Rachel Tam Nguyen

Rachel Tam Nguyen Humanistic Counsellor providing a holistic approach to mental and emotional well-being.

This season can be heavy for so many. If the holidays feel complicated, painful, or lonely, you're not alone. It's okay ...
22/12/2025

This season can be heavy for so many. If the holidays feel complicated, painful, or lonely, you're not alone. It's okay for the holidays to not be merry.

Sending love to everyone navigating grief, loss, distance, or difficult choices. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve gentleness ✨


This has been on my mind lately. It's been coming a lot in my client sessions and I felt that it was important to name i...
19/12/2025

This has been on my mind lately. It's been coming a lot in my client sessions and I felt that it was important to name it here and share it with you.

For many, the holidays don't just remind you of what you didn't have. They show you the resolution and repair you doubt you'll ever get.

Every ad sells the fantasy: families that apologize, relationships that heal, happy endings that tie everything together.

But your reality might be a family that never acknowledged the harm. Never took accountability. Never changed.

If the holidays feel especially heavy this year, it's not just grief. It's compounded grief. And it's completely valid.

I hope you're finding some comfort in the small joys and being gentle with yourself.

You are enough however you choose to celebrate and engage with this season.

Let me know in the comments, what showing up for you looks like this season ✨


17/12/2025

Don't worry if the turkey ends up being dry, that's what the gravy is there for 😁

Hosting doesn't have to feel like a performance review. You're allowed to be present, not just manage everyone's experience.

You don't owe anyone a 'perfect' Christmas. You're allowed to host for the purpose of connecting and togetherness, and everyone is responsible for their own mood, engagement, and participation.

I'm Rachel, an online trauma therapist based in London/UK, supporting clients worldwide

I help people-pleasers & fixers rewire their relationship to guilt, so you can prioritize yourself with ease.

Follow for more support to help you feel safer choosing yourself.


09/12/2025

Hey, I know the pressure to be merry can make everything feel even heavier.

So here's your permission slip:

You don't have to force joy you don't feel.
You don't have to show up to everything.
You don't have to pretend you're okay when you're not.
You don't have to match everyone else's energy.
It's okay to protect your peace, even during the "most wonderful time of the year."
You get to celebrate in ways that aligns with your values.

The glittering lights are beautiful, but they don't erase what you're carrying. And you're allowed to hold both: the beauty around you and the heaviness within you.

Be gentle with yourself this season. 🤍

Share with me in the comments what you'll be giving yourself permission to do 📝

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11/11/2025

The surprise and relief isn't just that they're capable, but that we are often in the way of them discovering other strengths and gifts.

Often, it's guilt and fear about abandoning others that binds us to overfunctioning, rescuing, and fixing tendencies.

It's also common to not know how else to be in someone's life if you've based your worth on caretaking and anticipating their needs (whether that's projected or accurate).

✨ So tell me and the community, if you've been able to stop - how did you do it?!

🙋🏻‍♀️I'm Rachel, a culturally sensitive trauma therapist for overfunctioners: people who chronically feel compelled to people-please and overexert in relationships.

🧬If you'd like help changing your relationship to guilt, so you can prioritize yourself with ease and have relationships where you actually matter too,

🔗 Link to book a discovery call in the bio or comment FREE CALL


04/11/2025

You can care about someone AND let them manage their own discomfort, whilst giving yourself the time to pause, ground yourself before you respond with what you have to give.

You're not a bad person for struggling with the care you want to provide but may not always be able to nor want to when it's inappropriate.

You're allowed to respond when you're ready, not when their anxiety (or yours) demands it.

I'm Rachel, a trauma-informed therapist for overfunctioners - people who chronically feel compelled to rescue and fix others.

I help you change your relationship to guilt, so you can prioritize yourself with ease and have relationships where you actually matter too.

🎊 Give this a like if you will use this mantra
📂Save this reminder for the next time you feel that pull to immediately fix it.
🌿 Follow for more tips!

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04/11/2025

You can care about someone AND let them manage their own discomfort, whilst giving yourself the time to pause, ground yourself before you respond with what you have to give.

You're not a bad person for struggling with the care you want to provide but may not always be able to nor want to when it's inappropriate.

You're allowed to respond when you're ready, not when their anxiety (or yours) demands it.

I'm Rachel, a trauma-informed therapist for overfunctioners - people who chronically feel compelled to rescue and fix others.

I help you change your relationship to guilt, so you can prioritize yourself with ease and have relationships where you actually matter too.

🎊 Give this a like if you will use this mantra
📂Save this reminder for the next time you feel that pull to immediately fix it.
🌿 Follow for more tips!

Boo! 👻 It's a spooky world for the Parentified, and children of Emotionally Immature Parents🫨
31/10/2025

Boo! 👻

It's a spooky world for the Parentified, and children of Emotionally Immature Parents🫨

20/10/2025

The Earth holds wisdom, in its soil, its seasons, its capacity to renew. 🌍

It doesn’t rush to heal after a storm, it just begins again, quietly, naturally, in rhythm.

Our bodies are no different. They too remember. They too know how to mend, even when confusion, pain, or trauma make us forget. Beneath the layers of tension and story, there’s a deep intelligence within us that never stopped guiding the way.

Somatic work helps us return to that knowing. It’s not about “fixing” what’s broken, it’s about reconnecting with the body’s rhythm, the same one that mirrors the pulse of the Earth. Through breath, sensation, and gentle awareness, we begin to listen differently, and in that listening, something softens.

Healing, then, becomes less of a task and more of a remembering, a coming home to what has always been wise, capable, and whole. 🌿

Your body knows how to heal. Trust that ancient rhythm within you.

You didn’t have to be a parent to your parents to feel like you had to grow up fast.Growing up too soon takes many forms...
06/08/2025

You didn’t have to be a parent to your parents to feel like you had to grow up fast.

Growing up too soon takes many forms, and not all of them are easy to spot, as society often praises the traits that emerge as a result of having to grow up fast whilst the impact flies under the radar.

If you frequently felt like you had to stay alert for scary things, to read the mood of the room, to be small, to hold it all together. Then likely you weren’t just "helping out", you were holding it all together.

You had to grow up fast, because there was no safety and space for you to fall apart.

You were a child, but your world asked for more: To be the caregiver. The emotional anchor. The quiet one who didn’t add to the load.

While other kids played, you were scanning.
While others were messy and loud, you were composed and capable.

And that’s a loss worth grieving.
The innocence, the lightness, the mischief.
All the things you put away to survive.

If you’re tired now, it makes sense.
If you struggle to ask for help, it makes sense.
If you still carry a deep, invisible pressure to keep everything from falling apart, that makes sense too.

You were never meant to carry so much, so young. And you’re allowed to lay it down now. You deserve the support to help you do so, without losing your caring nature.

🌿 Ready to begin your healing journey?
Click the link in my bio to book a free discovery call

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The emotional anchor. The one others leaned on while you tried to keep your own head above water, stifling your own conf...
14/07/2025

The emotional anchor. The one others leaned on while you tried to keep your own head above water, stifling your own confusion and fears about the world.

You were the one who listened, soothed, showed up, even when your own heart was breaking.

And sometimes, the grief sneaks in, not just for what happened, but for what never did. The noticing, the nurturing and the right to be a child.

When rescuing and fixing becomes your identity, it’s easy to forget you were a child, not a caregiver.

Unlearning these patterns isn’t selfish. It’s the slow, sacred work of coming home to yourself.

CTA:
✨ If this resonates, you’re not alone. I support adults healing from parentification, enmeshment and relational trauma.
💌 To explore 1:1 sessions with me, visit the link in my bio.






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