07/09/2025
✨ The Wound of Never Being Enough, and the Freedom Beyond It
There’s a wound many carry in silence: the wound of never being enough for the very person you needed most.
Maybe you grew up with a parent who never said “I’m proud of you.”
Who dismissed you at the table.
Who only praised you when it reflected well on them.
You watched other children be praised for their grades, their beauty, their achievements, while you were met with silence, or worse, with ridicule.
You learned that love had conditions:
obedience, performance, perfection.
Anything less brought shame.
That wound of “never enough” runs deep. It shapes the way you see yourself, the way you love, even the way you silence your own brilliance.
You may spend years auditioning for approval that never arrives.
But then, one day, something shifts.
You stop asking.
You stop auditioning.
You stop collapsing every time someone withholds love.
For a while, the grief runs deeper. There is mourning in realising you may never hear the words you longed for.
Yet beyond the grief lies something rare:
Freedom.
The freedom to stop performing, to stop shrinking, to stop waiting for their validation to make you whole.
🌿 If you’re at this threshold, here are ways to begin reclaiming yourself:
Name the wound clearly: “I was never affirmed. I was belittled. That wasn’t my fault.” Naming truth breaks denial.
Release it through the body: tremoring, breathwork, or even pressing your palms against a wall signals to your nervous system: “I am no longer trapped.”
Speak the words they never could: look in the mirror and say, “I see you. You are brilliant. You are beautiful. You are enough.”
Choose safe circles: seek spaces where your voice is honoured, not erased.
This is the heart of my work at Soma Shakti Healing. Through 1:1 holistic therapy, my upcoming Root to Rise healing retreat and my Signature Immersions, I guide people out of the cycle of invisibility and into a life where their body, their voice, and their truth finally lead the way.
💫 If these words resonate, know this:
you are not broken for needing approval. You were wired for it. Healing begins when you stop chasing what cannot be given and begin offering it to yourself.
You are not here to be small.
You are here to rise.
Email:
contact@somashaktihealing.com to schedule your free telephone consultation.
With love and warmth
Gia 🙏🏼