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01/08/2025

This one really touched me. Sometimes the biggest shifts happen quietly — in the way we speak, the way we soften, the way we show up at home.

I’m so honoured to witness this kind of transformation. It’s not just about healing yourself… it’s about changing the energy around you too.

Thank you for trusting me with your journey. 💖

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01/08/2025

28/07/2025

✨ Root to Rise 2025 is here! ✨Four days of soul-nourishing ceremonies, sound healing under the stars, and moments that reconnect you to you. This isn’t just a retreat — it’s a reset for your mind, body, and spirit in the heart of Italy.Are you ready to rise? 🌿DM for details!!

26/07/2025

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Welcome to the Root to Rise community — I’m so glad you’re here!

This group is a gentle space for those interested in our upcoming women’s retreat, a place to stay connected, ask questions, feel inspired, and share the journey as details unfold. Whether you’re already planning to come or just curious, you’re very welcome.

I'll be updating this space with behind-the-scenes glimpses, itinerary updates, early bird info, and little nourishing prompts along the way.

Feel free to introduce yourself, share where you’re at in your own healing or self-discovery journey (if that feels right), or just sit back and soak it all in.

This is a space of softness, courage, and connection.

🌸 Root to Rise
🌀 Reconnect. Realign. Remember who you are.

With love,
Gia x

24/07/2025

7 Signs You’re Carrying All the Emotional Weight — and Your Body Knows It
By Gia | LONDON TALK THERAPY

There’s a kind of tiredness that doesn’t show on your face.
It settles quietly in your nervous system.

You’re smiling, managing, holding space… but deep down, your body is whispering: this is too much.

If you’re the one who senses the tension, starts the hard conversations, soothes their emotions, and always feels more tuned in than seen — this is for you.

✨ Here’s what emotional weight can feel like:

You notice everything, even when nothing is said
You initiate the deep talks
You express a need, then end up comforting them
You hold their emotions but yours go unnamed
You’re admired for your strength but rarely supported
You feel more like a therapist than a partner
You carry resentment — then shame for feeling it
This isn’t overthinking. This is your body asking for balance.

Start with breath.
Place one hand on your heart. One on your belly.
Ask gently — what am I holding that isn’t mine?

🌹 Inside LTT, we create sacred, intuitive spaces for women who are ready to reclaim their softness and come home to themselves.

🌀 DM or email contact@londontalktherapy.com to book a 1:1 session, join our Root to Rise retreat in Italy, or explore the work in a way that feels safe for you.

24/07/2025

7 Signs You’re Doing All the Emotional Labour and What to Do About It

Let’s be real, carrying the emotional weight of a relationship on your own is exhausting.

You’re the one who brings up the hard conversations.
You notice the tension before it explodes.
You manage the mood, the tone, the aftermath, sometimes even their feelings for them.
It’s quiet, constant work that doesn’t always get acknowledged, let alone shared.

If this sounds familiar, here are 7 signs the emotional labour might be falling entirely on you and what you can do about it.

1. You’re the first to notice when things feel “off”
You sense the emotional undercurrent, even when your partner insists everything’s fine. You often bring it up, only to be dismissed or told you’re “overthinking.”

What to do: Your emotional radar is not the problem. Their avoidance is. Name the pattern. Ask if they’re willing to build emotional awareness together and be honest with yourself about their answer.

 2. You do the repair work after every argument
Even when you're not the one who escalated it, you're the one who softens the blow, smooths things over, and makes peace happen.

What to do: Stop rushing to fix it. Let them sit with the consequences. Healthy relationships require shared accountability, not emotional clean-up on aisle you.

3. You manage both your feelings and theirs
You downplay your stress so you don’t “add to their load.” You sense their upset before they even speak. You change your tone, words, or timing to prevent them from getting reactive.

What to do: Emotional regulation is a two-way street. You are not their therapist. Let go of managing their discomfort and start honouring your own.

4. You’ve tried to raise issues, but it always backfires
Whenever you express a need or concern, they deflect. Maybe they get defensive, shut down, or even make it about you being “too sensitive.”

What to do: This is emotional deflection, not dialogue. If healthy conversations aren’t possible, it’s time to re-evaluate whether this is a partnership or emotional survival mode.

5. You feel more like a caregiver than an equal
You're constantly supporting them through stress, insecurity, family issues but when you need support? It feels inconvenient or too much.

What to do: A one-sided dynamic isn’t sustainable. Start by asking: Is this love, or is this emotional caretaking in disguise?

6. Your body is carrying the stress
Tired all the time. Trouble sleeping. Anxiety in your chest before they even walk into the room. Your nervous system is working overtime.

What to do: Your body’s trying to get your attention. Listen. Start with boundaries energetic, emotional, physical. Then build support outside the relationship where you feel safe being held.

7. You feel resentful — and then guilty for feeling that way
You’re emotionally tired.
You’ve tried to explain, tried to show up, tried to be understanding.
You’re not perfect — but you’re trying.

The resentment creeps in quietly.
You find yourself irritated by small things. You overthink. You shut down.
Then the guilt rolls in “Maybe I’m being too much. Maybe I’m the problem.”

But here’s the truth:

Resentment is often a sign that you’ve over-given without receiving.

It’s your body and soul saying, “This isn’t sustainable.”

You’re allowed to feel that.

You’re allowed to want more.

You’re allowed to stop over-functioning.

So what can you do about it?

First, name it.
You’re not being too sensitive or dramatic.
You’re recognising an emotional imbalance — and that matters.

Then ask yourself:

Am I the only one doing the emotional work?
What would change if I stopped managing it all?
Is my partner willing (and able) to meet me halfway?
Sometimes we stay in over-functioning mode because we’re afraid of what will happen if we don’t.
But doing all the emotional labour isn’t love — it’s self-abandonment.
And healing means stepping out of that role — one honest, grounded decision at a time.

When you're ready, there’s a way out — and you don’t have to do it alone.

🖤 London Talk Therapy supports emotionally intelligent women who are tired of carrying it all. We help you set boundaries, find clarity, and reconnect to your sense of power — without guilt.

📩 DM or email contact@londontalktherapy.com to book a clarity session or explore how this work can support you.





















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23/07/2025

5 Signs You’re Stuck in Fake Progress

“Don’t confuse movement with progress.”
– Denzel Washington

It’s a simple truth… and a powerful wake-up call.

In my work with high-performing professionals, this line hits home more often than you’d think. People are exhausted — not from failure, but from constantly moving with no real progress.

Here are five signs you might be caught in that cycle:

1. You’re Always Busy, Rarely Clear
Meetings. Messages. Tasks.
But ask yourself — What’s actually moving the needle?
Busy doesn’t equal impact. It often means you’re distracted from what matters.

2. You’re Stuck in Reaction Mode
You’re handling problems, smoothing tension, making things work — but at what cost?
If everything feels urgent, your leadership gets diluted. True strategy needs space.

3. You’ve Confused Motion for Momentum
Movement without direction is just burnout in disguise.
It might look productive from the outside — but inside, you’re running on fumes.

4. You Don’t Feel Safe Resting
High achievers often treat stillness like a threat.
In reality, rest is a leadership tool. It resets the nervous system and unlocks clarity.

5. You Look Fine, But Feel Numb
From the outside, your life works.
On the inside? Something’s missing.
That disconnect is the invitation — not the failure.

If you’re an HR decision-maker, your team is likely facing this right now.
If you’re an individual who looks put-together but feels misaligned — you’re not alone.

🖋️ DM to book a private 1:1 call or a corporate discovery session for your team.

Fahreen Jon

23/07/2025

5 Signs You’re Stuck in Fake Progress

“Don’t confuse movement with progress.”
– Denzel Washington

It’s a simple truth… and a powerful wake-up call.

In my work with high-performing professionals, this line hits home more often than you’d think. People are exhausted — not from failure, but from constantly moving with no real progress.

Here are five signs you might be caught in that cycle:

1. You’re Always Busy, Rarely Clear
Meetings. Messages. Tasks.
But ask yourself — What’s actually moving the needle?
Busy doesn’t equal impact. It often means you’re distracted from what matters.

2. You’re Stuck in Reaction Mode
You’re handling problems, smoothing tension, making things work — but at what cost?
If everything feels urgent, your leadership gets diluted. True strategy needs space.

3. You’ve Confused Motion for Momentum
Movement without direction is just burnout in disguise.
It might look productive from the outside — but inside, you're running on fumes.

4. You Don’t Feel Safe Resting
High achievers often treat stillness like a threat.
In reality, rest is a leadership tool. It resets the nervous system and unlocks clarity.

5. You Look Fine, But Feel Numb
From the outside, your life works.
On the inside? Something’s missing.
That disconnect is the invitation — not the failure.

If you’re an HR decision-maker, your team is likely facing this right now.
If you're an individual who looks put-together but feels misaligned — you’re not alone.

🖋️ DM to book a private 1:1 call or a corporate discovery session for your team.

Fahreen Jon

21/07/2025

🧠 Why Do Baby Girls Push Mummy Away?

You’ve seen the videos — a toddler girl shoving Mum aside to snuggle into Dad’s arms. The comments laugh it off:

“She’s territorial already!”
“Daddy’s girl activated!”

Cute? Maybe.
But there’s something deeper happening.

👧 This Is More Than Jealousy
Around 18 months to 3 years, toddlers start exploring identity and emotional roles. When they see affection between parents, they often insert themselves — not to steal love, but to understand where they belong in it.

This is called triangulation — and it’s a normal, rich part of attachment development.

🪞 They Learn Through Mirroring
At this age, love = touch, closeness, attention.
So when Daddy hugs Mummy, the child wants to join in — or take over. It’s their way of mapping safety and connection.

But when we laugh or praise this as rivalry, we may unknowingly teach:

⚠️ Love is limited
⚠️ Attention must be earned
⚠️ Affection means competition

💬 Instead, Try This:
🫶 “There’s room for all of us.”
🗣️ “You really wanted Daddy’s attention, huh?”
⏳ “You’ll get your cuddle in a moment, sweetheart.”

Model inclusive love.
Name the emotion.
Hold boundaries without blame.

💡 These moments shape beliefs.
Especially for girls, early dynamics can plant subtle ideas about worth, competition, and emotional safety.

Let’s teach them love isn’t a triangle.
It’s a circle.
There’s space for everyone inside it.

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If you’re navigating tricky family dynamics or childhood triggers, I can help.

📩 contact@londontalktherapy.com
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21/07/2025

🧠 When Baby Girls Push Mummy Away: What’s Really Going On?

You may have seen those popular videos, little girls pushing their mothers off their fathers and taking their place in his arms. The comments are usually full of laughs. “She’s already territorial.” “Daddy’s girl activated.” People find it cute, even funny.

I see something else.

As a therapist and healer, I look beyond the surface. These moments are emotionally rich. What might look like a toddler’s cheeky play can also offer a glimpse into early attachment, boundary testing, and identity formation.

This isn’t about judging or worrying. It’s about understanding. When we understand, we can guide more consciously.

👧 What’s Actually Happening?
Between 18 months and 3 years, toddlers begin to experiment with identity. They notice affection, observe social roles, and begin placing themselves in the emotional map of their caregivers.

When a child sees one parent hugging the other, they often want to join in or take over. This is called triangulation. It’s a healthy part of social development, where the child interacts not only with individuals, but with the bond between others.

They are not trying to steal love. They are trying to understand where they belong within it.

British psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott once said, “There is no such thing as a baby, there is only a baby and someone.” That someone is usually the mother or a primary caregiver. Later, the child starts to explore how love works between other people and how they can fit into it.

🔍 This Is Emotional Mapping, Not Just Possessiveness
What some label as jealousy is often a developing sense of self and relational power. Children may:

Assert their connection to a parent
Test emotional boundaries
Mimic behaviours they associate with love and safety
At this age, children learn through mirroring. If a child sees that love involves physical closeness and touch, they naturally want to take part.

This becomes even more layered for girls. In many cultures, young girls are praised for being attached to their fathers, and subtly encouraged to see their mothers as emotional rivals. While this may seem harmless, it can plant early seeds of emotional competition.

💬 What We Should Avoid
Laughing it off with comments that imply rivalry
Praising behaviour that excludes or displaces another parent
Reinforcing the idea that love is a prize to be won or defended
These moments teach children about emotional dynamics. They begin forming beliefs about love, value, and self-worth.

🛠️ What Helps: Conscious, Simple Responses
Model inclusive love.
Invite the child in. “There’s room for all of us here. We’re a family.” This teaches that love expands rather than excludes.

Name the feeling.
“You really wanted Daddy’s attention, didn’t you? That’s okay.” Emotional literacy grows when children feel seen and safe.

Hold your ground gently.
“Daddy and I are having a moment. You’ll get your cuddle in just a second.” Boundaries don’t need to feel like rejection.

Don’t validate emotional rivalry.
Avoid celebrating behaviours that create competition or reward displacement.

Offer quality one-on-one time.
Each parent can make space for solo bonding with the child. When they know their needs will be met, they feel safer in shared space too.

👩‍👧 These Are the Early Lessons
When toddlers are allowed or encouraged to displace others for affection, it can create unconscious patterns that last. A child might begin to believe:

Love is limited
You must compete to be seen
There is more safety in exclusivity than connection
Writer and activist bell hooks reminds us that “love and abuse cannot coexist.” She also reminds us that love must include justice and respect. Even at the youngest ages, children benefit from experiencing love that is grounded, inclusive, and emotionally honest.

This isn’t about overanalyzing a sweet moment. It’s about noticing what’s really being learned underneath the laughter.

🌱 Let’s Teach Something Different
Love is not a triangle. It is a circle. There is space for everyone inside it.

These moments are not problems to fix, but invitations to lead with awareness. They offer a chance to teach boundaries without blame, and affection without exclusion.

Children are watching. They are learning how love feels, how safety is created, and what relationships mean.

We don’t need to be perfect. We just need to be present and conscious of the stories we allow to take root.

🙏🏼Gia😊

Email : contact@londontalktherapy.com if you are struggling or feeling unsure about how to deal with this.

19/07/2025

Part Two: What They Don’t Understand About Mother Wounds

“Yeah, but she’s your mum.”
That phrase has shut down more conversations than it’s helped.

It implies that motherhood grants immunity.
That giving birth excuses emotional volatility.
That genetics equals a lifetime of unquestioned loyalty — regardless of impact.

Let’s be clear:
Being a mother doesn’t mean she was emotionally regulated.
It doesn’t mean she was psychologically safe.
It doesn’t mean she had the capacity to nurture, protect, or repair.

And being a daughter doesn’t mean you’re obligated to absorb harm in silence.

“It’s not her fault — she didn’t know better.”
Possibly true.
But even if she didn’t have the tools,
even if her behaviour was a product of her own unhealed trauma —
the impact remains.

You can understand her story and still need distance.
You can feel compassion and still need boundaries.
You can acknowledge her pain and still prioritise your own nervous system.

Healing doesn’t require the approval of others.
It doesn’t demand that you soften your truth to comfort those who weren’t there.
And it certainly doesn’t mean you have to pretend your mother was someone she wasn’t.

She may be your mother.
That doesn’t mean she was safe.
That doesn’t mean she was kind.
That doesn’t mean she was right.

Your responsibility now is to become your own safe space.
To unlearn what was modelled.
To rebuild what was never given.

If this resonates, you’re not alone.
This is the deep work — and it matters.

contact@londontalktherapy.com

When you’re ready, there’s a way out — and you don’t have to do it alone.

All content © London Talk Therapy. Please credit when sharing.

19/07/2025

Part Two: What They Don’t Understand About Mother Wounds

“Yeah, but she’s your mum.”
That phrase has shut down more conversations than it’s helped.

It implies that motherhood grants immunity.
That giving birth excuses emotional volatility.
That genetics equals a lifetime of unquestioned loyalty — regardless of impact.

Let’s be clear:
Being a mother doesn’t mean she was emotionally regulated.
It doesn’t mean she was psychologically safe.
It doesn’t mean she had the capacity to nurture, protect, or repair.

And being a daughter doesn’t mean you’re obligated to absorb harm in silence.

“It’s not her fault — she didn’t know better.”
Possibly true.
But even if she didn’t have the tools,
even if her behaviour was a product of her own unhealed trauma —
the impact remains.

You can understand her story and still need distance.
You can feel compassion and still need boundaries.
You can acknowledge her pain and still prioritise your own nervous system.

Healing doesn’t require the approval of others.
It doesn’t demand that you soften your truth to comfort those who weren’t there.
And it certainly doesn’t mean you have to pretend your mother was someone she wasn’t.

She may be your mother.
That doesn’t mean she was safe.
That doesn’t mean she was kind.
That doesn’t mean she was right.

Your responsibility now is to become your own safe space.
To unlearn what was modelled.
To rebuild what was never given.

If this resonates, you’re not alone.
This is the deep work — and it matters.

contact@londontalktherapy.com

When you're ready, there’s a way out — and you don’t have to do it alone.

All content © London Talk Therapy. Please credit when sharing.