Mindful Gay Sex & Intimacy Coaching

28/09/2025

Over the years I’ve got much better at being able to know what I want in the bedroom…

But that doesn’t always make it any easier to actually ask for what I want when I’m in the moment!

It’s insidious how indoctrinated most of us have been with the idea that expressing desires is ‘needy’ or ‘too much’.

But what I’ve actually found when I do manage to communicate what I want clearly is that not only do I usually get it, but the other person is appreciative of the clarity, rather than having to mindread!

If you’d like to learn and practice skills for better communication around pleasure, touch, and intimacy I can support you with that.

Find out more at my website – visit https://www.gayintimacycoach.com

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28/09/2025

Ready to transform your relationships?

Join me in Glastonbury Nov 29-30 for a 2-day experiential journey into how to create more healthy, connected relationships.

This practical workshop will give you a road map and tools to:

Get clearer about what you do and don’t want

Navigate relationships and interactions better

Understand what can trip you up in relating

It’s an introduction to the Wheel of Consent® – a simple yet powerful tool for improving boundaries, communication, and connection which many participants have called ‘life-changing’.

Fo find out more and register – check my bio – or visit: https://www.wheelofconsent.coach/glastonbury/

(This workshop is open to all genders and s-exualities)

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24/09/2025

Want more confidence, connection and fulfilment in your physical intimacy?

I can help!

Join my personalised coaching programme – details in my bio – or visit: https://www.mindfulgays*x.coach/confidence+connection

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23/09/2025

“Bis-xuality is truly a normal state for humanity. It is natural for women and men to think or fantasize about both genders. The truly rare are those who are absolute heteros-xuals or absolute homos-xuals in feeling no s-xual response in the least for the respective gender”. C C Campbell

Today is .

I truly believe that most of us are somewhere on a spectrum of bis-xuality.

I know my own journey as a ‘gay' man has become more expansive as I’ve grown older and more comfortable in my skin, and my desires.

And I wish I’d had the courage to follow the more hetero parts of me when I was younger (yes, I’ve done it the other way around to most people!)

Today I’m celebrating those who are brave enough to follow ALL their desires, no matter who they lead to.

++[ Want more of me? Get my thoughts and tips by email – or sign up at: https://michael-dresser.ck.page/38662300aa ]++

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05/09/2025

One of the things which often stops me from asking for what I really want is the fear that I might not be able to get it.

It's vulnerable to put your desires out there - and sometimes it can feel easier just not to ask, than risk hearing a 'no' to something that's important to you.

But it's important to remember that even if you're not able to get what you want that doesn't mean the desire itself isn't still a valid one.

Don't give up on it. It might be that you get a 'yes' if you ask someone different. Or if you consider different ways in which you might be able to meet that need.

It can take some practice. And I can help support you with that.

Find out more about coaching with me – visit: https://www.mindfulgays*x.coach/coaching

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31/08/2025

This training literally changed my life - and my work.

What I learned there now forms the foundation of almost everything I do with my clients (to say nothing of the incredible benefits it's brought to my personal life and relationships!).

Which is why I'm thrilled that I'm now one of the trainers delivering it - and I'll be bringing it to Zurich this October with my amazing colleague Puma Hoflich

If you hold space professionally for anyone this training is a real game-changer! It's the last time we'll be running it in Europe this year....Can you afford to miss it?

I'd love you to join us - for more info and to register visit www.schoolofconsent.org/like-a-pro


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31/12/2024

I’ve spent a lot of the past year feeling quite overwhelmed…

Some of it’s been big personal life shifts and changes, some has been the huge world events (many of which have created a lot of anxiety and fear for those of us who are q***r or working with s-x).

I notice that when I feel overwhelmed, or fearful, I tend to stop breathing properly.

So the resourcing technique I’m going to be leaning into this coming year is breath…

Finding ways to invite more breath in, and to expand it.

This is not (just) some woo-woo stuff, the science of how breath helps regulate the nervous system is very well researched and documented and breathing practices have helped me process amazing amounts of s**t in the past (not to mention helped me consciosly create some mindblowing org/smic experiences, but that’s for another post!)

Wishing more breath, and ease for us all as we navigate into the coming year.

++[ Want more of me? Get my thoughts and tips by email – sign up at: https://michael-dresser.ck.page/38662300aa ]++

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14/12/2024

When it comes to s-x and intimacy, getting consent means getting permission, right?

Yes… And that’s not all there is to it…

Read the full article at my website – https://www.mindfulgays*x.coach/why-s*x-requires-more-than-permission/

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Great s*x requires more than just getting permission. Find out about the other essential intimacy dynamic we don't even have a name for.

13/12/2024

The thing with arousl and pleasure is that they ebb and flow.

Chasing a constant peak experience is never going to work because in order to experience moments of bliss or excitement you also need to experience moments of relaxation and pause.

That’s how the body naturally works, so go with it!

Take your first step towards more connected pleasure in your life - book a free Clarity Call visit https://tidycal.com/michael-dresser/clarity-call

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12/12/2024

As I get older I find there are things that my body is no longer up for in bed the way it used to be.

But what I’ve also learned is that there’s always something else to do instead.

It could be easy to get caught up in stories about how I’m not good enough, or can’t achieve what I used to be able to.

Instead I’ve discovered that having to let go of particular outcomes, or expectations can actually be a really freeing experience because it opens me up to a whole world of alternative routes to pleasure, which I hadn’t even noticed before.

If you want to practice getting more creative with desire and pleasure get in touch!

Find out more about what’s involved in my conSensuality coaching – visit: https://www.mindfulgays*x.coach/consensuality

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10/12/2024

In my relationships - and in my work - I’ve found that good communication is about more than just the words you say…

It’s just as much about letting go of your own words, and being able to truly hear someone else’s words.

It’s a skill most of us don’t get taught - but I think it’s an essential skill if you want better relationships.

To learn more relationship and relating skills check out my website – visit https://www.gayintimacycoach.com

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06/12/2024

This sums up how I feel about my q***rness - it’s so much more than just who I go to bed with!

A big part of the integrity I feel in my q***rness is down to having spent time in spaces where all of me was welcome, and all of me was celebrated and nurtured - without judgement or shame.

And that’s one of the things I feel proudest of about what I offer in my sessions.

If that’s something you’d like to experience with me, get in touch! Check out my website - visit https://www.gayintimacycoach.com

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