04/03/2026
The simple tweak ⤵️
When you first became a mum, you probably thought you were failing.
You told yourself you just needed to be calmer, more patient.
But here’s what most people get wrong.
This is not a personality flaw, it is not because you are a bad mum.
It is nervous system overload and neurodivergence, which has most likely been overlooked your entire life.
If you were the “good girl” growing up, you likely learnt to:
✨ Mask your sensory discomfort
✨ Suppress your emotional reactions
✨ Push through overwhelm without complaining
Motherhood removes the mask.
An ADHD or autistic nervous system that coped for years suddenly cannot, “mum rage” is not anger, but it is dysregulation.
Here’s the shift ⤵️
Rather than trying to be calmer, the real work is understanding how your brain is wired.
When women finally realise they are neurodivergent:
💡 The guilt starts to make sense
💡 The triggers become predictable
💡 The solutions become practical
At S E I K, we assess high masking women every week who thought they were just failing at motherhood.
If you are tired of promising yourself you will not yell again tomorrow…
Comment SCREENER and we will send you the next step. 💛
