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Rachel Tam Nguyen

Humanistic Counsellor providing a holistic approach to mental and emotional well-being.

06/08/2025

You didn’t have to be a parent to your parents to feel like you had to grow up fast.

Growing up too soon takes many forms, and not all of them are easy to spot, as society often praises the traits that emerge as a result of having to grow up fast whilst the impact flies under the radar.

If you frequently felt like you had to stay alert for scary things, to read the mood of the room, to be small, to hold it all together. Then likely you weren’t just "helping out", you were holding it all together.

You had to grow up fast, because there was no safety and space for you to fall apart.

You were a child, but your world asked for more: To be the caregiver. The emotional anchor. The quiet one who didn’t add to the load.

While other kids played, you were scanning.
While others were messy and loud, you were composed and capable.

And that’s a loss worth grieving.
The innocence, the lightness, the mischief.
All the things you put away to survive.

If you’re tired now, it makes sense.
If you struggle to ask for help, it makes sense.
If you still carry a deep, invisible pressure to keep everything from falling apart, that makes sense too.

You were never meant to carry so much, so young. And you’re allowed to lay it down now. You deserve the support to help you do so, without losing your caring nature.

🌿 Ready to begin your healing journey?
Click the link in my bio to book a free discovery call

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14/07/2025

The emotional anchor. The one others leaned on while you tried to keep your own head above water, stifling your own confusion and fears about the world.

You were the one who listened, soothed, showed up, even when your own heart was breaking.

And sometimes, the grief sneaks in, not just for what happened, but for what never did. The noticing, the nurturing and the right to be a child.

When rescuing and fixing becomes your identity, it’s easy to forget you were a child, not a caregiver.

Unlearning these patterns isn’t selfish. It’s the slow, sacred work of coming home to yourself.

CTA:
✨ If this resonates, you’re not alone. I support adults healing from parentification, enmeshment and relational trauma.
💌 To explore 1:1 sessions with me, visit the link in my bio.

02/07/2025

This July, I’m leaning into softness

For every recovering fixer, peacekeeper, and over-giver this one’s for you.

If these words speak to something tender in you...

✨ save this for the days you forget
💬 share it with someone who’s still learning to choose themselves
🌻 and let me know in the comments
what are you declaring for yourself this month?

01/07/2025

Canon events for the parentified child 🫠

The unofficial checklist of people who had to grow up too soon and are now… tired.

You weren’t meant to be the parent, the mediator, or the family therapist.
You were meant to be a kid.

These were the canon events.
And healing? That’s the plot twist. 💫

Therapy can help you lay some of it down, without losing your caring nature.

✨ Ready to begin your healing journey?
Click the link in my bio to book a free discovery call.

How many of these are on your list? Or do you have a ‘canon event’ of your own? Drop it in the comment or just drop a 🤝 if you relate.

18/06/2025

My journey to culturally responsive therapy started with my own healing. When I first entered therapy at 16, Western approaches felt alienating,the language didn't hold my stories, the frameworks couldn't contain my cultural heart.

I realized I was trying to fit my healing into Western frameworks, just like I had tried to fit myself into Western culture growing up.

Then something shifted. As more therapists of colour entered our field, we started naming what was missing: cultural competency that honors ALL of who we are.

The pandemic brought waves of East Asian clients facing both COVID racism and cultural confusion. I saw how 'individualistic' approaches made clients feel like they had to choose between healing and cultural identity.

But boundaries don't have to be walls that separate us from our people - they can be bridges. Strong enough to hold our wellbeing, flexible enough to honor our heritage.

My work with parentification reflects this: helping people heal trauma while honoring family connections and cultural values.

Healing should feel like coming home to yourself, not exile from your roots.

Everyone deserves therapy that sees their whole identity, not just their symptoms.

✨Ready to explore therapy that honors all of who you are?

✨Book a free consultation - link in bio. Let's create space for your whole story

✨Follow for more trauma informed and culturally sensitive content on Parentification

11/06/2025

Hello! I’m Rachel ☺️

It’s been a little while since I posted on my feed. I took an extended break from posting after becoming a first-time mum. While I’ve been back in the therapy room for a while now, creating content took a back seat as I adjusted to this new season of life (read: learning how to function on less sleep and more love than I knew was possible).

I'm gently easing back into creating content! If you’re new here, welcome. And if you’ve been here a while, thanks for sticking around. I’m glad to be finding the space and capacity to create content again.

So here’s a (re)introduction: I’m a trauma-informed and culturally sensitive therapist, working online. I support adults who had to grow up too quickly as children to prioritise themselves without guilt and shame. The little adults, the responsible ones, the mature ones, the ones wondering who they are beneath the roles they’ve played.

Therapy with me is warm, collaborative, and gently challenging. A space where you don’t have to hold it all together.

If you're curious about what working with me looks like:

✨Check out the wonderful testimonials from previous clients in my highlights (some of whom have returned)

✨Click the link in my bio to learn more about my approach and how I work

09/11/2023

Hello! I have some news! My partner and I have been expecting our first child!

Pregnancy has been a whirlwind, and time has taken on a different shape! I've been learning to adapt to what has felt like a fast and frequent change in capacity and ability. It's been an opportunity to dig deeper into self compassion and self nurturing.

The last two weeks of farewells with my clients have been bittersweet.

I've been holding space for the grief of endings as well as the excitement of the next chapter and meeting our daughter.

Thank you for being in this space with me. I value and I'm grateful for your interaction with the content that I share here with you

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07/09/2023

Dear Caring hearts with your hidden struggles, I see you... 🧡

Did you know it's possible to care without carrying? That healing from Parentification doesn't mean you abandon your empathic and caring nature?

Healing from impulsive and chronic care-taking actually allows you to be authentic in relationships without your worth hinging on how useful you are and how people can depend on you?

Relationships can be satisfyingly reciprocal and not leave you pendulating between guilt and resentment.

Our choices in those we care for can reveal intricate connections. Often we are drawn to individuals eho echo familial dynamics.

Recognizing these patterns can lead to mindful caregiving and information about needs of your own that deserves to be met.

Remember that self awareness is a journey. Exploring your rescuing fantasies holds the key to profound healing.

Follow for more!

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17/08/2023

If you were Parentified growing up you might find yourself in these familiar patterns.

I want you to know that you have the power to break them! You get to write a new narrative for yourself.

You're not alone on this journey. It's incredibly common and healing and growth awaits you.

In the upcoming posts I will share with you my tips on how to do the following:

⚡Learn to prioritise your needs without guilt
⚡Empathize with boundaries
⚡Find harmony and balance in being supportive
⚡Manage conflicting feelings

🧡 Like and save if you need help remembering these patterns

🧡 Feel free to let me know in the comments what you're looking forward to learning more about

27/06/2023

The command of now-now-now of urgency can be overwhelming!😵‍💫

Here are some strategies you can practice to soothe the anxiety provoked by that sense of urgency.

Practicing mindfulness is an important part of healing, as it'll help you to slow down the inner rush & haste to jump in and fix 🫨

Slowing down will also help you discern the level of importance of requests, and allow you space to respond rather than react.

Gift yourself and your nervous system time...

Have you struggled with being overly responsible of find yourself caught in the cycle of chronic caretaking/fixing?

Comment with 💜 if you found this helpful.

If you're up for sharing, let me know which tip you'd like to practice below 👇🏼

07/06/2023

It feels good to be accepted and approved of by others, however the cost to belong to that club can often be a steep one to pay.

We often pay by being trapped in survival mode, feeling highly vigilant, anxious and experiencing crippling guilt.

An important part of recovery is to learn how to manage our own distress so that other people's urgency doesn't become our panic and emergency.

Healing from Parentification and the people pleasing/chronic caretaking tendencies that comes with it, requires us to develop the ability to:

🔸Recognize when we are anticipating people's needs without them asking
🔸Learn to distinguish and be discerning about the level of importance of requests
🔸Practice distress tolerance and to self-soothe

I hope this mantra will be useful to you in your healing journey.

Don't forget to save and share 💜

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Tuesday	10am - 7pm
Wednesday	10am - 7pm
Thursday	10am - 7pm
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