Cgolding.therapy

23/12/2025

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20/11/2025

Okay, big breath here. Remember, context doesn’t excuse behavior and it also doesn’t mean you have to tolerate something forever and ever. But, I find that relationships tend to dance much better when we bring curiosity and compassion forward. VERY HARD to do when you’re feeling pushed away or activated yourself. That said, just because things are hard doesn’t mean we don’t practice them. ⁠I really want to encourage us to be relational with the people we love and care about (let’s start there!). That means holding a systemic lens, one that isn’t focused solely on the here and now or that which is only visible. It means reminding yourself of that which is invisible. All that predates this moment. Self protection is so often in the room with us. ⁠Might we begin to explore it and get curious with it.

Of course, this inquiry requires the person to be willing to go there — to self-reflect and to share it with you, but the alternative is bound to shut a convo down. “What’s wrong with you”, or even, “why do you do that?” can easily put a person on the defensive. To inquire about something from the past that doesn’t involve you is powerful. Not only do you take yourself out of the equation for a moment, you also invite them to explore themselves out of this moment as well. These reactions are historical — they’re rarely (only) about the moment happening right now, and so this question about what happened in the past that taught you to cope (self-protect/defense mechanism) is a conversation opener. Instead of only being annoyed, mad, or frustrated at the person for their behavior, we can acknowledge the brilliance of the coping strategy that once was (while also communicating that it needs an update in order to be functional and expansive in the relationship with you.) Of course, this takes work — healing our pasts, healing our nervous systems, but it’s beautiful work that absolutely can be done.

20/11/2025

You know what I love?

I love authentic conversations.

I guess that's why I love my work so much.

Being able to be present with someone willing to be vulnerable.

Then the willingness to be vulnerable myself.

And there we are - creating a space to just be seen.

Because I think for many of us, the idea of taking up space seems to be downright scary.

The idea of being too much.

Whether it's being too loud, too much or too proud

And even ironically even being too quiet?

The fear of rejection and judgment makes us weary.

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I think there's so much importance in being accepted for who we are.

Not having to try so hard to just fit in.

For it's a very lonely thing to feel sometimes.

That the only way we can be accepted is by being someone else.

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You were never meant to fit into tiny spaces.

Your feelings, your voice, your existence —
they were all meant to be seen.

But I get it, that might seem impossible to some of out there.

Especially if we've been hurt before for just being "me".

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To you out there, I want you to know that that shouldn't have happened.

That the world shouldn't fall apart when you show up as yourself.

I hope you continue, to be authentically yourself.

The wrong people will leave.

But the right ones will come in.

P. S. Forgive yourself for the times you didn't know better. Aren't we all on a learning journey together too?

It's not your fault that no one ever taught you what's right or what's wrong - you did what you had to fit in. And my biggest hope is don't give up on that part which is truly yourself.

You can be loved.

You will be loved.

Just as you are.

You deserve to be seen.

Take care,
Hernping

20/11/2025

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We shared our new animation ‘Room for an elephant’ with our group for young people and asked them what people did that helped them in the grief (written in blue) and what didn’t help (written in red).

For more tips from young people on what can help when you’re grieving 👉childbereavementuk.org/support-tips

20/11/2025

Celebrating the quiet progress, the invisible growth, the stuff nobody else notices. You're doing better than you think you are. I'm genuinely proud of you. YOU ARE AMAZING.

20/11/2025

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06/11/2025

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— still healing. 🍃