17/02/2022
LABELS. Let's see a common(!) example: You were born. You've a gender, a skin color, a family, homeland, culture and most of the times a certain type of religious and political view as well (given by your family of course). So you got many labels which will determine your behaviour and how you MUST live your first years, even decades. When finished your schooling you get a qualification, a 9-5 job with a title on your card. You'll have a relationship, your own family where you'll become a father or a mother and play one of these roles as your culture requires. You'll also identify yourself with your car, house, area you live in, with your friends etc. It's all okay to this point.
But when you totally identify yourself with the mentioned labels the problem starts. You believe that the labels are you and you must live and act by the rules which come with a certain label even if it feels a little unconfortable sometimes in your heart.
You take these roles with you everywhere. To your home, to the street, to the gym and restaurants for instance. Where these all leads?
Let's see a few common thinking patterns in this cases:
„In the family the man/woman/partner/husband/wife has a certain jobs to do and has certain rights to do this and that. XY expect special treatment on the street, at the gym, in a restaurant, shops etc. because he/she has a certain position or special friends and because he/she is Mr./Miss Whoever. BMW owners are rude, women cannot drive, men are more inteligent than women etc.”
When a person totaly identify himself with his own labels, his core becomes extremly fragile and it leads to a very thin foundation of his persona. The person can be easily controlled by others –we’ll talk about the ’how’ soon- because he wants to protect his identy at all costs.
Sometimes life takes a little twist and the house of cards collapses (the kids gone, title, workplace gone, friends dissapear, partner’s gone etc.) then the person feels „lost”, feels like a nobody(!) and cannot deal with the situation because he does not understand it where all has started. And it has started WITHIN.
But barely looks within (to the most obvious place) and ask himself a question: Who am I?
To be able to ask this question from yourself, you have to be present HERE and NOW and to take a coscious breath and just observe it! ❤
Why is it important to stop labeling others and also to stop identifying ourselves with the labels? Because otherwise we will NOT see the HUMANBEING behind the labels. And the other humanbeing is me, I am him/her.
