Zarina The Doula - providing care and support for mothers and babies

24/04/2026

This ⬇️ understand it…protect it…trust it ⬇️

26/03/2026

Those still confused…read this ⬇️

Take away her power;⁣
She’s easily manipulated. ⁣
Treat her as if something foreign is happening to her body ⁣
Like she isn't a part of it.⁣
Just an incubator. A spectator. ⁣
Waiting for the timer to “ding.”⁣
Baby is on their clock, and it’s almost dinner time, ⁣
Legs up, ⁣
Snip, pull it out. ⁣
Happy days. Healthy baby. ⁣
That’s all that matters. ⁣
⁣
She feels low;⁣
Somethings not right, ⁣
Like something was taken from her. ⁣
Don’t worry, ⁣
Numb it. ⁣
Medicate it. ⁣
And while your at it, ⁣
How about we take all her feelings away. ⁣
We will refuse to recognise our mistakes ⁣
Or be responsible for our poor education. ⁣
We will even change the records, as a team, ⁣
To ensure she doesn’t have any power. ⁣
One against all. ⁣
Because it’s just one day in her life, ⁣
Nothing to dwell on, it won’t kill her. ⁣
Either way, it doesn’t matter. ⁣
⁣
She’s just a mother. ⁣
⁣
- a story, written by the system. ⁣
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16/03/2026

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Filling the knowledge gaps in the medical field. What Doctors Don't Know About Breastfeeding by Jack Newman is available on Amazon: https://ow.ly/e6MQ50YtANU

16/03/2026

A lovely way to honour Mothers Day ⬆️

A heartfelt feedback from lovely new Mama.🥰
Many new parents are told their baby has the dreaded word Colic - a term that is often used and not much is done to help it either in general medicine! 😩
This family soon found out, a lot can be done to ease and release oral and body tension which in turn help regulate your baby’s nervous system especially after any type of birth.😮
The results were pretty immediate and they could see the difference it made to their baby’s latch and position after a few tweaks and adjustments in overall bodywork release.

Don’t you just love it when families totally just ‘get it’ - did you know bodywork is a must especially in those early days and weeks after birth
Cranial Fascia Touch Treatment is the best thing you can offer your baby. I practice The DBM Method - CFT.

Get in touch if you want to learn more or want to book
Feeling blessed, grateful and thankful 🙏🏽

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15/03/2026

This 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽

I often feel overwhelmed with the myriad things I want to say on Mother’s Day. But I think this is the most important place to begin.

My love to all. Because all women mother. All of us.

Donna ###

14/03/2026

Another Client Love 🥰 share

Another lovely Dad review not so long ago... it was such a shame they went to so many places and spaces for help and yes they googled tons too! Nothing beats a 1:1 consultation and observation from a fully certified and experienced Lactation specialist and CFT Professional to make it all make sense again.

They were both utterly exhausted by the time they found me…and I am so glad he took charge in getting better care and support for his partner. To me, this is a great partner who understood and stepped up!
We had to totally rewind and show them better techniques and ways to latch and position as well as better sleep. The CFT helped them so much more

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14/03/2026

Another lovely Dad review not so long ago…it was such a shame they went to so many places and spaces for help and yes they googled tons too! Nothing beats a 1:1 consultation and observation from a fully certified and experienced Lactation specialist and CFT Professional to make it all make sense again. They were both utterly exhausted and he was the one who took charge in getting better care and support for his partner. To me, this is a great partner who understood and stepped up! Was great seeing the significant changes with the Cranial Facsia work change the babies feeding style immediately after a few sessions.

08/03/2026

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People get mad when I say this, but here we go:
Hospitals create MORE birth emergencies than they prevent.

Not because doctors are evil… but because the system turns a normal biological process into a medical event the second you walk in the door and policies are focused on preventing them legally, not necessarily giving the most evidence based care.

Let’s talk about the #1 thing everyone thinks makes birth safer:
Continuous electronic fetal monitoring.

You know… the belts they strap on you that beep every time your baby moves?

Here’s the part nobody wants to hear:

👉 Continuous fetal monitoring increases interventions, NOT safety.
👉 It does NOT reduce cerebral palsy rates.
👉 It does NOT reduce stillbirth.
👉 It does NOT improve neonatal outcomes.

But it does increase:
• C-section rates
• Forceps/vacuum use
• “Fetal distress” diagnoses
• Unnecessary inductions
• Mom getting stuck in bed → cascade of interventions

And this isn’t crunchy opinion.
This is straight out of *decades* of data.

Studies show continuous monitoring has a significantly higher C-section rate with no decrease in adverse neonatal outcomes.

Translation?
We’re creating emergencies by looking for emergencies that aren’t there.

Once you’re strapped to the bed:
• you can’t move
• contractions hurt more
• labor stalls
• Pitocin gets started
• baby doesn’t like Pitocin
• monitors look “concerning”
• suddenly you’re “not progressing”
• and then… SURPRISE! “Emergency C-section.”

Tell me how that’s safer??

Birth works better when:
• you’re upright
• you’re not tethered to machines
• you’re not starved or dehydrated
• you can change positions
• you’re not pressured by the clock
• your hormones aren’t shut down by fear

But none of that fits inside a hospital protocol sheet.

So we pretend the medical emergency started in your body when it actually started from cascading protocols and interventions. 🫠

You want the truth?
Most “birth emergencies” in hospitals are iatrogenic… meaning created BY the system.

And every mom who’s lived both sides (hospital vs home birth) knows exactly what I mean. 🫶🏼

22/11/2025

Co sleeping is so normal in all parts of Asia…as a south asian we don’t see it as an issue or ever think of sleep training. This is clearly a western concept for the baby to fit your schedule than accepting or understanding them as individuals

Did you know that in Japan, over 70% of infants and toddlers co-sleep with their parents?

It’s not controversial.
It’s not something they hide.
It’s a tradition called *soine*, a sleep arrangement where baby sleeps between mother and father, like the character for “river.”

It’s done to promote security.
Not independence. Not training.
Security.

And in Japan, “sleep training” doesn’t even exist as a concept.
Night waking isn’t treated as a problem, no matter how a baby is fed.

Their SIDS rate?
0.2 per 1,000 births.

Compare that to the U.S., where SIDS rates are more than 30 times higher.

Some research suggests Japan’s low SIDS rate is related to their high rates of co-sleeping.

Dr. James McKenna, the world’s leading infant sleep researcher, spent 30 years studying this.
His research shows,

Babies who sleep close to their mothers have more stable breathing.
They wake more easily, which helps protect against deep, risky sleep.
Their sleep cycles sync with their mother’s.
They regulate better.
It’s not broken sleep.
It’s biologically normal sleep.

But somewhere along the way, Western culture sold us a different story:
That babies should sleep alone.
In a crib.
Through the night.
By 6 months.

That story was built in the 1950s
based on formula-feeding, isolated sleep, and adult centered routines.
It wasn’t based on biology.
It wasn’t based on connection.
And it’s not working.

Most babies don’t sleep through the night by 6 months.
Most parents who try sleep training eventually stop, because it doesn’t feel right.

Maybe the problem isn’t your baby.
Maybe it’s the expectation that babies should sleep like adults.

Your baby isn’t broken.
They’re waking because that’s what human babies do.
They’re following instincts that have kept our species alive.

Waking. Reaching. Responding.
That’s how connection grows.
That’s how brains build.
That’s what safety feels like to a baby.

So if you’re contact napping, co-sleeping
if you’re tired, touched out, and wondering if you're doing it wrong...

This is your reminder
You’re not failing.
You’re doing what humans have always done.
And your baby is doing exactly what they’re meant to do 🖤

16/11/2025

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Slate grey nevus, also known as blue-grey spots or congenital dermal melanocytosis, are a type of birthmark that are typically flat and blue-grey, or sometimes purple, in colour.

They are most common on babies with Black and Brown skin and are generally found on the sacrum and buttocks, but can also be observed on arms and legs.

Slate grey nevus are NOT bruises. They are simply the result of pigment cells, or melanocytes, not reaching the surface of the skin.⁣ They do not hurt and generally require no treatment; they often fade by the age of 4.

If you identify a slate grey nevus when doing a baby examination, or NIPE, it is important to document it. This is to avoid it later being mistaken for a bruise.

Finally - you may have heard these birthmarks called ‘Mongolian blue spots’. This is derogatory, racially insensitive terminology and should NOT be used. If you hear it used in practice, please take the time to correct it. We can all play our part in decolonising language and midwifery education.

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24/10/2025

Something that so many of us have unknowingly agreed to…sad to say