Entity & Essence

16/01/2026

🤍 The funeral ceremony was just how you imagined. Fitting music, fitting words, fitting sentiments. It was moving, respectful, soothing and funny in all the right places. So, what do you say at an ashes scattering or interment?

🤍 What would you like to say? Something like this?

🤍 Why not comment with words you think would be moving and poignant for someone special or maybe words you hope would be said at the interment of your ashes?

15/01/2026

I am always grateful when a family message me after I have supported them through a funeral.

This was after my last ceremony of 2025.

Another lovely family who trusted me with their feelings and memories. I am so grateful to have a role that connects me to so much human spirit.

14/01/2026

🤍 Bereaved parents of East Kent now have a new support group.

🤍 “Together in Grief” has been set up by a local nurse, Amber Selvey, who, herself, is no stranger to close personal loss.

🤍 The group will meet every 3rd Wednesday of each month in Revival Food & Mood, Whitstable 7-8pm.

Click on the link for Amber’s back story.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0mkw384249o?at_medium=social&at_link_origin=BBC_Kent&at_ptr_name=facebook_page&at_campaign=Social_Flow&at_format=link&utm_sf_post_ref=651138681&at_link_id=A14A86BC-F129-11F0-B47B-E8ED3F9A8F33&at_campaign_type=owned&utm_sf_cserv_ref=124715648647&at_bbc_team=editorial&at_link_type=web_link&fbclid=IwZnRzaAPURQdleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAo2NjI4NTY4Mzc5AAEeCyMQaG2CRStpGS7qWfsds-_wuWt6EFcJBpJ1a9_gBWXvK_ode82HZclkwsc_aem_HHj4vO2PQClfJZCJ-GiXow

Amber Selvey, who works at the QEQM hospital in Margate, says "grief never goes" but stays forever.

13/01/2026

🤍 There is no grief without love.

🤍 To avoid pain, we have to not love in the first place and what is life without love?

13/01/2026

🦋 Sometimes I find new and original tracks that would make a beautiful addition to a funeral ceremony. I first shared this in my personal account 2 years ago.

Why not have a listen?

The Wings of a Butterfly by James Hawken & Toby Banks 🦋

As I walked I sang for the trees
And as I thought I sang for love
As I walked I sang for my lady
And as I thought I sang for the peaceful dove

And I saw many faces
From my past they fluttered by
Full of dreams and many colours
The wings of a butterfly

As I cried she sang for me
And as I sighed she sang of living
As I lied she sang the truth
And as I smiled she sang of giving

And I saw many faces
From my past they fluttered by
Full of dreams and many colours
The wings of a butterfly

James Hawken, Toby Banks · The Wings of a Butterfly (From the Archive) · Song · 2024

08/01/2026

🤍 Our society isn’t geared towards human nature but there is no denying our character. We love, therefore we grieve when someone we love dies.

🤍 Embrace your grief, it is your permission to honour those you love and yourself. Allow your sorrow space and it will ease, find your support system (which includes how you care for yourself) and find ways to reframe your love by living your life with new purpose, allowing yourself to carry your loss with peace and dignity. Allow yourself to heal.

05/01/2026

🤍 “The Visitor” by K M Edmed

This is my reading of K. M. Edmed’s sweet poem about encountering someone’s spirit. Stay tuned for more great poetic content!

04/01/2026

🤍 👼10 little Angel Gowns for Sleeping Beauties Kent created from another donated wedding dress.

My dear friend Janet has made so many over the Christmas period alone. I am so proud of her and so thankful for the generous donators of their precious wedding dresses. They are all transformed into gowns for precious little babies who are destined for heaven. 👼🪽

04/01/2026

🤍It’s true, if every day was perfect, would we still recognise its perfection?

🤍 If nothing went wrong in our life, would we still appreciate those good times?

🤍 The darkness is full of magic, we just need to take a conscious peek.

31/12/2025

🤍 As the New Year beckons, may I just say how grateful I am to have met you or worked with you or supported you this year and may 2026 bring hope, happiness and good health Mxx