23/04/2024
It’s Black Maternal Health week and one of the themes is birth trauma. Birth Trauma is Feeling...
Unheard because no one listened
Powerless as you had no options
Left out of decisons that affected you
Unsupported
Hurt because you have no idea why things happened
In the dark because no one explained
Disconnected from your baby
Disconnected from your partner emotionally or sexually
Scared to have another baby because of what happened last time
Broken mentally or physically
Upset, angry or triggered by your experience
Sad, low or depressed
Guilty that you aren’t happy
It doesn’t matter how or where you birthed, it’s about how you were made to feel, and if it felt traumatic to you, then that’s it.
So if you have feelings like these, at any point before or after having your baby, know that you are not alone. Don’t push your feelings down or try to avoid them, because these big, valid feelings can spread through your life and into your future. They can become an unwelcome part of your everyday or go in deep, only to pop up years later. But there is hope.
Take the hard first step to acknowledge them and start to take back control. Look for support, whether physical or mental. There is so much help out there
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And even if you don’t want to open up to someone or talk, there are other ways to help you release, easing the intensity of the experience and bringing closure. I’m here if you want to know more about the gentle 3 step trauma rewind process.
