Modern Love Therapy

11/04/2026

Most of us carry something we haven’t fully made peace with when it comes to s*x. A desire we’ve kept quiet. A part of our erotic self we’ve never quite let off the hook.

Shame around s*xuality is remarkably common, and remarkably stubborn. It doesn’t always dissolve with experience, relationships, or even doing the work on yourself.

Tomorrow I’m running a two-hour online workshop exploring why s*xual shame sticks, where it comes from, and what actually shifts it. Drawing on psychodynamic theory, psychos*xual therapy, and yes, it may be a bit kinky!

Everyone welcome. No experience necessary.

Sunday 12th April, 17:00 BST. Tickets in the link in bio.

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25/11/2025

What my cat taught me about love, grief, and the parts of ourselves only animals ever see.

On the real grief of losing an animal we loved like kin.

05/07/2025

🏳️‍🌈 The Power of Communities 🏳️‍🌈

This Pride, we honour the fierce, tender, and life-saving connections that LGBTQ+ communities create every day.

In a world where q***r and trans lives are increasingly under attack from rising hate crimes to regressive laws stripping away hard-won rights, community is more than celebration. Our q***rness is not only about resistance and refuge, but also about survival.

Community is where we are witnessed without needing to explain. Where we are mirrored, held, challenged and celebrated. Whether it’s chosen family, kink scenes, q***r elders, trans collectives, or late-night group chats, community is what makes survival possible and joy sustainable.

Solidarity isn’t just a slogan. It’s the hand you hold, the boundary you defend, the love you witness, and the history you carry forward.

We don’t all love the same, live the same, or fight the same, but we show up. That is the power of the LGBTQ+ community: we carry each other when the world refuses to.

✨ This Pride, let’s honour not just visibility, but the radical care and collective strength that keep us going. Happy Pride, London. Now more than ever, thank you for reminding us that we are never alone, and never powerless when we stand together. ✨

🩷 ❤️ 🧡 💛 💚 💙 💜

🌈 ***rliberation 🌈 ***rresistance ❤️ ***rsolidarity 🌈 ***rjoy ***rjoyisresistance

21/12/2024

Relational Stresses at Christmas

During Christmas, people can often face unique relational challenges. The holiday season is meant to bring joy, but it’s often stressful for many. Family dynamics, pressure to meet everyone’s expectations, and navigating time with partners or loved ones can feel overwhelming. You might find yourself walking on eggshells around relatives, balancing family obligations with your partner’s needs, or even feeling lonely despite the festive atmosphere.

Here’s your reminder: It’s okay to prioritise your peace. Set boundaries that honour your emotional well-being, communicate openly with your partner about expectations, and give yourself permission to step away from draining situations. The holidays don’t have to be perfect—they just have to feel right for you.

What’s your biggest relational challenge during the holidays? Drop it in the comments or DM me for tips. I’m here to help you navigate this season with intention and care. 💛

24/11/2024

Still buzzing from a great day at the Kink Summit yesterday. A big thanks to my fellow speakers and workshop colleagues for doing such an amazing job at knowledge-sharing and championing kink! I am feeling inspired. Never stop learning ❤️🌈💋Thank you .and.cuddles (Lindsay Dukes) .constellationship .arcane

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