15/02/2026
I attended the most beautiful, heartfelt workshop yesterday. It was held at and was run by . Fourteen women of all ages and backgrounds sat together and discussed what it feels like to be a woman, what gives us pleasure, how we navigate life’s trials, and what our 80-year-old self would tell our current self.
It felt safe to be vulnerable, to be myself, and to say what I really felt. Working with and releasing shame is a core pillar of my practice, and it came up again and again in our discussions.
It came up for me on a handful of occasions – that voice saying, are you saying too much? Are you being too much?
I resonated with so much of what was shared. In particular, a point about how confident women who know themselves get called intimidating.
I went for pizza with a man last year who I met at a dance night in town. We sat and chatted about our lives and after about an hour he said, “You are very intimidating.” My heart sank.
From a young age, many women are subtly (and sometimes explicitly) taught to be “nice”, “non-confrontational”, “warm”, “good”. It often feels that when a woman is confident, assertive, highly competent, direct, or emotionally literate, she violates these learned expectations. Being labelled “intimidating” can therefore trigger shame because it suggests she is not fitting the socially approved feminine role.
Marianne's book Love Me is a tender and honest exploration of self-love and the gentle unravelling of the societal shame placed on women around intimacy, our bodies, and our worth. A must-read.
has some of the most exquisite lingerie to treat 'you'. A must-visit.
Now, what would my 80 year old self tell my 53 year old self?
Don’t give a F**K, just dance