’s vices.
Choose radical self-love to demonstrate your high self-worth and self-respect.

No one will give you a medal for staying where you don’t belong.
No one is going to put you up on a pedestal for having mercy on an unconscious, lost soul who has no accountability and cannot calculate the consequences of their actions. Let them be on their own journey. You don’t have to be part of it. Sure, caring about someone’s well-being is noble, and it’s not a weakness, but you can also care from afar.

Forgiveness is Godly, and we were all blessed with possessing that ability; it brings peace to the soul, and having no resentments will help you create anew from a clean slate. But you can forgive from afar, and forever deny access.

Look at the treasures opening up in you after interacting with the wrong person! Before, you had no idea about your dealbreakers, the limits to your care, the boundaries you need to install, and the dreams to entertain.
Thank them for it. 🙏🏼

Choose Love over Fear of Loneliness. Loneliness and Grief are valuable teachers.
Find better fitting activities to stimulate your heart chakra.
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