16/06/2025
When You Feel Disconnected from Your Body
Have you ever felt like people only see your body—not you?
Like assumptions are made about you just because of your size, shape, curves, or skin?
Whether it’s being stared at, ignored, overs*xualised, or judged...
It can leave you feeling exposed and disconnected, like you don’t fully live in your body.
Over time, this kind of objectification can lead to hiding, numbing, or even hating the body you live in.
It makes intimacy harder.
Because if you’ve learned to disconnect just to feel safe, how do you reconnect in moments of closeness or desire?
The cost shows up in our s*x lives too:
Finding it hard to relax or feel safe during intimacy
Feeling self-conscious instead of present
Struggling to ask for what you want because you’re unsure you deserve pleasure
But healing is possible.
Here’s a simple, gentle practice to help you begin reclaiming your body and your pleasure:
Try This: Name, Reclaim, Tend
1. Name the feeling.
Say to yourself:
“I feel disconnected.”
“I’m holding shame.”
“I’m bracing for judgement.”
Naming it gives you back a sense of control and clarity.
2. Reclaim your body with touch.
Place your hand on your heart, thighs, or belly.
Remind yourself: This is my body. I live here. I am allowed to feel good here.
3. Tend to your nervous system.
Take a few slow breaths. Stretch. Sip something warm. Do something kind for your body, not just with it.
You deserve to feel at home in your body.
To experience intimacy without shame.
To be seen, not sized up.
To reconnect—not perform.
This work is not about changing your body. It’s about changing your relationship to it.
Let’s talk:
What helps you reconnect with your body after feeling disconnected?
